Blog Entries tagged 'financial arrangements'

solicitor can bend rules

louisawhitaker@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

solicitors take advantage.

I'm due in court on the 28th for the First Appointment and I'm nervous, anxious and very afraid of seeing the bully for the first time in 6 months. He still has the same devasting affect on my emotions and I'm trully dreading seeing him face to face. How do you learn not to be afraid of what caused you to subjugate your own feelings and life to accomodate their huge ego's and bullying ?

I'm self repping and I will have a Mckenzie [...]

planning my new life

alisonstrange@ntlworld.com — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I'm feeling rather sad. I'm back at work tomorrow after 7 weeks off with depression and feel quite apprehensive.

After weeks of yes/no yoyo my husband arranged for us to have a chat about getting back together. He cancelled 90 mins before our meeting saying he wasn't in the mood to chat but if I was feeling horny then he'd pop round.

I have so had enough and feel crushed. Why does he mess me about like this?

Why do I let him?

He's said me and the k [...]

Just stuff

Daisyflower40@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi Mr Blogman and wiki pals..

been a while since ive blogged, kinda missed you ;-)

today was a day for dealing with stuff....financial stuff...well housey financial stuff actually....the bloody council tax hasnt been paid.....ok my fault kept meaning to get around to it - its only august installmentso not too bad, but they sent me the new letter which is just for me as I told them single occupancy etc and they've messed up !!! typical bloody council.....so im glad [...]

The secret life and lies of the husband I never Knew!

emilyjosedgwick@aol.com — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Mr Blogman

Today I opened up my hubbies bank statement by mistake as thought it was mine, having asked him on repeated occasions to get his post re directed. I discovered that he has taken out rather a large loan and its my address on his bank statement.

I phoned my solicitor and spoke to secretary and have got to give them a copy of it so she can check it out.

I also phoned the bank as I bank with the same as he does. I have to write a letter explaining tha [...]

It gets worse.

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

She has lost her job and is lying around the house doing nothing. Drinking is a major activity and now smoking in the house (previously this has been an outdoor activity). The house is only clean because the cleaner comes in for 3 hours a week, she has a pile of washing waiting to be ironed that has grown for a month - she does nothing.

When I ask her what she is planning to do I'm told it is non of my business. She then asks what I am planning to do so I say I wil [...]

Till 5pm... Will She do the Right Thing?

keithmash@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So just got off the phone speaking to the x2b explaining that it was slightly unreasonable to expect for me to pay all the court fees and 50% of her costs - especially when it is her that has had the affair.

So I tell her that my Solictor is contacting her's to say that we either agree on 50% costs and each to their own on Solicitors fees or we notify the court that we dispute the costs.

1/2 a day in court and additional fees etc, but I need to get off my knees at some stage.& [...]

Decree Nisi - Too Soon

keithmash@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So today was a wonderful day in Holland, good day at work and all that.

The last few days were tricky last week as xtb is seeking for me to pay the court fees along with 50% of her costs. Whilst I have behaved reasonably it strikes me as a bit much to expect to pay such amounts when it was her having the affair.

So I made an offer to her saying I would not defend based on her affair and let the UB go through....

I did not tell the kids about her affair to protect her.. [...]

ranting of a mad cow

nikki.cartwright2@btinternet.com — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

i have never done anything like this before so i will apologise now before i start. On thursday 7Aug it will be 1 year since i kicked my now x husband out for having yet another affair. And to say its been a horrible year is a huge understatement. On friday 8 August i bury my mum, my best friend, my strength, my support for the past 12 months . I also found out that my x never had his x girlfriends name taken off the mortgage, which means i cant buy him out. The house is falli [...]

3 Days Without a Blog

wikivorce@sbainbridge.cix.co.uk — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Ok it's been 3 days and I haven't made a blog entry, so a lot of time to make up.

A strange 3 days, an emotional yo-yo

Started typing up the D8 petition, Section 13 asks for details, they want details - I gave them chapter and verse, however I am sure that was not required so it's now been edited to a couple of lines. I did however quite enjoy the initial putting it ALL down. I will finish tidying the D8 and add the court details tomorrow

Foolish me, watche [...]

Settlement

greenharte@ntlworld.com — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Oh this is so confusing it is just one thing after another.

I was not married but lived together as a couple for 10 years owned property together 8 years and have a 4 year old son. She left me for someone else.

I aggreed to pay my ex 50% of the equity from our house and it is up for sale at the moment. Due to the current market I am sure it is going to take a long while before we get an offer and I am sure we wont get anywhere near the asking price.

Well if we [...]

It finally came to an end.

droopydraws_uk@hotmail.com — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Yesterday's outcome of the Final Hearing is still sinking in. Some of you may know my case has taken 2 yrs and 11 months to resolve and a lot of bitterness along the way, and that I had, had very poor legal advice from my then acting sols. At my repeat FDR in February I was advised to accept his offer which was written down wrong on paper the offer being £20 p/w for 2 years as a clean break settlement later offer was £25 p/w for 2 years and &poun [...]

That was unexpected!

matt@chaos.org.uk — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Most of the blogs on here are pretty depressing reading. After all, we only tend to blog when things go wrong, and we need help. So, in an effort to redress the balance, here's a more upbeat story of things going right. It can work out.

We're in the middle of sorting out the finances. It's not going to be easy. There's simply not enough money to go round. We're going to have to sell the house, and we have a load of debt. Mon [...]

I'm feeling very low but why?

garethfun@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

How do you re-energize yourself when you feel so low?

At the moment I'm feeling lower than I have for a long time but don't really know why, I still only get about 4 -5 hours sleep on the sofa but I'm not tried in that way. Work is hard but rewarding, I actually like going to work or is that just because it means I'm not at home?

The kids are being really good, and we are looking forward already to our week away, and yet I feel so low and fed up?

Not sure wha [...]

Hello all! Have been away from this site for 4 months.

louise.bowen10@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I went abroad for 3 weeks in March to visit relatives. We had been out of touch, almost estranged for some 11 years. However, unexpectedly they have offered to support me while I go through this divorce. This support has been mainly emotional but they have also offered to become advocates for me when I see my solicitor etc. I am very greatful for this - it is more than I expected. I had lost hope of finding any friends in my predicament.

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why are we the only ones suffering?

jude1301@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I really need to vent some steam.

My fiancee is currently divorcing. We have completed his form E weeks ago and whilst waiting for his ex to complete hers she decided to issue financial proceedings. It was her decision to end their marriage. My partner agreed to let her cite his adultery just to speed things up (or so we thought) although he never entered into another relationship until they had seperated. She moved in with her new partner and his kids about a year ago and is not workin [...]

Why can't she go?

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Have been told she expectes me to move out and leave the children having made the petition.

So, as for much of the last 10 years I have spent another weekend with the children while she does what she wants elsewhere. I am not unhappy about this at all, although I feel pretty tire, but I find it horrendous that she can now think that she can have the house and the children, push me out and expect me to continue paying for it all.

I am off to the sols next week when I will be givi [...]

And another week begins!

stellahall59@hotmail.co.uk — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Fridays are now officially my worst day, so after it's over, the weekend seems ok.

Last Friday got up and started the now usual habit of contacting bank etc that I can't do during the rest of the week.

Because scumbag cancelled the direct debits, I have had to pay this months mortgage over the phone. So, rang up, gave my debit card no-the nice lady told me the bank wouldn't allow the transaction to go ahead, and that I had to phone the bank.

Rang the bank-nice la [...]

6 good days!

stellahall59@hotmail.co.uk — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well I knew it wouldn't last, but it was great to feel happy and at peace with the world for 6 days!

Scumbag texted me at work yesterday afternoon, to tell me he had been round to our house to remove the belongings we had dumped in the shed. I was annoyed that he hadn't given me forewarning-and told him so.

He then texted back saying that I hadn't replied to his previous text-unsure which he meant as I haven't heard from him since last thurs. Plus if I wasn't p [...]

angry

cathmgorst@yahoo.com — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

today i am angry and upset

after being left after 22 years of marriage the husband who wont even speak to me or tell me why he left wants to put money into my bank account to clear his debts .

Debts in his name only that i only recently found out about with no name companies

he thinks i am stupid he does not want these people or me to know were he is but wants to keep the debt at my address i despair

his contact was a three line email well he can get lost

i am s [...]

Being a mum is breaking my heart

dawn.hardie@hotmail.com — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Please help.

I am usually an extremely strong person, I have had to be to survive, I don't cry when anyone is around as they need my strength during the day to see them through especially my daughter who is so kind and caring and offers me so much love.

I have waited until everyone is asleep and am now sat crying as I write, today I have been typing out my daughter Rachel's statement, she is 2nd respondant in my divorce as we have a property business together and to protec [...]