Blog Entries tagged 'breaking up'

All done and dusted............

gilly3166@hotmail.co.uk — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well folks - it's been a long time since I came on the site - so thought I'd let you know how things are. Ex got engaged to significant other over the summer and divorce was finalised in September awaiting Court approval of the Consent Order. That was eventually sorted following a Court hiccup - meaning it took nearer 6 weeks than the 2 we were led to believe. All done and dusted so to speak - and as a bit of a result I managed to keep my pension entirely and got a share of the equity [...]

And the walls came tumbling down�.

mikehart@boltblue.com — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Some of the regulars may have noticed me conspicuous only by my absence. Not like me to hide away, but it all got a little too much a few weeks ago.

I have been struggling as ‘Dad’ to maintain a good relationship with my children, as myself and the ex have diametrically opposing views on childcare. The ex seems to think it is a good idea to allow the children pretty well free reign on most [...]

Jekyl and Hyde...my ex

emilyjosedgwick@aol.com — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi All

For those that have met me, probably think im one big party animal but im not all the time, I still have feelings and still get very down. Havent blogged for a while and yes I love to party really love it but we cant be party animals all the time!

It all happened with me last Thursday and was saying to peeps how good I have been with no contact ect for 5 weeks and the rest.

That particular day got a bit silly as was having a clear out and came across [...]

confusing

alisonstrange@ntlworld.com — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

a couple of weeks ago I found out my s2bx was living with his mistress and that it was within a mile of my home. I also found out who she was, my friend found her on facebook because her profile picture was one of him and her together. She's not pretty and she dresses like a tart loads of cleavage. He wouldn't of allowed me out dressed like that. Anyway I also found out from her facebook wall photo's etc that he had been seeing her for months and they'd bought furniture [...]

Feeling utterly wretched today

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Firstly, may I apologise.

I haven't been in wiki for some weeks.

Before, people used to comment on my blog with very positive c0mments, and with all of the support and understanding I received, I felt strong enough to take life on by myself.

Silly me!

What I forgot however is that - people don't really change. Neither should they, I guess. I mean, I know my wife is very controlling, and that's the reason why we clash, but it's absolutely not my place t [...]

What Hurts The Most

Jeannie@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi,

You know what hurts the most peeps in all of this adultery malarky its the fact that the adulterers just dont even give us a thought. What I mean is they just go about their affair whilst their partners go about our daily business of looking after the home or working our n*&ts off to provide for the family and their out there "having fun" whilst we are completely unaware.

I asked my husband this weekend whether he actually ever gave me a though [...]

Damn it!

yuki2061@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I do know he is very good at playing "words" on legal issue thgough his job !

I asked him to not sell the house because the house is ideal for keeping our dog and he said if he sell the house he has to find renting accomodation then he can't keep the dog.

Now I am realised... he is going to lent the house ! then he move to his girl friend's house !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He does NOT sell the house... but her house ,& [...]

At least i have an answer for all of this

penny.baxter@guoman.co.uk — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

first blog for a while, well found out today why my husband left he has a new woman in his life and its probably been going on for some time, i had my suspicions over a year ago and he always denied it, now i have been told the truth and confronted him today and he has admitted it, for about six months i have been ill thinking all of this was my fault and on pills etc to try and work out why why why well for some reason todays news has made me feel better [...]

Still no sense

christian2williams@hotmail.com — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

As the days go by, I'm wondering if she has actually slept with this guy or just wants me to believe she has to push me away. She passed me in her car tonight around 9pm (I was driving in the opposite direction). Odd that she wouldn't be with her new man on a Friday night, I also find it strange that she paid for the meal out I discovered on her credit card, surely if this guy was wining and dining her, he would have paid (I know she would have let him).

Her mother called me [...]

Sorted.....and it is the end

yuki2061@yahoo.co.uk — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I agreed his offer for divorce settlement...

People said I would take more settlement but I didn't care the money or property, even his police pension. I don't have enought money at the moment to take him to the court, I mean, I can't pay legal fee. So as for me, if I have get debt for legal fee, I wouldn't take him to the court. I know..he might has to pay me 20K more or less at least, but how much I have to pay to solicitor? 10K? 15K? Of course [...]

Day One - being buried in the woods

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Blog

Thank you for all the support I have received from my wonderful friends.

Been feeling really low and unreal - my mum and dad tell me to put a brave face on and smile and i will feel better - true I know, I will try harder!!! People have been very kind and nice to me, very kind - my friends seem to have been nicer to me than my husband has - what does that say?

What is love ? my mum asked me what attracted me to him in the first place? hell I was 15 that's [...]

Where do i go from here? i need peace, all i ask is peace.

cat_lima@hotmail.com — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I admit it, i admit defeat, i hold my hands up and say i did not think divorce and happy children were a warzone that cannot be penetrated until someone waves the white flag.....why do i say that.....because i have never saw my divirce or my childrens welfare as a battle or a fight to the death. I didnt think this was about point scoring or having control over the other party. I always thought it was just a way of admitting you no longer get on but still allowing the children to remain in a happ [...]

Husband Moved out today

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Don't really want to write much ..... my husband moved out today. After months of sort of trying to put things behind me I cannot forgive him and move on. he has not helped in this by not making me feel more secure. I am supposed to just think that its over and she has gone away, although I am not too sure about this.

Pleaded with him to come home at 8 pm last night instead of working over and being with her - but no - wouldn't do it - when he fina [...]

Did I get it all wrong?

christian2williams@hotmail.com — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Never written a blog before, but this seems like a good idea right now and will hopefully be something to look back on when my head stops spinning like a washing machine!! Needless to say that confused is only one of several emotions I feel at the moment.

My wife and I married three and a half years ago. She had been diagnosed as type one diabetic about six months before, at the time, we'd been together for around 12 years, we had both just turned 30 and decided now was a good [...]

When tomorrow becomes today

Lee.Turner63@ntlworld.com — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well the last few days haven't been that bad. Yes I'm sad and my emotions feel as though they've been in the ring with Mike Tyson, yes bitten ear included. I suppose that I'm starting to come to terms with it. I know that there is no way back, and that it has come to the end. You have no idea how much that hurts to admit. I went into this marriage thinking that this would be it, that we'd grow old together. We'd be the old couple that you see walking hand in han [...]

dont want to be here..

burnhem@btinternet.com — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

im takin daisys advice ..im blogging..

well it got worse today!

hubby took his name off joint account and has left me with absolutley nothin to live on !

i really didnt think he would do it..he wanted the account to stay joint until house was sold ..was easier he said then at least all bills got paid ! and this was only said on saturday..!

who or what changed his mind ???

he rang me at work today to tell me this ..im soo scared and upset im really thinking [...]

The last couple of weeks until I left.

annetteca08@gmail.com — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Once I had "caught him out" I felt very uncomfortable at home. Sometimes I slept on the settee, but he would always ask me why, as though it wasn't necessary.

In the day I go through my usual routine, working and making arrangements, in the evening I'd lie on the settee watching TV and I'd get the most terrible heart palpitations, I'd been aware I had a heart murmur since I had my daughter but it rarely effected me since I gave up caff [...]

Failure

reem@mahadi.freeserve.co.uk — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I've been trying to understand what I am going through

I have failed.

I don't understand what's happening to me.

I am aware that adultery, betrayal and the end of love and end of marriage are all causes of great sadness.

I am not in despair. I know I will be ok. But I also know that this is very hard to get over. If and when I do get over it, the pain will have subsided but I will have lost the energy and the will to love again. It is very [...]

I need advise...

saharvrad66@hotmail.com — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Me and my husband have been married in almost 2 years. It has been a very tough and hard journey for me and him. I am going to try to make this short...

First of we got married after 4 months of dating ( the reason being he knew if we didn't get married I had to retun back home because my visa was expiring) and his way of proposing was " well i know i wanna marry you one day, you have all the qualities I love with a women so lets do it ".

We have fou [...]

Back to reality

tillymint36@ntlworld.com — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Had a fantastic weekend including first wiki event. Thanks everyone for making me feel so welcome, and apologies for any drunken conversations.

Originally I was going to collect daughter from stbx as soon as i got back home. he decided he wanted to take her to local bonfire and firework display and drop her off here when it finished. On getting home this afternoon it was chucking it down, so i rang his mobile to see if fireworks still going ahead and if they were still goin [...]