Blog Entries tagged 'mediation experiences'

Resolution Code of Practice

arniesaccnuson@googlemail.com — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This post ties in with a post on my own personal blog named Gotcha……. dysfunctional complaints procedures.

Before I get to the "meat in the sandwich" I will deal with the siren voices from the self appointed elites in the wikivorce community that perpetually claim that my threads and comments are not why people come to wikivorce and how I endanger the community.

In my world hits means interest and that is true of anybody who is seriously de [...]

Does Arnie add value to wikivorce

arniesaccnuson@googlemail.com — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I am nearly half a century old, I have zero qualifications, I am the father of two children: Child J who is 18(my little man) and Child SJ who is 15(my beautiful daughter). As of June 2004 Child J and I have lived on our own in glorious Gloucestershire.
Mum and I were fully consenting partners for 20 years. I pulled the trigger in the martital breakdown.
I am a modern Dad FULLY involved from conception onwards. In the social circles we mixed, I was one of the mos [...]

On the Road......

freedobjects@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Thanks to mediation,My visa card fiasco should be over.A few words said by the mediator and all is back on track.I will pay my wife £100 cash a week on Thursdays for food and have a standing running float of also a £100,which will be topped up on proof of receipts.

Most of the time was spent by going through our finances.I showed everything I had and my wife pleaded poverty and could only come up with £4000 pounds the only money she had in the world.

Never mind. [...]

Mediation part 2

freedobjects@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Here we go again, another session at mediation.Tomorrow another day in the life of divorce.

I am not sure why I am going really.Since the last time I went (about three weeks ago) My wife and I have been the furthest away from each other mentally EVER. I took the visa card off her, she responded by getting her solicitors to write about 6 letters to mine. Each one costing a £2oo pound a throw.I have not and will not reinstate her card.

Her experiences of the last mediation wer [...]

Is that ok with you.......

ricky.allan62@hotmail.co.uk — Sun, 11 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I have come to learn that one of the most stupid statements my ex comes out with is "is that ok with you"

I have just come back from golf with scotty, great game and good weather, shame he is getting so good!, Upon my return i get a text from the ex

She is on a keep fit weekend at one of these butlins camps, "Hi hope kids are ok(well if you rang them you would find out!) I am going to xxxx,s palce in spain with him for 10 days from the 19th, the stress [...]

A bit of everything on my mind!

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Sat, 10 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well where do I start?

The children are with their father for one of their few contact sessions; so I have 7 hours all to myself.

What do I want to be doing with this time? I know what I should be doing - housework, without the children demanding my time and distracting me from what needs doing.

I would love to be spending the time with my "partner" (questionable terminology I know but can't let go of that just yet; don't think he wants to either); frolicki [...]

Her head still in the sand

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Wed, 07 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Thanks guys for the helpful comments.

I have just been asked how my day has been!!! I said apart from meeting her at mediation it was great. Can't talk to her anymore about this, it makes me too angry. I really don't think she has the first idea of what is happening. Even her mother thinks she is losing it. This is according to my mother who has spoken to hers on the phone - almost the first contact since the children were born.
She needs a shrink not a solicitor or me [...]

Mediation

freedobjects@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 07 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Well, I went to mediation.Very interesting to say the least.I found that the woman mediator was very unbiased.For me personally it has helped me move on in one session.I have agreed to sort out the financial disclosure with them rather than a solicitor.Saving me about £3000 if it works.My wife was very surprise to have to admit that she was a part owner of a house in Spain. The secrets out.... and more to come.The unreasonable behaviour from her has been shown up for the first time in a [...]

Stage 1

freedobjects@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 07 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Yesterday I signed the courts petition at my sols.Strange moment ,felt like I had bought a ticket for something,but did not know where it was going to take me. The feeling changed when my sol asked me ,"if my wife changed her mind would I want to scrap all the work she had done" ???????

Anyway today is Wednesday and I am off to the Mediator with my wife...That going to be real fun....Not..

Wish me luck,I let you know how I got on later .

X to all. < [...]

Mediation meeting2

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

It's too late at night to be writing this really and I have to be up early but I am so wound up I need to get it off my chest.

Have disclosed everything as required, but very little from stbx. "As I have no money there is nothing to show" She is being so beligerent and stubborn that I lost it. How does she expect me to pay mortage on MH, maintenance, school fees, car costs(although we did agree I would sign that over) and then find enough for my own [...]

Mediation Pending!!

europa123@gmail.com — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Damn. Was meant to be keeping a more up-to-date version of this, but seem to have been distracted by a great many things, like responding to other people's posts.

Anyway, today will be another milestone. Tonight we have the first Mediation meeting at the solicitors, for the bargain price of £180/hr. EH? £180/hr!!!!!! And the first thing he wants to do is summarise why we're there? Jesus man, I can read, I know why we're there, I don't need [...]

Mediation..A begining to an end

ricky.allan62@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

we had our first mediation meeting yesterday, i would say it was most frightning, to find yourself in this situation is a realisation but i guess its a sign that things have moved on and we wont to get things sorted. I came out of it feeling pretty good even though there is a long way to go.

She agreed that it was all her fault and that she wanted me to be happy going forward. She still wants to be with the kids and provide her mum with a home, in reality with my travelling all i have [...]

The game begins.

freedobjects@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Yesterday found myself faultering, Questions over to mediate or not?My ex2b asked the question and I could not handle it's importance so I argued about the situation we were in instead.I asked the question in the chat room...mental and financial benefits..and less worry for my daughter was the answer.

My solicitor has advised me that to get a fair settlement for myself I should go for my wives inheritance. I don't know if this would come up in mediation.And also I don't fee [...]

Acknowledgemt and Family Mediation- update

ricky.allan62@hotmail.co.uk — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

well journey well and truly underway, acknowledgment has been returned and Family mediation starts in couple of weeks, its all quite exciting really, Having been controlled by them for nearly 3 years, i have finally the stregnth to face thier sad little life and hold my head up.I hope she focuses on the well being of the kids and not his or her well being. I am hoping mediation will be a better vehicle for me interms of agreement and time scales and costs, so i can move on further down that r [...]

Monday 10th September - mediation and kerboom!

Ilovedoggies@croeso.com — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I am so full of anger that my ears are buzzing and my hands are shaking and I don’t know why, or at least I don’t know why now!

We went to mediation, which I just wanted to be about finances, but was about other stuff too, and I had just got to a calm place with all this and its liked the coals have been raked over and have sprung back to life again, only even hotter than before.

Appetite – gone completely [...]

Weds 5th September - Icy water here we come!

Ilovedoggies@croeso.com — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Interesting day today – for the first time x2b has initiated the conversation as to our future. Perhaps the moving of room has made it seem real, but whatever the reason I am pleased. I told him about mediation and he has made an appointment for us on Monday.

Today, all day, I was getting the feeling that now this is really it, we have both acknowledged that we will be separating. I kept bringing to mind the scene in the film Titanic, when [...]

Mediation

gilly3166@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 29 Jun 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Interesting. A rather painful experience - but not for reasons I was expecting. Wife went 30 minutes before I did - a bit of form filling re legal aid - NOT ELIGIBLE - and then a discussion with Counsellor as to what she wants etc. Then change round and I go in - form filling for legal aid - NOT ELIGIBLE - surprise surprise.

Then it was the joint discussion with us both present. It was very amicable - forms re finances were explained - and possibility that things could be resolved ami [...]