Blog Entries for FrankieLee

is this normality?

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So it's been a few months.

Physical changes

I finally moved out of our house with the help of friends and family. My husband refused to have anything to do with the whole moving thing, so I spent a couple of weeks going through our possessions, dividing it up, and had his share delivered to his parents house. Possibly the most heartbreaking task I've ever had to deal with. I kept stumbling across memories I'd long forgotten.

There have been some maj [...]

i know you'll read this

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

You criticised me for showing only my 'best face' in this blog, that I've kept parts of my life private including my social life.

As it appears to have failed your notice, this is a divorce website, not a chart of my monthly flow or a social calander detailing my every move. I come here to discuss the demise of our marriage and the impact that has had on myself and Saffron.

You called me a 'workshy lazy pig.' You said that the house was 'always a stat [...]

my husband found my blog

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have no idea how he managed to track it down, but he has and he's read it from start to finish. He was aware of my membership for this site, and my user name is basically my own name so I guess it wouldn't take much, but I feel strangely violated.

He admitted this morning that he'd read it. Apparently it has make him realise the hurt his actions have had on our family, the repercussions of his behaviour. He wants to meet up tonight to discuss our future.

He also now [...]

The New Me

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I've moved out of the house. I could dwell on the negative, how my husband refused to enter the premises to sort his things out, how I spent days meticulously going through our possessions, packing my things and his, how he then refused to collect his crap and furniture so a friend had to help me dump it on his parent's driveway, how one of our cats ran away and the other got run over, how our daughter has turned into a madam, how utterly heartbreaking and bewildering I've f [...]

the casino and the strippers

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

To describe the humiliation of last night’s events is impossible. Our marriage has sunk to such a low that I can’t believe this is my life that I am living.

My daughter has been very ill recently with a chest infection and has been dosed up on all kinds of antibiotics. She coughs constantly, sometimes so heavily that she vomits, and I’ve had a couple of scares where she nearly inhaled her own sick. This has means around the clock care, sleepless nights listening to he [...]

screw me over

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I got a phone call at 3am after my daughter's birthday party. It was my husband, drunk, phoning from his office. He kept insisting that there was something very important he had to tell me but couldn't because of our impending divorce; that if I emailed him five examples of why I've been a bad wife then he could divulge this very important information.

He must think I'm really stupid.

His phone calls continued until 6am. I was exhausted after my daughter's bi [...]

Post-Party Musings

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

My daughter's party was a success and I'm now relaxing with a glass of wine at home. I dropped her off at my mums to give myself a break; I find exhaustion exasperates my emotions. My husband didn't phone, email or send a card to wish her a happy birthday, which has cemented my resolution to divorce him. Quite frankly, I think the man is a pile of s**t.

I had a couple of tearful moments when I remembered all the plans we'd discussed for her birthday party, h [...]

He Just Rejected Our Daughter On Her Birthday

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

He's really overstepped the mark this time.

Last night, he PROMISED our daughter that he'd be there for her birthday party tomorrow. He told her he'd take the day off, and would be there to help with all the arrangements. He even phoned me today asking to pick up a present and card for her, that he'd be around later to help wrap. She's has been jumping around all day, telling everyone who'll listen that her daddy will be coming to her birthday party, saying how m [...]

Another No Show

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I'm sorry I haven't updated. The day after my last blog, my husband said he wanted to come home. He transferred £300 to my account and asked that I bought new underwear, some DVD's and a meal for our ‘reconciliation.'

Dutifully, I had everything arranged for his return. I waited in beautiful new underwear, a cooked meal with candles, romantic music, and films I knew he'd enjoy. He didn't show up. I sat for three hours before deciding to give up.

losing my home

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

My in-laws phoned at 3am waking me up, looking for my husband; apparently he was supposed to be back at theirs before midnight but stayed out. At 4.30am I got a phone call from my husband asking to come home. He said he loved me, missed me, and couldn't be without me.

At 8.30am I phoned him to ask if this was still the case. He was rude, abrasive, told me he didn't love me anymore and wants a divorce.

I have the day to move out of our home. He [...]

he packed a bag and was gone

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

He left me last night. Packed a bag and said he was going to his parents for the week. Apparently we need time apart to reassess what matters to us individually and as a couple; I am not contact him or he'll walk away for good.

I had the humiliation of explaining to my daughter's teacher this morning the situation at home. I was trying so hard not to cry, my voice started cracking up, but I'm relieved that I managed to finish the meeting without breaking down. S [...]

the old me

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I can vaguely remember having a life. I went to college, had good friends, and I was happy. We played pool, I wore make up, and I didn't have a husband. I had my daughter, I lived with my mother, we were OK. I went to college, I got my degree, my hair was styled, my nails were manicured, my clothes were nice, I had a cute car. I was me.

Now? Not so much. I sit in a nice house and wax lyrical about how I could've been someone. I am an educated woman and I feel so stiffled.

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my world crashed

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

When he finally came home, we talked. We talked for hours, deciding whether we could work things through, if there's enough to build on to save this marriage, and despite my hurt, I asked to try again. We both agreed there's enough love to start afresh.

Last night, he came home from work and, as we watched television, I did something I haven't done in years - I performed oral sex on him. It's not something I have particularly liked doing in the past, but last night was d [...]

My Story So Far

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Sun, 17 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

My husband left for work on Friday morning and hasn't returned. We've been married just over a year, and although we've had tough times, I thought we would be able to make things work.

He has since contacted me and told me we're over. I've tried calling him, but he either ignores my phone calls or accuses me of being 'controlling' and that I'm 'ruining his weekend.'

I feel so lost, so confused, so hurt, and I'm trying to keep thin [...]