Blog Entries tagged 'new relationships'

Trying to let go and move on

dawnuk57@yahoo.com — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

We lived together 3 years, bought a nice house and got married. We didnt have children as i couldn't stay pregnant for long, always miscarried around 8 weeks! Hubby had 4 kids from 1st marriage and we all got on pretty well, they stayed with us some weekends & on holidays, they lived away so contact wasnt constant.

I thought we happy together on the whole, despite his problems with alcohol & pill addiction (codeine dependency).

I encouraged him to leave his employmennt [...]

house!!!

joanna.reeves@ntlworld.com — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Wednesday I got a call from the housing association saying they might have a house for me!!.. its being refurbished, new bathroom, new kitchen.. I'm very excited and a bit worried that I won't get it. OMG I so hope I get it....fresh start for me and the kids!!!!

Its been awful walking on eggshells here for the last few months in the middle of a divorce and still living with HIM!! ugh.. the kids have suffered as he has been telling them its "all my fault" even though he [...]

How have we come to this

debbie.nuttall@redmayne.co.uk — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I am not sure how I am going to get through this but feel writing it down might help! To all you readinbg this sorry for going on...

I have been with my husband for 25 years in all and married 18 years. For the last 8 years he was on the internet 'chatting' to other women and left me and the kids 4 years ago for another woman but after 5 weeks came back and said he loved me. Foolishly I took him back but he refused to go to Relate and we carried on from th [...]

What a difference

emdbld@live.co.uk — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Have had a good week. I feel relaxed, normal and happy. STBX has been out of the country and is way too tight to text anything from abroad, so I have had more breathing space and peace than I have had for the last eight months or more. I realise that I still have a huge way to go until this feeling is more or less the norm, but it has really given me some strength and time to gather myself for the forthcoming year or more.

At the beginning of all this (Oct 06) I was so dismayed when pe [...]

Much better

emdbld@live.co.uk — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Have had two great days with no crap and feel quite good! (apart from boiler not working and constant torrential rain) I am a happy bunny.

Know that STBX has managed to find himself a GF from the tinternet and I am so happy I hi-fived myself when I 'accidentally' found out! Yey! HOPEFULLY this will mean that he will have more time to concentrate on woooing her than dreaming up more jealous drivvel to dish out.

My lover has announced that he is taking me for a road trip t [...]

Finally It's All Over

dragonheart196@hotmail.com — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

The last few months have flown by since i last wrote on my blog. I'm still with my wonderful fella from Chelmsford and the relationship is going from strength to strength. Hopefully moving down to be with him permantly in October, once my daughter has settled in with her long-term boyfriend. My house sold last Friday 30th May and should get the pennies from the sale today. Not much consideing what i put into the property but at least i wont owe on the mortgage. What rogues [...]

missing chat

yeahyeaha2@aol.com — Sun, 25 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

hi guys

just wanted to say a big hello to everyone, its been hard staying out of chat, now that i cant get in there i realise how much i miss it and what a support everyone in there is to me. my pc playing up and although wiki has given me advice on what to do im still not able to get in.

im still going through a tough time with the exs new partner and wishing it would all blow over, its hard when you have nobody to talk too.

well at last we all get the chance to meet up, im [...]

Ex's mind

vijay.khullar@btconnect.com — Sun, 11 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

It is weird in more ways than one to try to understand what exactly somebody is after.

On the telephone conversation regarding the holiday arrangements for the kids, there slipped in a request from my ex that her car is too old, has no power steering and as she has to do all the running around for the kids would I be able to help out with an interest free loan for her to buy a new one.

Now I dont begrudge helping a fellow human being who needs help but I do wonder where was she [...]

Despair

nicky372737@hotmail.com — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Getting out of a terrible marriage was just the beginning, and I thought that was the difficult part. Today, 18 months more or less since we offically parted, and several months down the road of a fantastic new relationship, I am still shedding too many tears. Not for him, but in response to his behaviour which still manages to produce this response. Why, why, why does he want to continuously disrupt my and the children's lives with his horrendous penny pinching despite being a GP on 100k? I [...]

starting again

a_willis4@sky.com — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi,

my sister said when men new i was single again they would come out of woodwork.

There is a guy at work who i have flirted with, but cos i was "married" i did not do anything but now i am singke we both want to take it further ! Its just i am his boss and it cud jespodise mynjob but i need and want this guy, can we have fun and then walk away or am i too emotional to make a call?

help I have never felt so alive as the last 2 days !

need some advice

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It gets brighter

ros.rwa@btinternet.com — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Today is agood day ...

I am feeling a totally different person. What has caused this -

my counsellor saying one thing

"when are you going to say thank you to Jane"

What say thank you to the woman who took my husband, who lied and cheated and broke my family up ...

But wait he is right.

She did me a huge favour probably the biggest favour anyone in my life is going to do...

I would never have left my husband, I would have taken him back [...]

First contact in nearly 3 months!

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well today was the first day that my children have seen their dad in nearly 3 months. I kept my 1 year old at home as she was not very well and 7 hrs away from me would have been too much for everyone.

Ok, so everyone is waiting for the fireworks but thankfully there were none. It all seems to have gone smoothly. I handed them over in Tesco Car Park and collected them at the same place. We even agreed to an extra hour on Friday as there is no school.

Hopefully, come Friday my 1 ye [...]

A whirlwind and a Tornado

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So, I met the man of my dreams yesterday. After an initial few minutes of awkwardness you would expect from meeting anyone for the first time it just felt like we had known each other forever. We had a walk along the beach and I really feel like the old Sarah found herself again. I could be myself, my real self; I didn't have to hold back. He would tell you I am mad, but I hope a good mad. He is the whole package; the chemistry was so definitely there too. He makes me feel so alive, so wa [...]

Introducing New Partners

pjismyboo@hotmail.com — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Can't remember where I got this information from now think it was from another website but having chatted with members in the forum this afternoon thought it might be useful to post here. Obviously it is written for the scenario of men introducing their children to new partners but is equally appropriate for women introduing their children to new partners too.

One of the most stressful things you can do as a separated father is to introduce your children to your new pa [...]

Dating after Divorce

annie.oneill@newhorizons.uk.com — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

The first and most important thing to do before you start dating again is to learn to love yourself. If you are not happy with yourself you cannot expect someone else to be able to make you happy. Happiness comes from within.

If you do not love yourself, ask yourself why and make some changes in your life.

If you have low self-esteem try writing a list of all the things that you know you are good at, list everything (good friend, good parent, good cook, good timekeeper, good organ [...]

Next week - opposite ends of the spectrum

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Wow, next week is going to be such a mix of emotions!

Tuesday, well this determines whether the smiles keep coming for a very long time or not. I believe now, that this is almost a forgone conclusion, but nothing is ever certain in life. But I am as certain as anyone can be that life is going to get a whole lot better. Watch this space!

well at the other end of the spectrum, Wednesday sees me attending court in Norwich 25 miles away for a Contested Interim Contact Hearing, which h [...]

Still smiling.............!!

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Sorry, this may be in poor taste as so many people are on here because they are going through hell. Believe me, I have had my share of hell and it is by no means over, but today I feel I can deal with anything and everything.

I am still smiling, despite my solicitor being evasive and not doing my statement for my contested interim contact hearing which was supposed to be lodged with the court yesterday. What can I do? I guess being legally aided you just have to get in line with all the [...]

How it all began

martboy1@btinternet.com — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I would describe myself as a confident happy person, loved being around people talking to them (hence my job as a receptionist) when I was 23 i met a guy couple of years younger than me we got it together bought a house and it all went badly wrong, he was very controlling treat me badly I was in financial difficulty and I alienated my family eventually i moved out and got my own flat.

I held down 2 jobs, one in an office and one in a wine shop both of which I loved, i was nearing 30yr [...]

My own worst enemy

rew.mason@hotmail.co.uk — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well, here I am again, unable to sleep. With the exception of 1 day in the last 5 or so, I have been in the same position. It's really irritating.

People have told me in the past that I think too much. They're right.

I wind myself up about the smallest of things at the moment. Mostly, this is because I haven't re-levelled my relationship with X2B. When she says she'll do something, I expect too much. I expect it to be like the old days. I expect her to do what she [...]

The Other Person....

karencockburn41@hotmail.com — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I have found myself over the past week or so thinking about the person that my STBX had/has been having an affair with....

I feel very little about this person.... I think I am supposed to feel anger/resentment/hatred for this person - but I don't...

I don't know this person.... I am curious about her....

I wonder why she would involve herself with someone who is married with a family......

Does she feel any 'guilt' about being 'involved' in the [...]