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The love of friends sustains me

jackie_reilly@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

FRIENDS ARE ANGELS WHO LIFT US TO OUR FEET WHEN OUR WINGS HAVE TROUBLE REMEMBERING HOW TO FLY.

I've lifted this quote from one of those circular emails arriving daily. This simple concept really struck home with me this morning. Awake and wondering what hit me; where this thunderbolt had come from that wrecked my life; generally feeling lost and very, very sorry for myself, I have taken this to heart this morning. This is my thought for those moments of self-doubt and mis [...]

life goes on....

michael@mac-wedd.com — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

Was at the job center last week to sign on, never thought I'd be doing that but the one here is really nice and the staff are great. Had my interview with a really nice woman and we had a good laugh (sadly she's married), I gave her the full story and managed to keep it together while telling her (just) which is a huge step forward for me.

Couple of good jobs that would suit me down to the ground, so CV has been updated and sent off. All of them are full time which might cause a [...]

On a Downer!

steve_sonya.dench@tiscali.co.uk — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

I am on a downer this morning and so far it is lasted 9 hours. Woke up at 3.00 am and couldn't get back to sleep. I don't know what it is like to have a normal night's sleep any more as I haven't slept properly since hubby left at the start of November. I go to bed absolutely knackered and then bing I wake up any time from 0230 onwards. All that goes through my mind is my situation, how to get myself to a better place emotionally, what I [...]

The oven door..

lizevans69@hotmail.com — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

My oven door handle came off in my hand tonight. I was in the middle of cooking dinner and bang there it was. I was upset to say the least. It is part of the fixtures and fittings and obviously I will have to pay for it to be fixed if I can't do it. The screws have gone down between the outer and inner door liner.

I was upset.... I am so fed up with working all the hours god makes and when something like this goes wrong, yes it does throw me. Just more unnecessary expense.
I fe [...]

ugh.

realdad@live.com — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

ok, so maybe it is a bit of a crap day.
Friday my stbx gave me the separation papers her attorney had drawn up and also sent to my attorney. She said: do you want to review this today & we'll talk about it later? Or wait until Sunday? I said lets wait. (So I'm going to review these with her tonight. yippie.)

I started to read them friday night, but it was a real downer, I won't lie. I'm "there" emotionally wanting the divorce to be over with, but the c [...]

Cold feet

ajb_29_@hotmail.co.uk — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

Hello wiki friends,

Good News: I have got a new flat sorted. Nice converted victorian semi with a little garden for fat cat (new going out & coming routine will need to be established !!)

Help/Advice needed: I have started talking to other men in the last couple of months but at the first mention of meeting up - i run amile and get cold feet. I really dont understand why my nerves or feelings get the better of me. STBX was sleeping with someone new within 2 weeks of us s [...]

New at this.....

wendyxtodd@gmail.com — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

My partner left me 2 weeks ago and I am bereft with grief. We have had a lot of grief over the last few years. My Mum has cancer, her Mum has motor neuron disease and is also dying. It has been hard!Over the last few weeks things have really come to a head and we have been fighting terribly. I have behaved badly and said some mean things which really hurt her. Everything got on top of me and I just couldn't cope any more. When I struggle to cope I tend to get defensive and not listen whic [...]

just needed to get it out.

daniellecordery@hotmail.com — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

Not really sure what i ment to say on this but here we go
I first want to say is it wrong of me to feel so much happier without my ex? Mind you he put me thru eonugh crap to last me a life time. After we split up first time i finally could see what he was doing to me, started to get my life together again we were apart for about a year but he then managed to worm his way back in stupid me! Had him back for about 3 months and he said he had changed yeah how many time must one pers [...]

I need some help....

jackie.jenkins@live.co.uk — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

I wonder if anyone is going through the same thing, or has any advice. My 8 year old son is not dealing with the changes that have happened over the last year. My husband and I serapated last May after 20 years. We had been having difficulties for the previous 2/3 years and he met and is now with a woman who lived a few doors away, who's eldest daughter is in my son's year at school.

It has been quite traumatic, really, for myself and the children. [...]

The Unbroken Chain

jo.gold@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

I just read Lucretia's blog, and started to write this as a comment, but thought it was more like a blog itself! Lucretia, I hope you read this...your wonderful blog inspired me.

This will be my second mother's day without mum. I miss her daily, and wish she could see how we are moving on with our lives.She was a formidable person. Strong , decisive, and practical, always able to see through to the heart of the matter. She battled with ill h [...]

Mothering Sunday

lizevans69@hotmail.com — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

The correct name for Mothers Day in the UK is Mothering Sunday.

Mothering Sunday is always the fourth Sunday of Lent however as the dates vary as to when Easter and Lent fall the actual Sunday chosen to celebrate it may vary.

It is more often referred to as "Mother's Day" and it origin is distinctly different to Mothers Day in America although the sentiments are similar.

In Victorian times, it was a day [...]

My first week

jsygurl@hotmail.com — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

This is my first week as a separated wife. It has been a long hard week. Basically, what I really want to do is to give my husband a good kicking, but for lots of valid reasons, that isn't a good idea.

His plan is to leave for a flat at the end of May. He seems to not want to tell the kids anything until he goes. But I would like them to know now that he is planning to go. I hate the thought of the kids suffering watching him pack up and go, but as a child of divorced parents myself, [...]

And then the tears will fall...

jackie_reilly@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

What happened to all the love? Where did it go? Was I pouring all that emotion into an empty vessel all those years? Year after year of loving only you, caring only for you, yet you didn't want it? Didn't feel it? Ever? That's what you said.

What happened to the secret signs I mistook for love? The looks and gazes, the held hands, the smiles, the hugs and the times just being near seemed like heaven. When you walked into the room, every time without fail, the room [...]

First court date

geraldineburgess@btinternet.com — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

Has anyone gone to court for financial settlement without using a solicitor? Thanks

hijacked by the tyranny of inanimate objects

jo.gold@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

Was thinking tonight ( somewhat bizarrely) about my reactions to defrosting the freezer. I am now living in a house that belonged to my mum, who died in 2008. It's where the kids and I moved to, to get out of the marital home. The disintegration of my marriage and the loss of my mum were quite close together, and I found it quite tough to deal with things. Taking over a house filled with your mum's things, in itself is quite difficult. I left, just about all of my worldly possess [...]

Contentment

jessica_westley@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

I have found this last week or so difficult, and although I knew it would be hard to basically choose to be a single parent (by telling my OH if he didn't move out I'd just file for divorce and we'd all lose out), but oh boy it's like having a newborn baby in the house again. Which is something I know about, having had four of the *ahem* cherubs.

When you have a newborn it's vitally important you just go into basic survival mode. The most important thing is to get ad [...]

Slimeball

steve_sonya.dench@tiscali.co.uk — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

Came face-to-face with hubby yesterday at work. As I opened the door to go to the company's coffee bar he came out. He had a sheepish grin on his face (the look he always has when he is embarrassed) and he said hello. I started off by saying hi without realising who it was. Quickly changed my face to a glare but I shouldn't think he noticed (never been able to give dirty looks very well). Seeing him didn't bother me though as I just thought [...]

Small steps - right direction.

a.leho@btinternet.com — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

I have had a minor breakthrough (I think). My stbx tells me that he has accepted that I am going to move on, and he is not objecting to the house valuation next week (yet). He offered to do some painting - but I turned him down, because last time he deliberately messed up to delay things! I have handed back his invoices and told him to think about how HE is going to pay for his fishing trip. I have also suggested that he needs to think about what he is going to do to next, to face his futur [...]

Deep joy!

stevejhughes@live.co.uk — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

Now the silent treatment, not responding to emails , she must have got the solicitors letter regarding the finances, I even said in one email I would drop the kids back early on Sunday as its mothers day, their is no pleasing some people!

Looks like the Easter holidays will be a problem just like Christmas when I had to get a court order to see the kids, she wont reply giving me dates to have the kids so I can book the time off work.

I think the parental responsibility would be a [...]

Leaving on a jet plane...

jeepgirluk@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:00:00 +0100

... don't know when I'll be back again...

I had my visa interview recently and were approved. Our flights are booked and the packing has begun. We will be starting a new life in the USA in two weeks time.

Thank you to everyone on here who has given me advice and support.

Always remember, no matter how bad it gets, it really can only get better.