Blog Entries tagged 'children'

Don't have an affair

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

When I met up with Bob on Tuesday, it was the first time for a while.

I'd been keen to fill him in on the latest, the latest being the fact that I'd found support in this website.

For a long time I've been thinking of having an affair. It would be my way of demonstrating to myself that not all women were as selfish, unreasonable and controlling as the one I'd married.

There are special websites for married people who want to have an extramarital affair, but w [...]

Charming men make dangerous lovers

linda.mcdermot@ntlworld.com — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

We have all read the articles charming men make dangerous lovers,I was always of an opinion this always happened to other women until it happened to me .I met such a man in 1995,my mother died in 1993 of breast cancer and I was going through a rough patch as a single parent bringing up my oldest son ,who was 14 years old. Some days I could not see the computer screen on the till for crying over my teenage son. so it is little [...]

Smiling again

andrewarmstrong82@btinternet.com — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

The quietman is back almost to his old self. I have been the happiest man on this planet for the last two months. Children have all made contact with me and having been a good boy and kept my mouth shut, courts have backed off. I am so happy. My two sons have become men. My eldest son turns eighteen this month and his seventeen year brother has left home and moved back to Cornwall. I have spoken on the phone to my youngest daughter and although it left me in tears, Iwas crying for joy. I [...]

Sunday Morning back to bed

linda.mcdermot@ntlworld.com — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Sunday is a luxury now as I get a cup of french coffee pick up the book and head back to the comfort of my bed,after all that I have been through over the years I make time to rest up . I used to head back here on my worst days to my bedroom sometimes I would take a sleeping tablet when I got up and go back to sleep again escaping from this awful nightmare .

In the earlier days the social worker would not ring up she would just turn up out of the blue in the 4 wheel dr [...]

birthday blog !

kevin.j.stevens@btinternet.com — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

a huge THANKYOU to all you luvly people who so kindly wished me birthday greetings last nite .........well this morning lol having a great day had macdonalds brekfast with my daughter and listened to her storys of her holiday and her boyfriend!!!!!! how she missed him so etc...etc its so funny her talking to me as if i dont know what its like !!!!

i did get a slap or two for taking the mickey but only in jest ! oh i feel all warm inside now!!! seeing her was just what i nee [...]

Anyone seen the first Xmas tree up yet?

annpawley@btinternet.com — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Almost at the end of my week alone without kids. Got throught it ok I thought; no, actually, I was better than ok, I was FINE. But as is so often the case on this journey, as soon as you think you've got into a better place emotionally, WHAM! back to the beginning.

So its the C word.....already! stbx has asked about Christmas arrangements. They not even finished the summer hols yet. I feel like he must have seen some christmas decorations up in Woolworths or something.

So [...]

Mother and Wife similarities

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I'm sure I've heard it said that men marry women that remind them of their mother's. I could be wrong, but somewhere in my sub-concious I've heard that said.

So, what is my mother like?

Well, just about everyone that should be dear to her has walked away from her.

Her husband, her children and her grandchildren. All have either left her or have distanced themselves from her. That's a lot of people, 13 in all.

If I was here, I'd be staring to loo [...]

Caring more about the pets than about us

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Really? Oh yes.

I mean, pandering to the cat and dog to the extent that she'll allow them to drink the remainder of her milk from her breakfast bowl out of the bowl itself.

That, for me is just disgusting.

Oh yes, I said to stop it, too right I did. But she won't be told what to do, will she. Nope, what we'll do instead is to make sure 'Dad's' not around when it happens instead.

I mean, what the animals want is far more important than what I and [...]

Every boy needs a full time father figure

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

When I was 15 years old, he just went. I mean, he wasn’t much of a role model in truth, but still – he was my Dad.

…and as time moves on and the years tumble by, I look back on those years after he went and realise what a bloody mess I was.

I mean, there I was now the new “Man Of The House” having to deal with such situations as finding my Mum in the under stairs cupboard in darkness holding a knife to her neck. What a bloody mess I became.

Entry No 22: Not sure what to do....

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Been another one of those weekends, didnt have the children, so by today, was gaspin for them, like people who smoke but have run out of fags me thinks.

Had a social ish weekend, went out with mates on Saturday, had a great time, people attempted to pair me off, with single friends, went red, had a laugh, etc.

I have an interview tomorrow, its a second interview, fingers crossed, would be another leap up the ladder financially, and a great opportunity, hope I do well.

Tuesda [...]

So far so good!

annpawley@btinternet.com — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Today's the day

Earlier today my kids went off for the first time to stay at their dad's, and they're gonna be away all week. I thought I would really struggle but managed to get them sorted and off without breaking down. As far as I am aware, and I increasingly think I might be wrong, they think they are spending the week just with their dad and don't know the floosie even exists, let alone that they are (presumably) gonna be forced to spend a whole week [...]

Updated - Need to vent even more

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

He said "don't be so paranoid"....$%&#!!.....He wanted to see me over weekend but I was at bbq till about 8-3opm last night and he said urrrr out by then sorry...........he was out in pub where tart works, where he met her originally................I suggest tonight................ugh sorry..............he out again, I challenge does he have time to fit seeing me in his busy dating/single life and he says "don't be so paranoid"................EXCUSE M [...]

Beyond belief and then some more.

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Not sure how my sanity is still in tact. Idiot is on his way back from the funeral that I wasn't invited to and wanting support (the man who died I knew for about 17-18yrs and i wanted to go to funeral). My 15yr old has face of bruises from falling over as she said she was staying at her friends house last night but turned out they stayed elsewhere, out till all hours drunk. At least she was honest but this boys mother picked them up and even in the state they were in didn't think to [...]

We are all going on a Summer Holiday

arniesaccnuson@googlemail.com — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

The last three holidays that my daughter has been on, I have only know about it after the event. Two of the three have been without her big bro. His choosing, and I am not entirely sure that he would be that protective anyway..........teenagers 18/15.

Each holiday has been abroad, two in Spain and one in Florida. I am sitting here, aware from my daughters MSN tag of late, that she is off on holiday sometime soon or even today, and I watching the Spanish Air Crash on TV, and i [...]

And so it goes on

macrae.macrae@btopenworld.com — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Guess what - today has not been much better.

Wife is now using nanny to drive her to the station.

At work I actually had the thought that my wife had changed her mind (absolutely no idea where it came from) and I was able to smile for a few minutes until reality set in again.

When I get home I find out from the nanny that my wife has decided to work late and stay over in London. (I suspect it has more to do with not wishing to be in the same house as me) anyway [...]

It was Supposed to Have Been a Treat!

macrae.macrae@btopenworld.com — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Yesterday was one of the most stressful I have had to endure since being asked to leave.

Several months ago before all this blew up I booked a family outing for my wife, 2 eldest children and myself - train to London - King Tut exhibition at the O2 - cinema - boat trip on Thames - and meal before train home.

Although we had had a bit of a row the previous day I persuaded my wife that she had to come as the kids had been looking forward o this treat for a long ti [...]

If you have been taken for a ride

linda.mcdermot@ntlworld.com — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

If you have been taken for a RIDE by the Family Courts then show your support for the families on the Hercules Bus this week. I met the bus in Luton thought I would just take some photos I boarded at Luton and got off at Watford. The Families are sleeping in their cars and also on the bus.I have know the families from meetings with MPs who are also showing support we want the media in we want the public in courts to see what is going on.
I am off to try and cut a video with the [...]

I don't want this

joanne.graham@bms.com — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Is there any advice out there about the best way to tell children and how on earth you can maintain their relationship with the leaving parent?

My partner has left me for another woman - a friend - and is behaving very badly towards me . She appears committed to our daughter, P, and I want them to have contact but how am I supposed to cope with seeing xp when she visits our daughter? We are planning to tell P on wednesday and I'm dreading it - I [...]

Divorced Children from Mum

linda.mcdermot@ntlworld.com — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

It is 04 06 am I can not sleep I have not slept well since 2004 it is I think post traumatic shock disorder from a very bad court experience of losing a child long term.

I never feel alone and I have lots of other families to talk to about this silent problem of children going missing in the UK. There is a lot of pressure groups forming now and united in asking for the COURTS TO BE OPENED UP. Someone asked me in the chat room what is closed court.< [...]

Dogs

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

No much to report this week, I have spent as much time in the office as possible to avoid her.

This is her 2 week 'holiday', even though she is out of work now. She was going away to family but having fallen out with them all she is back at home. At least I am seeing the children who are being great. Who knows what they make of it all.

Father in law has ben staying this week as well to add to the fun, sharing a room with his daughter (ie stbx). Don't think that is [...]