Blog Entries for nowitsmylife

This should I hope be my last blog.

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have wanted to update my Blog for a long while now and never found the words or the time to do so until now. But so much has changed in my life since that dreadful Christmas last year.

Those of you who remember my story from the beginning of this year will know just how bad Things were for me and what an utter mess I was and in at that time.For those who don't know its enough to say I was married for twenty years before disco [...]

Hello a belated update

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hello Everyone !!

Wow its been such a long time since I was last here don't know why except I just don't get the time I used to have Which is a shame cos I owe so many of you so much for the shoulder you gave me. The help you all offered at my lowest ebb was to an outsider just words but to me was a huge and invaluable source of energy and inspiration that put my feet squarely back on the ground.. Sorry to those who sent [...]

Humbled

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi it’s been a while since my last Blog I did start on several occasions but always something I needed to deal with came up .

On the odd few minutes I have spent here reading other peoples stories I’ve come to realise just how bad relationships can be and more so how cruel uncaring and downright nasty people can be in a relationship. I suppose to some extent I’m a little naive I read the stories in the news but somehow it just doesn& [...]

Hi all!!

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Sat, 16 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi all!

I was editing my Blog the other day when the blue screen of death descended onto my desktop. I can see that the Blog I was editing was lost AHHH Don’t know why it disappeared from the site but it was probably the fault my end that lost it. Also I received a private message alert via email. I signed into the site but there were no new messages in my inbox.

If you were the person/persons who sent me messages sorry I haven’t deliberately ignored you. I just d [...]

Shopping! Why do i hate it????

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi all Well I’m still not feeling down as I have been so many times over the last few weeks. So many things are quite alien to me though take shopping for one. I used to enjoy going shopping with my stbx every Thursday not only to help out but also to spend some time with her. But today when in my local Asda I was well aware that for all my time trying to help I took very little notice of what my wife was actually putting in the trolley and where she picked those things up from. How the h [...]

A good couple of days.

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi all!! It has been an odd weekend for me, not as depressing as I was expecting no where near. My daughter was going abroad on a school trip on Saturday morning so when I arrived home from work I duly started to cook a full English breakfast; it’s something we have always done before a long trip and as I was there I had to have one too didn’t I? Just as I was dishing up my stbx came over from next door she wanted to say goodbye to our daughter but she was early though but I let he [...]

Sat / Sunday

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Yes its Saturday my daughter has gone away on her school trip; my stbx and her lover have gone to north Devon so that leaves just me. I’m having a quick cuppa before deciding what I’m going to do about the radiator in my daughters bedroom that I just found had been leaking all over her school course work under her bed a lot of which is now ruined she didn’t need this she has got enough to deal with at the moment. She will be upset again when she gets home. As usual my stbx is [...]

Thursday/Friday

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi all Thursday that was a strange day it started as only a morning can when you have a houseful of hung over teenage girls. It was so good to hear the giggling and joviality back in this home it has been like a prison cell at times lately so quiet and unwelcoming. I went to the bank to get some Euros for my daughter and ran into my stbx’s cousin we chatted for a while. She is shocked didn’t know what to say at first so I just told her to say exactly what you’re thinking. Tha [...]

Time to catch up.

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I m having to flip through this Blog, I missed a day or so, please bear with me. Monday afternoon was a bit flat and boring loads of time to my self, so much to do but so little enthusiasm to do any of it. I suppose it makes you a bit like that when the reason you had the enthusiasm to do so much before has left. My Daughters at work she looked so tired when I picked her up from school, I don’t think she slept much last night. I am a little concerned for her. She has a school trip abroad [...]

Sunday night Monday morning.

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Oh hum I had a bad evening at home, wife’s still living next door and I was not feeling particularly sociable towards her. She decided to try and speak to me, I was in my garage when she walked in being as nice as she could be, for once I just walked straight past her shut the gate and came inside without saying a word, looking in her direction, or even acknowledging she was there. Why I did it I don’t know I just didn’t want to have anything to do with her today. I cooked a [...]

Sat Sun

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi its Blog time and here we go another instalment in this never ending rollercoaster ride we call divorce. Firstly the photo on my Blog Yes it’s me in France summer 2007 And Dumped2 you sure put a smile on my face calling me a Hunk i needed that one. And ciaobella Dave and the others who have been kind enough to comment on my Blog or send me private messages and emails big thanks you’re great. To those who thought about it but haven’t, I don’t bite don’t be shy! [...]

FRIDAY

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Friday sorry this is so very long. Yes as expected today turned into another deep downer. Last night all I could think about was divorce, having to sell my home and the dreaded finances of course. I still needed to hear what my wife’s plans were so I could deal with where my daughter wanted to go. I couldn’t switch off all night long and by the time my wife decided to turn up I was exhausted and desperate for some sleep. I was the one who went back over the same old ground telling h [...]

Thursday

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

After the highs and minor wobbles of the last three days its back on a downer for me today. I found that my wife’s sister had a huge row with my wife in front of their parents and all four ended up in tears, her sister virtually disowning my wife and everyone telling my wife that her lover will never be accepted, will never be welcome in their homes nor will they visit them either. Big brother got involved and it’s just another huge fall out in her family something I desperately want [...]

Wednesday

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Wednesday Here again just come home from a night shift the only sound in here is me tapping on this keyboard my daughter is at school wife? Oh yes she does not live here anymore. The weeks between her admitting her affair with the neighbour and last Sunday when she eventfully moved, well it was torture in the extreme. But now she is next door it’s a weight off my shoulders. Just not having to look at her or communicate too often has made my life so much easier. Its not easy don’t get [...]

Tuesday

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Tuesday Yesterday wasn’t too bad; though shopping was a nightmare my daughter wanted to drag me up there to buy some trendy clothes. To be honest I could see why when she went through my wardrobe laughing at some of the items in it. Teenagers find it so easy to embarrass us don’t they? Things like “don’t through that away dad it will be back in fashion soon.” I saw someone wearing that on the TV one of those black and white films. ? And what museum did you buy thi [...]

Monday and all well.

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Well its 0405 on a dark Monday morning when I started to write this, I will post it Monday. My wife moved in next door as she said she was going to do that’s it game over. My home even though my daughter is here feels cold, desolate and unwelcoming. I’ve been doing stupid things to occupy myself all night long. I have been sleeping in the spare room for a while now but I stripped the double bed we used to share took everything off it and washed the lot on a hot wash. That was a comfy [...]

Sunday and its a bad one!

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

My wife and I sat down and discussed things yesterday, going over the same old ground and yet again I ended up very upset pouring my heart out but for what? did it do any good? No it didn’t, she has decided to move next door today with him. I thought it would be good to put some space between us, but its hurting me like hell. I don’t know if I can deal with it but know I have too. I have to get used to the fact that my wife is next door with that pot smoking low life? I loved that w [...]

Thursdays downer, Friday on the up

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Now Updated read more tab didnt work this morning?? Well yesterday was a bad day for me it was the first time I saw my wife accepting a lift to work from my next door neighbour. She smiled and waved as they drove off but for me it hurt like hell it was a red rag to a bull. Blood boiling I went upstairs threw all her clothes into bin liners and dumped them outside his door. Rang and told her what I had done and went off to buy new door locks That’s what she wants, that’s what she can [...]

Ups and downs

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hi all!!

Well it’s been a bit of a rollercoaster week for me so many lows but a few highs mixed in. I had written several blogs but changed my mind about the content and deleted them. So I try again. After feeling better about myself last week I’m on a bit of a downer I still can’t come to terms with my wife of twenty years jumping into bed with the guy next door every time I go to work at night. Don’t get me wrong I have ac [...]

My first step

goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Ok today at 10.30 with a belly full of butterflies the size of water buffalo I walked into a solicitor’s office feeling very uneasy alone unsure what to expect I sat down and waited. This was my first step it’s taken me about 10 days to calm down enough, gather my thoughts, put the hurt to one side and decide what to do next. Now it’s my turn my wife told me she wanted unreasonable behaviour But No not a hope in hell! Its adultery it’s quicker and it& [...]