Blog Entries tagged 'dealing with solicitors'

A bit of a mess......

flopsybunny_uk@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I'm not sure where to begin with this blog – things have been a bit of a mess recently.

My house went on the market last week – I only found out that it was actually on the market from someone in the local shop, who had seen it in the paper! A week later, I have still yet to be informed by the estate agents that my house is now up for sale. An offer came in on Tuesday mo [...]

First session in court on 5 November

louise.bowen10@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Wednesday was the first session in court to sort out finances with my stbx. I have to say it was a 'disturbing', unpleasant experience. It really seams that 'the screws are being tightened' on me as we move towards reaching a final settlement.

I saw my solicitor last week to review my stbx's form E. My solicitor pointed out a few discrepancies she and her colleage had noticed. One thing was the number of old life insurance policies stbx had pu [...]

Struggling at the end of my journey

flopsybunny_uk@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

On Tuesday, I am due at the sols to sign the very simple form that will legally end my marriage - nothing more than ticking a few boxes and writing my name and address, then signing it. Such a simple end to a long and emotional journey. One I have waited a year for.

I had thought that I could sail through this last bit, it would be pain-free. How foolish and stupid of me. I dont want him back (god, no!), but I do regret that the marriage ended the way it did. I [...]

to all you lovely wikipeeps

burnhem@btinternet.com — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

hi to you all.!

just want to thank you all for the lovely comments on my latest blog.you will never know how much it means to have so many people caring about me..

i felt really alone yesterday but as usual wiki came to the rescue..! wot would we do without it ???

ive spoken to my sol today and shes given me lots of reassurance on things so my head seems a little clearer ..

ive now sent him the divorce petition so hopefully it wont be too long before im fre [...]

It never was...

keithmash@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

And I re-read the petition, only for the second time...

And parts of it are sickening, not for the words that she decided to fabricate but for the headlines...

The headline that says "Prays for"

So now we have religious context as well... is it not bad enough that we are subjected to this at a personnel level. Is not the way we have been treated been enough punishment for a lifetime. Apparently not.

And now she gets to invo [...]

another update..

burnhem@btinternet.com — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

well peeps ..here i go again..

need to blog as it helps me get it off my chest ..( wish i had a bigger chest though !!)

hubby rang me yesterday askin if i would sort out all his finances eg.wot he pays out every month ..credit cards and dds etc..

no problem with doin this as we still have joint finances..and hes workin away all the time so obviously has no time..

rang him last night to tell him they were done and when would he get them. had a lovely c [...]

Rainy half term

gioholiday@aol.com — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I am sitting watching the rain coming down outside, the sky is a perculiar yellowy grey colour, and there is no way I am leaving the comfort of my house today! Have been to the gym this morning, but since I came back the weather has got progressively worse, so have turned up the heating and am having quiet day in with my kids.

I have spent the first part of half term up in Manchester visiting family. Have had a quiet few days, and had not intended to come back until today, but got a cal [...]

Absolute Day!

pinkymalmalred@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

well this morning I received my absolute.I knew it was coming as He had rang yesturday and said he already had his.So i got it along with a letter from my solicitor and of course she probally charged a bit for the letter.So waiting for the paperwork to do with paying my bill.

How do I feel today?Well relieved that the fighting is over and a little sad at what we had has gone now.I have accepted its over, have came to arrangements about the house sale(consent order and everything in plac [...]

what is he....

yuki2061@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

My ex sent a letter to my sol ( sol said)...

He said , since last July we have not been husband and wife.

How he can say that ...? He said he wanted to enjoy his own company until he retire ! and in November last year we enjoyed holiday in japan together. He let me spent 1000 pounds for the holiday now he said we were not married couple at that time?

Having an affair on and on behind wife , girlfriend...but he never ever feel any quity but also he encourage people (hi [...]

Draft petition

mneme2006@yahoo.co.uk — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

The respondent made decisions without due regard to the effects on the petitioner, the family, and the marriage. In particular the respondent regarded (a foreign country) as a better place to bring up children, greatly dismaying the petitioner who nevertheless tried to make the best of it. The respondent traveled frequently on business, leaving the petitioner to manage alone. The respondent’s employment took the family to (another country) 199- and then back to (t [...]

Needing Reassurance

c_landy85@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Arghh!!! What a week...

I have just managed to sucessfully spend a week off work on my own without moping around thinking 'why don't I have anyone to do exciting things with?' or 'why can't my bf take time off work to see me?' Instead I self indulged and just lazed around, watching tv, shopping and eating lots of yummy food.

However, on Friday I had a little wobble. Yet again, I was questioning my relationship with my n [...]

Domestic Abuse To Fathers With Cafcass Apparent Blessing !

joejohnsons@aol.com — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hello

About me. I've just turned 40 and caused to petition for divorce due to a catalogue of domestic abuse from my wife.

Though married 12 years, we have a 18m old baby son. I did consider the behaviour of my wife to be Post Natal Depression . . . . It wasn't !

I was caused to move out of the family home, and submit a contact order in order to see my son. CAFCASS have been a nightmare. Despite detailing the [...]

Did I get closure?

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Like my last time in court I sat writing the beginning of my blog while waiting to go into court.....

"Arrived at court at 10.45am for a 11am hearing. No sign of the ex with or without his fiancee. Today I have special music on my mp3 player that reminds me of special times with my new man, Metalraver - maybe aptly titled "Take a Breath".

Ok, so 10.50am, the ex has arrived at court, without a solicitor (which is good if I do get slammed with a Costs Orde [...]

In court today for Final Hearing

esiorun@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I turned up at court and got ushered into the little room. There was evidence that my Solicitor and Barrister had also arrived. I got myself a coffee and waited a while.

They had been to chambers with His legal team to get a dressing down as the Judge had not received the bundle in good time and had not had the opportunity to read and inwardly digest. He would not be hearing the case today. My heart sank to the bottom of my shoes. I was [...]

In court tomorrow!

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I am in court tomorrow with regards the application to extend the Non-Molestation Undertakings. This will be the second Directions Hearing. I was told by the judge at the last hearing to strongly think about dropping the application as I was facing a Costs Order if I lost and the judge felt this was a strong possibility.

After having a long think I wrote to the court asking to withdraw my application but stating this was purely financial and that I stood by my allegations of abuse. In f [...]

The worm has turned - for now anyway !

kat.webster@tiscali.co.uk — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I woke up this morning feeling really low - so much so that I called in sick this morning at work. Feel awful telling lies like that but I really needed some 'head space' to think and just lick my wounds .... don't like doing things like this but just HAD to today ...

After my recent unsuccessful attempts to open up meaningful divorce negotionations with my STBX and his steadfast refusal to respond to my e-mails/txts, I decided to use my day off to decide what to d [...]

Knew it was going too well

alison.searson@sgsintl.eu — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

A week last friday stbx accepted by offer to buy him out of the house. He said it was on condition that I didn't claim anything further, specifically his pension. He said we shouldn't let the solicitors bully us into changing our minds.

I agreed to this so I could have the house in my name. Got my mortgage offer on tuesday and it was with my solicitor on thursday so she could start the equity transfer.

Friday arrives, our daughters birthday. He was coming to her part [...]

More days ....

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So much has happened - and yet so little at the same time. I wish I could write it in a list Top Ten Shite that has happened this week .... but its all crap so perhaps easier on my poor little mind if I try and write it chronologically, although when you let days pass the thought of the pain you feel at the time passes so I am hoping my current pain will also pass.

Monday - Went to mediation. I saw his name in the signing in book 10.00 - he scruffy writing - that writ [...]

baliffs involved now

gt001m9118@blueyonder.com — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

i am so exhausted with all this divorce stuff..i started my divorce in jan of this year and it is no where near over..he agreed sent papers back, then nothing, wait and wait, served an amended petition, which cost me more money, nothing, wait some more, now soliticor wants to involve baliffs to serve papers and im confused as to whether this will delay things further or speed them up, so much advice given by those meaning well but couldnt possibly understand what i am going through..was hopin [...]

Reasonably Unreasonable

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Much has happened since my last post here. Then again much stays the same.

The divorce, like a large supertanker, moves obstinately forwards. The legal corresponding seems to be offering some contol, but not sure whether we can head off the collision with the huge iceberg that is court proceedings, which fxw and her inarticulate mule of a solicitor seem so insanely keen on. We wrote them a couple of long letters, explaining that it was a real shame that we didn't follow family law [...]