Blog Entries tagged 'affairs and cheating'

1 step forward 2 steps back

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hmmmmm, good bit is I haven't cried since sunday, but having internal wobble. Felt a bit of anger and stuff last night and then just had awful night. Had one of those really vivid dreams about him me and the barmaid, I dreamt he left her and came back to be and she was gutted. Then couldn't settle and had millions of things going around my head. So this morning am very tired and feeling vunerable. I am going to see lots of him this week as he taken week out to see 15yr old. I am just [...]

My story

barbie44@hotmail.co.uk — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi I registered to this site for the first time yesterday and have found it helpful to read that I am not the only one suffering...............

I want to tell my story. Friends and family have been great supporting and listening but I just want to get it all down and perhaps find support from people who have gone through similar experiences. Here goes ...............

I have been married 26 years next month. I have loved, cherished and supported my husband. [...]

So far so good!

annpawley@btinternet.com — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Today's the day

Earlier today my kids went off for the first time to stay at their dad's, and they're gonna be away all week. I thought I would really struggle but managed to get them sorted and off without breaking down. As far as I am aware, and I increasingly think I might be wrong, they think they are spending the week just with their dad and don't know the floosie even exists, let alone that they are (presumably) gonna be forced to spend a whole week [...]

Updated - Need to vent even more

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

He said "don't be so paranoid"....$%&#!!.....He wanted to see me over weekend but I was at bbq till about 8-3opm last night and he said urrrr out by then sorry...........he was out in pub where tart works, where he met her originally................I suggest tonight................ugh sorry..............he out again, I challenge does he have time to fit seeing me in his busy dating/single life and he says "don't be so paranoid"................EXCUSE M [...]

confused, angry, depressed

Jeannie@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hello all my wiki friends

what would i do if you lot was not here? what would i do if i could not come here, get some advice, support and guidance.

I need your guidance now, i basically dont know what im doing, sounds stupid at 49 with 2 kids, but i dont! i dont really even know where to start i just feel so alone, so sad and im still crying since i found out about my husband's affair in December what is wrong with me why cant i seem to mak [...]

reality kicks in

mishmine@yahoo.com — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi all.

had to get my thoughts down tonight.

been in floods of tears, just started falling and cudnt stop them, and im usually so stong and together, feels like its not really me.

got email froms sols today saying the affidavit I had done for deemed service had been accepted, (had to do this as he wudnt sign the acknowledgment).

so this is really happening. I feel really sad, and lonely and lost. and the tears fell, tears for the loss of my past life, and fears f [...]

Stress, 1 st meeting with him face to face after he left

hanajohnstonova@hotmail.co.uk — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have been dreading this day. I asked him to move out 2 months ago, after I discovered he is continuing with his affair. Did nos speak to him since, except for a few e-mails and texts.

Contacted him last week we need to discuss some issues before the school starts and before he goes on hols with his new partner.

Feeling stressed but not that bad. I know I have to stay calm and in control.

He is coming in the evening and I have my 2nd session with my hypnotherapist be [...]

OMG what a day

donna.ogilvie@blueyonder.co.uk — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Am back again for a moan. My friend and her daughter were out for dinner tonight and who walked into the restaurant but my ex and his mistress. She gave them some verbal abuse and then immediately phoned me. I contacted my sister who managed to catch up with them and also gave them some abuse. Feel like crap now that I know she is here and they are openly flaunting their relationship. Aaaahhhh I hate him why did he have to do this to me and the kids. I can' [...]

Need AK47 please

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Wow, totally winded now. How thnigs can change in a few hours. He texted a few times and then rang. Ooops he changed his mind again. No reconciliation, just friendship and sex on offer. Actually forced him to talk about barmaid and he now say they friends, mentioned re' all his friends thought they were a couple, he denied it again. He is feeling hard done by as he says it's alright for us women as we keep the family home, kids etc etc but the poor blokes lose everything. AW [...]

Improving now

andyrumble1@googlemail.com — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well, the loneliness is still there but the depression is clearing. I am now managing to work and to focus on a solution instead of drowning in the glooms!

I have decided to move to London to put some distance between me and my ex. If I don't, then she will continue to torture me and reel me back in every time it looks as if I am moving on. The downside is that I will be a long way from my children. But I can't stay here! My life is in London in every way. I know pe [...]

Can it go anymore downhill?????

stellahall59@hotmail.co.uk — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Scumbag arrived at 10.30-after emailing that he would come at 11.00. He said he was just going to take some things out of the shed. I said I would prefer him to start with the things from the house. He then informed me that he didn't have anything in the house, so I reminded him of all the stuff he had been storing in the loft etc.He told me I could dispose of all that, to which I said I wanted him to do the hard work of moving it, as it was his property.

He then informed me that h [...]

My Soap Opera Life

clive@burroughs69.fsnet.co.uk — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

My wife and I have been together 8 years, married 7, happiest times of my life (or so I thought). Then I found out she had an affair with my"best friend", and moved out for six months, leaving me with our 2year old daughter. When that went pear shaped she came back, sorry for the mistake and we were going to make it work, but of course it had been my fault for driving her to him as I wasn't giving her the love and attention she deserves.

Then [...]

Back on the Blog!

heath.davis@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Blog

It's been 5 weeks since my last confession, but I just haven't had the will to blog, chat etc.

I have been on to browse, and keep up with how people are doing though.

It's got something to do with not wanting to wear out my welcome, ‘cause I'm still in the same place I was 5 weeks, 6 weeks, 7 weeks ago, and don't want to bore people with my lack of movement on what's happening. In fact, I'm in worse place now than I wa [...]

How did it come to this?

stellahall59@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Scumbag is supposed to be coming tomorrow, to pick up his belongings. I have been here before on 2 previous occasions, and he didn't turn up, but from what youngest son says, he is fully intending to stick to his promise for tomorrow.

My sister is coming over from M/c, and a couple of friends have promised to call in 'for coffee' to give some moral support.

Isn't it wierd. I have spent the last 29yrs of my life with this bloke, and here I am begging people to come [...]

Not getting any easier

andyrumble1@googlemail.com — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well, it is nearly four months since my separation and 7 months since she started her internet affairs. She is away at the moment with my children for a month and the loneliness is stonger than anything I have ever felt. The tears and extreme depressions are some way in the past now but I am left with this emptiness.

We moved up to the peak district to try to make things work (at least that was what I thought) but actually i just brough her closer to one of the men she met on sexi [...]

I hope there is such a thing as Karma!

sarahchidwick@hbosplc.com — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Yesterday I was so shocked. Numb and very depressed after my day in court. There are some great people on here and your comments to my blog, your words of comfort in Chat and PM all helped me so much - thank you to you all.

I got up this morning and thought "right you can either take this lying down and let them win OR you can get up and survive" I chose the latter. My girls need me.

I have sought new legal advise today and take comfort in t [...]

Struggling dealing with me

yes1750@gmx.com — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi,

Am new to this site and having read alot of the stories they make me very sad, unlike most of the stories about husbands affairs and how they are acting badly, well I am one of theose husbands who has been labelled a liar , I had an affair online with a girl I have only met 3-4 times on business but my wife found some explicit emails from me to her and thought I was having an affair in I guess in some ways I was and do not blame my wife one bit As I would of assumed the [...]

Here we go again...

sarahjaneof2pv@msn.com — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi All

Havent blogged in a while. Situation is now (found out about affair back in Nov, together 22 years, married 1o) H back and forth from home to his flat - wanted us - wanted to be on own, wanted her (although apart from seeing her for a few dates has never really 'gone' to her - has every chance to but lasts a few days (she "scratches an inch" - his words!!!).

We've now had a few weeks of seeing each other at weekends which has been nice -(t [...]

Are the cracks beginning to show?

sarahchidwick@hbosplc.com — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

My husband came round to collect our girls yesterday. He was so different...

Previously he has been very 'closed', very business like or deliberately hurtful, mentioning his mistress and his new life. All of this is so out of character of the husband I knew and loved, a complete personality change.

Yesterday he came in, was very chatty. Wanted to know all about our holiday. (The children and I have just retuned from a week [...]

A year of firsts...

sarahchidwick@hbosplc.com — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I still haven't reached the anniversary of discovering my husbands affair. That's still three weeks away, our tenth wedding anniversary is three and half weeks away!

It's been a very, very tough year and there have been many times when I really didn't think I would come out of it, but I have - almost!

There are still days of tears, but they are fewer than before. I still miss my old life and wish I could turn the clocks back, but I am just beginning&nbs [...]