Blog Entries for Milady

Feeling better

sue.ramsey1@btopenworld.com — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Back at work now and feeling better about things. Got my Absolute through this week, am an getting used to being truly single. One thing I've learned through this is that I never know how I'm going to feel about things. I was expecting the Absolute (in fact I was expecting it before Christmas - maybe my Sol sat on it until afterwards??), and was mentally prepared for receiving it. When it dropped onto the doormat (I used to be one of those!!) I was pleased it had arrived. Then wh [...]

Trying to make s fresh start

sue.ramsey1@btopenworld.com — Mon, 31 Dec 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Had a good Christmas, but can't help feeling that there's someone missing. Kids are okay. They got the presents they wanted for Christmas - all paid for by me. Ex said he'd give them money so they could buy themselves something, but he turned up to visit on Christmas Day with nothing. And anyway, it should be me who's getting the money, as I bought their presents, and he doesn't pay anything towards their upkeep. I'll have to go to the CSA in the new year and try [...]

Another "first"

sue.ramsey1@btopenworld.com — Sat, 22 Dec 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Just getting myself into the right frame of mind for my first Chrstmas without the ex. Lots of positives, like there being no drunk in the corner, no-one dissing my plans for festive entertainment for the kids, no-one dictating my mood. But I know I'll feel a bit alone and a bit weird, even though I've got my kids with me and my mum and dad are coming to visit. It'll just be different, and I'm determined to be positive about it.

Having said that, he came over today to [...]

Feeling empty now the dust has settled

sue.ramsey1@btopenworld.com — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well, my Decree Nisi just came through, I've got the house transferred into my sole name, got away without sharing any of the equity with him, got 2 payrises in the last 3 months and for the first time in 15 years have got spare money at the end of the month.

Problem is, now there are no battles to fight and no uncertainties left, I just feel empty. I'm sitting here on my own, one child in bed and the other in his room on his Playstation, and I'm worried now that I'll g [...]

Single, skint, heartbroken, but doing okay. Sort of.

sue.ramsey1@btopenworld.com — Thu, 11 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I'm "working from home" today. My boss has been amazingly understanding and supportive since my marriage broke up. When I had to phone work to say that my husband had left because I found out he was having an affair, my boss called him some very bad names and has been brilliant ever since.

We had been married for 21 years and I had it in my head that we were together forever. Things hadn't always been perfect but we worked things through. He'd been acting like a [...]