Mother and Wife similarities

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I'm sure I've heard it said that men marry women that remind them of their mother's. I could be wrong, but somewhere in my sub-concious I've heard that said.

So, what is my mother like?

Well, just about everyone that should be dear to her has walked away from her.

Her husband, her children and her grandchildren. All have either left her or have distanced themselves from her. That's a lot of people, 13 in all.

If I was here, I'd be staring to loo [...]

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andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I've woken up today and felt a wave of desire come over me to "Write It Down".

You see, nearly a year ago something happened in our house (which I'll write about later).

In my eyes, what happened was, well - extra-ordinary.

So upset by it was I at that time, I took myself off to the doctors. I had been meaning to go anyway, I'd been feeling low up until that point anyway and needed to chat with someone about the levels of my drinking that h [...]

Every boy needs a full time father figure

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

When I was 15 years old, he just went. I mean, he wasn’t much of a role model in truth, but still – he was my Dad.

…and as time moves on and the years tumble by, I look back on those years after he went and realise what a bloody mess I was.

I mean, there I was now the new “Man Of The House” having to deal with such situations as finding my Mum in the under stairs cupboard in darkness holding a knife to her neck. What a bloody mess I became.

Musn't grumble.

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I've absolutely no idea what I'm doing, or if anybody will either read or be interested in my blog, but sometimes in life one needs a place to scream - and I'm hoping this'll turn out to be the place for me to do it.

If this blog continues, I'm reckoning that things will kinda start slotting themselves into place, a sort of "self Counselling" service. So here goes, and sorry to any readers for any future ramblings!!

I need to talk about it, the whol [...]

Calm returning (about time!!!!!)

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I woke this morning and was happy to get up, I wanted to get on with some writing up of my research and even had a quick hoover first. Hmmmmm not felt like this for a long time. Weird, like my brain could take no more!

Had long uppy and downey day yest. Had 15 cases in court as well (worst fruit loop I have had in long time yest), then had sister over for 2 hours, she needed to off load (both had violent abusive childhood with alcoholic father) and it brought back [...]

Reconciliation?????

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well after yest morning and was so low, I got up, had bath, did hair and make up, went out to lunch with my daugter, then long walk round Hengistbury Head, then soup kitchen. It did wonders as had no time to think.

But when in the restaurant it was funny. It was mainly couples and family groups. I was watching them. Bar one couple in early 20's not one of the couples was laughing and most weren't even talking to each other. As for the families it was the same, exc [...]

A good end to the week

wikivorce@sbainbridge.cix.co.uk — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This week has been a major turning point for a number of reasons

Second councelling session on Wednesday, again the councellor could not get a word in, my overall tone was totally different from the first session, the first was very much an introduction to events that had led up to the split, a self analysis of how I thought these events had affected and contributed the split, considering the perspective of both sides, very much soul serching. Wednesdays session was v [...]

Play The Game

linda.mcdermot@ntlworld.com — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Diary

Play the Game

5th August 2004 is the second report for court to be done since 25th May 2004. The doctors are Not satisfied with this they send me on to other NHS paid Psychiatrists paid to do court work.

May I ask you this, do you think you would be strong e [...]

My first blog

tillymint36@ntlworld.com — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Am having a series of firsts at the moment - first blog, first time on wikivorce,first time away from daughter etc. Have been married 10 years- not happily for most of them - the marriage was never what i expected it to be. Finally got fed up of trying to be what my husband expected me to be and making myself ill (depression) and told him it was over 3.5 weeks ago. Am still living in family home and therefore absolutely skint. Husband and daughter both on school hols, while im at [...]

Life ruined by an empty crisp packet!

steve@rigdens.wanadoo.co.uk — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well, it's been 3 days since my last confession .... sorry ..... Blog!

Dont really know how I feel today ..... bit muddled to be honest. I've had a bit of a 'spat' with him over the last couple of days but woke up this morning to a text that was very nearly an apology!

I saw my Counsellor yesterday, this was only my first real appointment but I do think she is going to be helpful. I dont know how to accept its over and dont know how to move on. I [...]

Private Dectective going cold turkey

wendy_carterhome@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Finally found out how to write a new entry! Thanks everyone for the responses to my obessive private detecting. I knew that all this obessive snooping was unhealthy and was feeling so guilty about it. It helps to know that I am not a nasty person and others have been there.I 've been to my brothers house for a few days and it was fantastic being in a place where I was hugged and cared about. I have come back yesterday feeling much more positive. I've decided to go cold turkey, the only w [...]

Life Coaching & relationships

evans.serena@gmail.com — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

One of the best pieces of advice I was given, shortly after I left my ex, was to ask for some professional counselling. I was given this advice by a colleague who is also a divorcee, who had benefitted from this himself during the time of his marriage break-up. I'm lucky that I have health insurance through work so I thought I would take advantage and make an appointment with my GP.

To make this as succinct as possible - I cried all over my GP whilst explaining the situation and a [...]

The Sexual Controller

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I apologise from the outset if this is hard reading and totally understand if you stop reading now. This is going to be hard to write but I have to do it for my own sake. This blog entry is for me, to work through thoughts and feelings that have been brought to the forefront.

Today's session of my course was all about the sexual controller. In comparison to others on my course I was lucky; yes lucky that I wasn't subjected to what they had to endure throughout their marriage.

A strange feeling

droopydraws_uk@hotmail.com — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

so tomorrow is the day my ex gets married to that thing, do i wish him well not at all, hope he forgets his decree absolute hope it pours down on that beach.Am i bitter no angry ,angry at the way he has treated me and our children , angry the decree absolute was granted without my knowledge , angry we have a FH soon , angry he could forget his own children angry he plays games still dictates what sort of life the children can have as he picks and chooses when he wants to pay child support.In our [...]

When's 'the' day?

devilsdaughter1@googlemail.com — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

They tell me that the day you decide to divorce is the first day of the rest of your life - wrong, wrong, wrong and when it comes im going to celebrate with bells whistles fireworks and champagne. To say I have been waiting for 'the' day for sometime is an understatement, I have been waiting for it since Aug 30th 2006 - why this date, because this is the date i caught my husband with my friend in my mothers garden!! and the slope started and it was meant to go up but since in reality [...]

Thoughts of the abused!

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Mon, 05 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Arrived for my course this morning feeling fairly subdued, not really wanting to face the reality of what staying in an abusive relationship has done to my children.

The first thing that was said is that we cannot blame ourselves for the effect all of this has had on our children because whilst we were with our abuser we had no power to protect them.

That goes against everything a mother stands for; the one thing above all else that she should be able to do is protect her ba [...]

A revelation

liz_gorgeous41@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Felt I had to share this one !

My son has received 8 cousellin sessions really benefited from them all. Tonight we chatted as we do most nights but this was different some how. He said that he finally realised that his dad puts himself before his children and thats y he was so upset since we split.

He said talking to me 2night was a revelation. Like I had lifted a huge weight off his shoulders. For weeks Ive tried so hard to take his pain away and no [...]

Feelin O.K

freedobjects@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Feeling O.k.

So I will cancel the councillor.It's a nice place to be . As of yet I have not seen any paperwork from my wife's sol for me to sign. I know it is coming and have no problem signing it when it does.

It has been a very strange time for me,I have on top of the emotions with divorce, had to cope with a shortage of work, a problem for me financially and emotionally. But it seems that, I have a little voice now that sits on my shoulder telling me daily that every [...]

sadness and confusion

anna@theharrisfamily.wanadoo.co.uk — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Well year 06 was a hell of a year. I gave him so much support. Went to the magistrates court with him and gave him all my support as well as carrying the worries with regards to the implications his ban would have on his job. I also went to see an employment solicitor with him as he said he was being given unreasonable targets. I really did feel that he would recover and get his head togehter by taking time out from his job.I forgot to mention in my previous blog that he had rec [...]

Counselling- Assesment Time

ricky.allan62@hotmail.co.uk — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I have just completed my 6th and final counselling session prior to my assesment with the consultant phyciatrist and the next round of sessions, in total to date i have had 8 sessions. I thought i would like to give my own assesment of where i think i am.

Seeing a phyciatrist conjurs up all sorts of thoughts, your mad, your a failure etc,it scares you shitless just at the thought in the begining, that first meeting is one of the hardest and emotional rollercoasters i have e [...]

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