Blog Entries tagged 'family and inlaws'

And the walls came tumbling down�.

mikehart@boltblue.com — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Some of the regulars may have noticed me conspicuous only by my absence. Not like me to hide away, but it all got a little too much a few weeks ago.

I have been struggling as ‘Dad’ to maintain a good relationship with my children, as myself and the ex have diametrically opposing views on childcare. The ex seems to think it is a good idea to allow the children pretty well free reign on most [...]

Still no sense

christian2williams@hotmail.com — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

As the days go by, I'm wondering if she has actually slept with this guy or just wants me to believe she has to push me away. She passed me in her car tonight around 9pm (I was driving in the opposite direction). Odd that she wouldn't be with her new man on a Friday night, I also find it strange that she paid for the meal out I discovered on her credit card, surely if this guy was wining and dining her, he would have paid (I know she would have let him).

Her mother called me [...]

When tomorrow becomes today

Lee.Turner63@ntlworld.com — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well the last few days haven't been that bad. Yes I'm sad and my emotions feel as though they've been in the ring with Mike Tyson, yes bitten ear included. I suppose that I'm starting to come to terms with it. I know that there is no way back, and that it has come to the end. You have no idea how much that hurts to admit. I went into this marriage thinking that this would be it, that we'd grow old together. We'd be the old couple that you see walking hand in han [...]

Determined to carry on

smurf1973@btinternet.com — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi peeps,

Went to hairdressers and bought some more cold remedies. Determined to get school marking and planning done.

Have not heard from stbx for 2 weeks now. I heard from his cousin that he has now got a night job but if he loses it his mum's boyfriend will kick him out. I know that he'll lose it eventually. He's lazy, lies, talks too much and his time keeping is poor. All will be his own fault!! Ha Ha!

Back to work Monday a [...]

My marriage and how it all went downhill.

annetteca08@gmail.com — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I may as well start from the beginning.

We met on a blind date, I was 17 he was 18, he proposed after five weeks and I laughed at him. Looking back I realise all he ever wanted was to marry someone. I got engaged to him on my 19th birthday just to make him feel more secure. My family didn't think he was good enough for me, of course, their opposition had the reverse effect. I ended up marrying him when I was 22, and things were reasonably g [...]

ITS HAPPENED!

cindyjeffery123@live.co.uk — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well here we have it! In responce to my last blog "When abuse,violence and harassment isn't just from the s2bx........"

Latest developements in this sarga........ITS HAPPENED!!!!!!

Have just been handed an eviction from my Father inlaw and brother inlaw. I have 2 months to leave the property which was the FMH that I have shared free of rent with my s2bx and our four children aged 12, 10, 3 and 2. For the past 9 3/4 years.

All along I knew this would [...]

The things you don't always want other people to know..

Lee.Turner63@ntlworld.com — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

It was nice to see my parents again this weekend, although it's sad to see them go again. They get here on the friday night and leave again on the sunday, it's a bitter sweet visit. The gym situation has not been looking good, I've had a cold that I just couldn't get rid of. It's gone now so I've got no excuse from missing it.

I know some people that read this may think that I'm dealing with this situation well. I sit in front of the screen and [...]

#3 Sunday

caladan08@gmail.com — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

The past couple of days have been hard. Since our cat died on Friday I have been giving the stbx lots of respect and supporting her and the kids about it, digging the grave etc - doing what any decent hubby would do - cuddling her and holding her when she needed it. We've spent hours going through all our photos of the cat as we will print some and put them around the house. And today we watched my youngest play footy along with her parents, so played happy families. They know abo [...]

Mixed bag

gioholiday@aol.com — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well, made it through another week. Saw the counsellor again on Wednesday, not sure if it's helping or not. Thursday was a really bad day for me, was online in chatroom and kids started playing up, I could hear them bickering in the other room, went in to find out what was going on. I had already allowed them to stay up a bit later than usual to watch a particular TV programme. The reason they were arguing was so silly, I completely lost it-switched off TV, told them to go to bed. Daughte [...]

Do I have a mother at all!!!

emilyjosedgwick@aol.com — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well thank you mum for promising that today you would come and see me after work. Thank you for all the support that you have given me through my divorce, you really don`t know me at all. I have been let down as always...broken promises!!! I will be moving away asap as soon as consent order is stamped in court. You have your family so I know that... you will be fine and I know that you do not need or even regard me as important. I will just disappear, slowly into the background, i`m sor [...]

Support from a strange place

gioholiday@aol.com — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Was on a pedeatric first aid course today, so away from usual work environment. Had bad day yesterday, and cried all the way to course this morning.

Day was ok, nice people, chance to focus on other things. Went to gym on way home, did 5.5 km on treadmill, felt really comfortable (mainly because I could see myself running in mirror, and was chanting to myself as I ran "she will get fat, she will get varicose veins, she already has more wrinkles than me, her boobs will go saggy - ch [...]

Another bad day .....

kat.webster@tiscali.co.uk — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Have not gone into work again today - can't face it. All the feelings of positivity I managed to dredge up yesterday have disappeared and I am back here feeling crap, thinking about the past, wondering what to do next and what is going to happen to me ..

You know, I used to think that my wedding day was the best day of my life but now all I feel is regret at the decision I made and anger at the 15 years of my life that I have wasted on this idiot ! My life could have been [...]

Just another day...

Lee.Turner63@ntlworld.com — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well another weekend. People think that as time passes, we come to terms with issues like this. Well thats not really true. Yes, some people get over things quicker than others, but they're the lucky ones. Tomorrow it will be four months since I was told this news, and it doesn't get easier. There are times when all I do is cry like a baby, yes those days are less frequent, but they are still coming. It keeps going through my head that maybe we should have done things dif [...]

4 weeks

gioholiday@aol.com — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi all,

Update on my situation. Yesterday I went over to see his parents. He wasn't there, it was a lovely day so no doubt he was wandering around hand in hand with my replacement somewhere. I took over the post that has arrived for him over the past couple of weeks, and copies of photographs I had taken at the last family occasion we had attended together, his nephew's christening at the end of August. It was a tough visit, his parents are very upset, [...]

Trying to let go and move on

dawnuk57@yahoo.com — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

We lived together 3 years, bought a nice house and got married. We didnt have children as i couldn't stay pregnant for long, always miscarried around 8 weeks! Hubby had 4 kids from 1st marriage and we all got on pretty well, they stayed with us some weekends & on holidays, they lived away so contact wasnt constant.

I thought we happy together on the whole, despite his problems with alcohol & pill addiction (codeine dependency).

I encouraged him to leave his employmennt [...]

feeling like a failure

Jeannie@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi wiki peeps

Just need to off load this.

My mum is moving into a home on Wednesday she telephoned today for me to arrange for her adjustamatic bed and bits of furniture to be moved to the home before Wednesday, my job as the home is not far from where i live. When she went along to the home a while back for her assessment with my two sisters and the brother-in-law i did'nt go, i chickened out i guess. So today was the fi [...]

Ex mother in law - worth her weight in gold

droopydraws_uk@hotmail.com — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Don't supose many can say that about thier ex mother in law , but i know i made the right decision last summer when i had to pick between the ex husband and his parents.

She has wrote a beautiful letter to the children this morning thanking them for the wonderful time they had when the children stayed with them for 18 days during the summer holidays ,and how she is looking forward to having them in the Oct half term, and for the lovely birthday card from them her birt [...]

A long week

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I think this has been the worst week I have ever had. After my last blog where he said he didn't love me I hit the bottom. I wouldn't commit suicide but it's what my brain was telling me to do, I was throwing up, non stop crying and well you all know what it's like. It got worse on friday as my 15yr old had enough and went to my sisters. Before people think why didn't I go to the dr before to get help, I couldn't, I was waiting for a medical report to be done for a new [...]

A week of pain...

sarahchidwick@hbosplc.com — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This time last year was the worst week of my life.

I discovered my husbands affair, 2 days later my mum died (after a year of battling cancer), 2 days after that was my 9th wedding anniversary. And it's all gone down hill since. I've turned into someone I don't recognise anymore.

Just over a year ago I was a happy, confident, secure wife, mother and daughter. The worst thing coming my way was the death of my mum. N [...]

What happened last night.

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Need to blog and stay close to wiki at the mo, was going to hibernate for a few days but I know that is the worst thing to do.

Yesterday he arrived at 6pm as planned. sat down and I asked for exact details of his current relationship with her and asked where he was at and where he wanted to go with me. He said he is living day to day and no idea where he is at or where he is going. She is a very close friend and it is at the moment non sexual. He couldn't explain how everyone [...]