Blog Entries tagged 'planning my new life'

10 months on.....

flopsybunny_uk@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Just another 8 weeks to go until my divorce papers can be submitted to the court. Under Scottish Law, and with the simplified process, the soonest one can submit divorce papers is under the 12 months non-cohabitation clause. Well, it’s now been 10 months since he left, so just another 8 short weeks until I can request that our marriage is declared legally ended.

The house is on the market, and I’ve n [...]

Monday

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Blog Woke up - really ok

Went to work early - Charlotte was in!!

Trying to plan life and get moving in right direction: ----

1. Ring Halifax to find out how much I can have - bloody useless - can't book me an appointment as don't have any (implied because of credit crunch).

2. Gave Charlotte a letter requesting different start and finish times so I can pick up Georgia as she is upset. Don't think she will buy this and Georgia is 13 so can't g [...]

My first entry

satoko_t12@hotmail.com — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

To make me concentrate on recovering, I will start this blog.

As ppl here are so nice and experienced something very difficult, I always feel better and feel positive after chatting ppl in here.

At the moment, I'm trying to deal with my depression and do better on my work.

In this summer, I was flirty and I did enojoy summer itself.

Thinking last summer, I cried everyday and felt no hope, I appreciate this.

Now summer's gone and I don't feel like flir [...]

Trying to let go and move on

dawnuk57@yahoo.com — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

We lived together 3 years, bought a nice house and got married. We didnt have children as i couldn't stay pregnant for long, always miscarried around 8 weeks! Hubby had 4 kids from 1st marriage and we all got on pretty well, they stayed with us some weekends & on holidays, they lived away so contact wasnt constant.

I thought we happy together on the whole, despite his problems with alcohol & pill addiction (codeine dependency).

I encouraged him to leave his employmennt [...]

Court preparation

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Getting ready for first court hearing this week. Have got all the papers in order and seeing solicitor tomorrow to ensure that we have our arguments straight. We have a lot to do to convince the court that my application for joint residence should be granted. Will probaly seek a welfare report as well as Cafcass seem to have ignore what they were being told. In fact their report is so feeble it is of no help to anyone, including the court. Just [...]

Some great news:-D

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Wow, I had said before my life changes direction every few hours at the moment. Well after his declaration of his way or the highway which I said in your dreams matey to and then told him if he was to stand any chance of working things out then he and the bartart couldn't even be friends, I also said I needed space and didn't want to see him - so last night (without telling me) he went to see her and told her he was going to work it out with me and would not see her anymore even in a [...]

Strange days.

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

What weird days these are. I think I am coming out the other end, I woke up this morning and didn't think I want to die, I felt calm. I really did want not to be alive on many days but I kept coming to wiki and peeps always picked me up. Hopefully no panic attacks today either. This improvement can't be the pills yet as they haven't had time to kick in yet. I think the fact I have now been open with the gp about how I feel and taken control has made me feel better. I first th [...]

Grey nothing

annpawley@btinternet.com — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

What is it with these emotions? I have just spent the last few weeks feeling positive about the future, when suddenly today I wake up flat, empty and numb. It is bewildering. There has been no crisis or legal wrangling; no contact problems or emotional manipulation. Just me.

I think I might prefer anger or anxiety (not sure it's true, but today I do think that). You can see what you're up against then; they have substance, something to oppose. This feels like fog closing ro [...]

Don't have an affair

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

When I met up with Bob on Tuesday, it was the first time for a while.

I'd been keen to fill him in on the latest, the latest being the fact that I'd found support in this website.

For a long time I've been thinking of having an affair. It would be my way of demonstrating to myself that not all women were as selfish, unreasonable and controlling as the one I'd married.

There are special websites for married people who want to have an extramarital affair, but w [...]

My need to focus on the future

juliet.steven@tiscali.co.uk — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi!

Right now I feel empty. My son goes back to school tomorrow & I go back to work. It seemed like I was looking forward to having this time off for ages & it has been great, giving me time to breathe & think (& spend time in Wiki!). I have noticed a change in my son too. He seems a lot calmer & happier than he has been for ages- I'm sure that just seeing me less stressed has contributed greatly to his well being. Now that the holidays are over, I am feel [...]

getting a few things moved on and sorted out.

pinkymalmalred@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have been talking to s2bx on the phone, after trying unsucessfully for a face to face meeting.After I found out that he missed a few payments on the life insurance policy and mortgage I wanted to know what was happening,as I don't want the house repossessed and if either of us drop down dead the life insurance to be paid out.Finally sorted it out with him and he had been arranging to pay the outstanding payments back.So that is a weight off my mind, even though I find it hard to trust h [...]

getting in touch

annpawley@btinternet.com — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

My new motto ....never turn down an opportunity to connect. (Does not apply to stbx though)

It's funny how sometimes things happen and you just feel the timing is so spot on, it must mean something. So it seemed very fitting when an e-mail from Friends Reunited popped into my inbox today announcing a profile update on an old friend. We were best friends at school, but have really only exchanged Christmas cards since.

The last few days I have been thinking how m [...]

Motorbikes I love them!

sally.stevens@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

India week 2

Decided to move in with the cockroach after all, as the rooms got a nice balcony and view of the pool and palm trees, not bad for £7. I'm guessing that's why the cockroach chose it, but no signs of him yet. So it's my 4th room in 7 days, not sure it's worth unpacking.

For those that asked, the weather is great with mostly blue sky it's hot, not sure how hot but unfortunately 90% humidity. Got to s [...]

In Bluer Skies

flopsybunny_uk@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I debated as to whether or not to write this blog, felt it wasn’t of significance to others, but its important to me, and hey, this is my blog after all!

The past few weeks have been well, life changing to say the least. I had my head firmly stuck in the sand, and couldn’t see the point in removing it. Its better just to stay there and not deal with emotions, right?

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Feeling a little guilty today

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Good morning (or afternoorn or even evening, depending on when this is read) to my Wiki Blog, and all who read it.

I have a little confession to make. I feel a guilty today, really guilty.

The thing is - last week I joined up, and I seem to have done nothing else other than to slate off one person. My wife.

Now, don't get me wrong, there were no untruths whatsoever in what I wrote, and part of me feels that she deserves a bloody good dressing down, but I don't think [...]

Smiling again

andrewarmstrong82@btinternet.com — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

The quietman is back almost to his old self. I have been the happiest man on this planet for the last two months. Children have all made contact with me and having been a good boy and kept my mouth shut, courts have backed off. I am so happy. My two sons have become men. My eldest son turns eighteen this month and his seventeen year brother has left home and moved back to Cornwall. I have spoken on the phone to my youngest daughter and although it left me in tears, Iwas crying for joy. I [...]

More stupid mess

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well still in a mess. Still was hoping. Next installment. He turned up just gone 11am on his birthday, I had no idea what was happening. He said what did I want to do. He was feeling ill so didn't want to do much but wanted to spend day with me. Not kids but me. Kids didn't really want to see him so no issue there. We took dog out for long walk then came back and I made up picnic as a buffet at home. Then chilled in lovely sun in the garden and talked and laughed. He went off about 5 [...]

Mother and Wife similarities

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I'm sure I've heard it said that men marry women that remind them of their mother's. I could be wrong, but somewhere in my sub-concious I've heard that said.

So, what is my mother like?

Well, just about everyone that should be dear to her has walked away from her.

Her husband, her children and her grandchildren. All have either left her or have distanced themselves from her. That's a lot of people, 13 in all.

If I was here, I'd be staring to loo [...]

Hello, and probably goodbye

matt@chaos.org.uk — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I haven't been here for a while. I've been having too much fun.

So, where am I now?

When I first arrived here in February, or whenever it was a lifetime ago, I was a total mess. My wife was throwing me out, and it felt like twenty years was just counting for nothing. I was still in love with her, and I couldn't see a future without her.

Now, six months or so later, I'm a changed man. Happy, lively, confident, and enj [...]

finding my sense of fun

annpawley@btinternet.com — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

It's been a good day on the whole. I have talked on the phone to the kids and they are fine. They talk about lots of things, except one. No mention of the flooosie. You'd think she wasn't there!

I 've been thinking about what the new situation might mean (with regards to her existence being known to the kids) . Dodgy ground. It is possible she will start making an appearance at activities when he's with the kids and I will have to cope with seeing her on my ter [...]