Blog Entries for chris_34_dad

In the hands of the court now...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Afer dropping my son off this morning, I headed off to the Family Law Court with signed paperwork in hand.

I was amazed at how quickly I was able to get in and there was only 2 people in line to see the court clerk.

I filed my paperwor, paid my $167.00 filing fee, and in less than 10 minutes, was assigned a case number.

The clerk instructed me on assembling a packet for the Judge to review and sign, I headed up to the Judge's chambers and dropped them in the in-box.

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Some things to think about...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you..

2. No man or woman is worth your tears, & the one who is, won't make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand & touches your heart.

5. The w orst way to mi [...]

Divorce Papers have been signed...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Despite my efforts since mid-April to get the x2b to sign divorce paperwork, I had all but given up on her being civil and agreeing to the divorce terms I had laid out.

I actually scheduled a meeting for this Saturday to complete a petition for divorce with the court, regardless of the x2b's views on it. That would have resulted in her being ordered to court, and going through mediation, etc.

When I arrived home last night, there was an envelope in the mail. She ac [...]

good blog entry finally! - a date!

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So...as a few of you were on chat the other day when I connected from my business trip, I mentioned that I had secured a date for the evening and was very excited about it.

I traveled to a casino near my previous home in California this week for business, and have just returned to Las Vegas this evening. I had taken my son with, since his grandmother on his mother's side lives along the way. The drive is about 3 hours to her house, and another hour or so to my old town.

To [...]

Disdain has finally found its way into my heart...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

As I discovered that the x2b has recently booked a vacation (or holiday for you Brits) to Cancun with her np.

This, being the same destination that she and I spent our true honeymoon at. We took it a month before the wedding because timing worked out best.

Will she be strolling down the same beach in the same sunset, holding the hand of another, replacing the memories with new ones?

It sometimes seems that that's what she's trying to do. Re-live every good memory o [...]

Just when you think its getting better...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Wed, 21 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

...something comes along and knocks you down.

I thought I was doing so much better. My son went away for 9 days with his mother. I had a really hard time, but the report back was that he was doing okay on this visit, which made me feel much better about the whole thing.

I drove to California to pick him up the day before Mother's Day, and I met with his mother for a bit before she went back to her house. There wasn't much for us to say to eachother, so I guess that mea [...]

News in Sin City...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

It seems as if many of the old faces have faded away and a whole mass of new ones have appeared. In most cases in the world that would be good...but sadly, we are all in some sort of horrible situation that was forced upon us in one way or another.

As for me, much has changed.

At a certain point where actually filing for divorce become imminent, the x2b reverted into wanting to give things another shot. She insisted that we give it a try and even promised to move from Californi [...]

Update on life in Vegas...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Well...it's been a while. I almost feel guilty for staying away so long as so much has changed in my life.

In my last post, I mentioned that my son's mother was going to fly to Vegas to pick him up and fly back for 2 weeks...so...she did actually come through on that end and I did take him to the airport.

After the 3rd day with his mother in California, she called and said he had been crying and asking for daddy and asking to go home. She wasn't sure [...]

Rough weeks ahead...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

So...here we go.

After cancelling the last 2 times my x2b was supposed to have visitation with our son, she finally seems to have come through. I will be meeting her at the airport early tomorrow morning and he will be flying home with her for 2 weeks.

She has spent a grand total of 12 days since September 17th. Only one full week, which was the week of Christmas and I nearly forced her to spend that week with him. I had to update her on his potty training program, his breakfas [...]

long awaited update...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

So...here I am. All settled in Las Vegas. First month under my belt, and as much as it has been a great move for me, my heart bears a heavy burden. The good: I love my new rental property. Its a wonderful home. I love my new job. I'm doing great so far and fully expect being the best at what I do there. My roommate moved in last weekend and paid me $500 US for Feb. rent. That's fantastic. My last job is paying me my monthly commissions, as agreed upon, so another $2500 US will b [...]

Update on life...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Since I have been so busy with my move and new job, and unable to logon to Wikivorce from the new office, due to strict IT/IS restrictions, I thought I should blog a life-update to my UK friends (and Spain and Scotland and South America, of course...I didn't forget you 3!!!)

So, it's official. My son and I moved to Las Vegas on January 2nd. My mother in-law followed me in my car, with my boy in the car seat. I drove the 26' moving truck. We found a wonderful house for [...]

No conscience...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Sometimes the complete lack of respect for another person's feelings astounds me. I can never imagine intentionally making an effort to hurt someone else with no remorse or conscience.

This evening, I was having a conversation with my mother in-law about the upcoming American holiday to give thanks for the land our ancestors stole from the Native Americans. We eat turkey and watch football to show our gratitude. While on the phone, my x2b calls my cell twice, lea [...]

Looking towards the future...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

This weekend was not what I expected, nor was the outcome of the events that followed.

There is good news and bad news...then more good news.

I dropped off my son at his daycare Friday morning and headed off to Las Vegas for a job interview I've been anticipating for a couple of weeks. My x2b was going to pick up my son and I had expected that she would not be alone, so I warned the teachers at the daycare so they would not be surprised. My [...]

A long weekend...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I don't really know where to start today, but I have to get some things down on the proverbial "paper".

This was a long and very emotional weekend for me. I'm so torn apart inside from all this, I don't know what to think anymore.

My x2b came to visit for the weekend. (Actually, she had to work near our home, so it was an excuse to visit.) She arrived Saturday evening at about 9:00 and spent some time with our son and then we ended up in the same room, [...]

The next steps...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well...I haven't posted a blog entry in about a week, and so much has changed.

The e-mail in my previous blog simply merited a polite, "I got your e-mail - thank you." Guess it didn't quite have the effect I was hoping for. Can't say I didn't try.

We have since had further conversations about foreclosure on the house and finalizing things. I met with an attorney again to discuss options. I left feeling very good about my situation if things have t [...]

an e-mail...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I can't say for sure what my intentions are. As it becomes more and more clear to me that my wife has decided that we will not be married in the future, I have resorted to the following e-mail. Part of my intention is to make her think about what we have, while part of it is to embed notes for comparison into her subconsious. Will her new partner be all of these things that she knows to be true?

Just read please. We don't need to discuss.

Pros? [...]

can't add comments, so keep on bloggin replies...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

she called again at lunch and left a pathetic message about me ignoring her. so i broke down and called her back. when i did, the whole conversation was, "what's going on?" "nothing - working" "oh..ok...was just checking in" "ok" "did you want to say something?" "what do you want me to say? you made it clear we had nothing else to discuss" then her office phone rang and she had to go.
All that for nothing. What a stup [...]

update...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

(had to blog 'cuz wiki wouldn't let me add this comment after Andrew's and Fatboy's comments...odd)

I'm not sure what the overall effect will be, nor am I a professional, but so far, it seems to have gotten under her skin.
As I didn't call her back last night, she sent me a txt message as early as 7:15 a.m. this morning - "I left 2 messages last night. Call me when you can."
I didn't call. At about 8:00 a.m., I sent a very impersonal e [...]

2 can play at this game...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 22:32:31 +0100

Well...after my x2b making it obvious that she can go without communicating, here's how things played out over the last couple days.

As I mentioned before, she sent the txt message "will call u later..." on Friday afternoon. I drove to Vegas with my son Saturday morning and arrived in time for some Halloween trick-or-treating at a neighborhood shopping center. I dressed him up in his Red Power Ranger costume and he was ecstatic! I took a camera-phone [...]

growing more distant...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

So, it's obvious that we are continually growing apart. My wife's absence makes it easier for her to block me (and my son) out of her thoughts. Or so I'm assuming, at least. How else could she go for days at a time without even calling to see how he's doing? I know that's just an excuse for me, as I want her to call me to just say "hi", so that my hopes are not destroyed.

I'm currently in Las Vegas with friends. It's 8:40 a.m. on a Sunday morn [...]