Blog Entries tagged 'money and finances'

Monday

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Blog Woke up - really ok

Went to work early - Charlotte was in!!

Trying to plan life and get moving in right direction: ----

1. Ring Halifax to find out how much I can have - bloody useless - can't book me an appointment as don't have any (implied because of credit crunch).

2. Gave Charlotte a letter requesting different start and finish times so I can pick up Georgia as she is upset. Don't think she will buy this and Georgia is 13 so can't g [...]

Running the house on my own and trying to live the single life

greenharte@ntlworld.com — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well here I am 3 months after the split...

What a time I have had, I think I am over the worst of it now - well I hope anyway. The last few times I have seen my ex I have felt nothing except for relief that we are no longer together.

Her new fellow is welcome to her as long as he is good to my son I have no problem. The relief is that I feel that I am becoming myself again I was unhappy for the last couple of year being in a loveless relationship and realise now how bad I was bei [...]

The Price of Freedom

currerc@tiscali.co.uk — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have just received my solicitor's bill and I have been ignoring the amounting money I owe them and it is more than I thought. I have had steam coming out of my ears. Had my ex not been such an intransigent and stubborn(words fail me at this point) person, my bill and his, would be much lower. After almost spontaneously combusting with rage and a good cry I thought so what? What price freedom?

This bill is what is has cost me to be free of this ma [...]

When will I learn?

juliet.steven@tiscali.co.uk — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I'm feeling terrible right now. I've been crying for the last 2 hours & just can't seem to stop, so thought I'd try to blog it out of my system.

I'm feeling such pain at the moment & feel that so many little things are piling in on me that I don't know where to start. Maybe Thursday is where this last phase of hurt & tears started - I went to see my solicitor &, to cut a very long story short, he told me the worst case scenario re [...]

getting a few things moved on and sorted out.

pinkymalmalred@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have been talking to s2bx on the phone, after trying unsucessfully for a face to face meeting.After I found out that he missed a few payments on the life insurance policy and mortgage I wanted to know what was happening,as I don't want the house repossessed and if either of us drop down dead the life insurance to be paid out.Finally sorted it out with him and he had been arranging to pay the outstanding payments back.So that is a weight off my mind, even though I find it hard to trust h [...]

some sums to make you think

plus3@btinternet.com — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Those of you have seen my posts on the site will know that I am a great believer in fairness .. and of getting things sorted without spending a fortune on lawyers. I hope the following story will help you to understand why.

A few facts before we start:

Separated Oct 2004.

Divorce petition Jan 2007

Lodged my Form E with court May 2007

Decree Nisi May 20 [...]

My life's analogy

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This is all a bit random – but as thoughts that have been in my head occur, I kinda want to write them down. It’s my release, and now that I know that people do actually read these things, it’s a way of sharing my thoughts…

…about 2 ½ years ago, something happened in my life that has helped me to understand an awful lot of stuff that, prior to the event, made no sense whatsoever.

What was this event? My wife and I started ballroom danc [...]

Anyone know please ?

yes1750@gmx.com — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hey all,

Just an update, my wife looks to be going ahead with the divorce which is killing me.

I have a question, her parents have offered me a sum of money to buy me out of the house ...it is alot less than am owed but will enable me to put a deposit down on another small house maybe which would allow my beautiful children then to visit and even stay over but will I get taxed on this money ??

daily struggles..

m_nique71@hotmail.com — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This is so unlike me....sharing my innermost fears and feelings of failure, but I feel inadequate at the moment and am crying as I write this.

My ex husband left me in January 2002, with three kids currently aged 13,12 and 9. He had another child in November 2002 and divorced me in October 2005.

He has irregular contact with the children and hasn't paid any child maintenance since January 2008, prior to this he paid £200 pcm.

My standard o [...]

A good end to the week

wikivorce@sbainbridge.cix.co.uk — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This week has been a major turning point for a number of reasons

Second councelling session on Wednesday, again the councellor could not get a word in, my overall tone was totally different from the first session, the first was very much an introduction to events that had led up to the split, a self analysis of how I thought these events had affected and contributed the split, considering the perspective of both sides, very much soul serching. Wednesdays session was v [...]

Early eve emotions - yuk

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Was in chat but needed to offload even more emotions. God this writing is so helpful. Currently feel sick, stressed but can't put a label on the emotion. I was glad my friend came over, she is 10mths down the road of the end of a 4yr relationship and found out he was a cheater so she was so awsome to have over. She isn't going out and we have decided to go out together at least every few weeks. I was just worried she would tell me to shut as as I am sure people are bored with me whini [...]

Just stuff

Daisyflower40@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi Mr Blogman and wiki pals..

been a while since ive blogged, kinda missed you ;-)

today was a day for dealing with stuff....financial stuff...well housey financial stuff actually....the bloody council tax hasnt been paid.....ok my fault kept meaning to get around to it - its only august installmentso not too bad, but they sent me the new letter which is just for me as I told them single occupancy etc and they've messed up !!! typical bloody council.....so im glad [...]

WHY

g.marks80@ntlworld.com — Sun, 10 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

If only we knew what was round the corner of our lives,you could plan things, not make stupid mistakes, do things better, less exciting i know, but, in hindsight,ifs and buts and all that rubbish,i certainly would of written different things in my last blog,let me explain, this time last week ,i was feeling ok just back off hols, j [...]

The secret life and lies of the husband I never Knew!

emilyjosedgwick@aol.com — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Mr Blogman

Today I opened up my hubbies bank statement by mistake as thought it was mine, having asked him on repeated occasions to get his post re directed. I discovered that he has taken out rather a large loan and its my address on his bank statement.

I phoned my solicitor and spoke to secretary and have got to give them a copy of it so she can check it out.

I also phoned the bank as I bank with the same as he does. I have to write a letter explaining tha [...]

It gets worse.

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

She has lost her job and is lying around the house doing nothing. Drinking is a major activity and now smoking in the house (previously this has been an outdoor activity). The house is only clean because the cleaner comes in for 3 hours a week, she has a pile of washing waiting to be ironed that has grown for a month - she does nothing.

When I ask her what she is planning to do I'm told it is non of my business. She then asks what I am planning to do so I say I wil [...]

limbo

288lj@blueyonder.co.uk — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Just trying to sort some stuff out in my head as feel going round and round in a circle. In the space of 10 weeks i have came from having a happy (thought so) secure family life to now being faced with my home being sold and 9 year old daughter and i having to find somewhere else to live and not knowing if we will have enough money.

Really need to get a lawyer involved here, been to see 1 but was not sure so will when needed find another. I work [...]

Thanks for the Blog Comments !

wikivorce@sbainbridge.cix.co.uk — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This blogging seems to be very therapeutic. I was really encouraged by the three replies to my first blog, SOMEONE OUT THERE CARES. I would like to reply to the people who commented below

Marriaa

Thanks for the comments, I am sure that you are correct in that the emotions one experiences come in different orders for different people, sorry to hear that you are having to cope with loss at the moment, loss is a difficult emotion to deal with as there does not appear any way to [...]

My First Blog

wikivorce@sbainbridge.cix.co.uk — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I started this blog as my profile, initially I felt too shy to post it, but having reviewed it I thought it would really be better as a blog

Steve

I'm a 53 year old professional man living in North Devon, Happily Married (So I Thought) for 8 years. My wife has recently left, and has flown to Sweden to see her 2nd Cyberlover for a month (09/07/2008). Prior to that she went to Rhodes a month ago to see another Cyberlover

Currently feeling all t [...]

Worries

flopsybunny_uk@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Just when I thought I was doing really well, and all in the garden of life was blooming, it start to rain, not just a light refreshing shower, but a great deludge of big fat raindrops.

My worries are minor in comparison to many, I realise that, but they are still there, occupying my head all the time, pushing the good thoughts and feelings to the back of my mind.

Still has ultimate financial control!

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

It is so unfair. How can I stop him having financial control over me?

Once again, he has failed to pay my Child Maintenance on time. My mortgage is due tomorrow and still the CSA have not received his money. I could shift some money around; although even this is getting hard to do as my reserve tank that is there to pay my solicitor's bill for the transfer of property is being "borrowed" left, right and centre.

Thing is, he has NOT paid before; not just a late [...]