Blog Entries - May 2008

The Beginning

em7609@hotmail.com — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi All and thank you for making me so welcome, I feel very at home here and hope to stick with you through my journey ahead.

Some background- Have been with stbx for 19 years in total (lived together for most of that), married for 9 of them. Im just turned 37 and I have two lovely boys aged 5 and 7. My 7 yr old has Aspergers Syndrome which is a form of autism.

Ive been unhappy for many, many years and gradually the lines of communication between us became worse and [...]

Kids

heath.davis@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well , I get my kids back tomorrow after a week apart, the longest I have ever been without them since they were born.

I get the feeling it will be emotional for me, and worry how this will make me act around their mother. I hope I can bite my tongue, or it could get a little heated. She will be very 'normal' about the whole, putting on an a 'I've moved on, you're nothing to me' act. She's even trying to keep me away from wh [...]

Chips with everything...

heath.davis@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

...well not tonight!

For one week, I've had chips with everything, and I'm sick of 'em

Tonight I'm making some home made spicy beef & rice.

I would have gone for a more Italian feel, but she took all the herbs, and left me with the spices!

I hope it tastes nice!

Heath

Bite your tongue and count to ten!

mandy.bell7@btinternet.com — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

.....9,10! My stbx is sat in the lounge with our 17 yr old Son (who hasn't got a clue that his Dad has a "new family"and will be telling him after his exams and then leaving him and his brother and me for a "new life") playing Pro Evo on the Playstation!....I can't bear to watch this monster anymore so have come upstairs to rant at my wiki friends...sorry all! I know that I insisted that we told them after their exams but this is so hard, the only thing keeping m [...]

Blog Introduction

duncan.webster@lloydstsb.co.uk — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have just left my wife of 8 years. Throughout our marriage my wife has been abusive both verbally and physically towards me. The verbal abuse is frequent (about once/week) and the physical abuse about once every 6 weeks. Last week I decided that enough was enough and (following another good kicking) told my wife that our marriage was over. I am 38 years old, living in the West.

Looking back, it amazes even me how little respect my wife gave me throughout our marriage. We have 2 l [...]

Taking Responsibility

juliehill@free.fr — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Gosh I knew it would be a rollercoaster, but this is only week one. I have re-read all the comments from all those who have spent the time commenting on my blog, particulary those men out there who have had wifes in my situation. I do respect my husband and yet I cannot make myself love him, I want to move on.

Sunday, talking started at 11pm. I told him I don't love him anymore, he threw his toys out of the pram and nearly packed that night for UK (we live in France) and threatened [...]

Getting my come uppence!

john.stimpson@macs-solutions.com — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I joined Wiki yesterday (glad), also put our home on the market (bad). we both listened to the estate agent explain the market (blah! Blah!), we decided to go ahead and he left us.

I was in bits (inside) whilst she went looking for things to easily remove and take with her to her temporary residence. we didnt talk.

10 minutes later she was gone and then i received a text message telling me the bloody obvious 'you forced me to do this, all your fault' etc etc. [...]

Here I go again!

liz_gorgeous41@hotmail.co.uk — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I am determined that this saturday I will feel empowered and in control.

Ex2b has contact in an hr so I am mentally preparing myself.

Going to move my car out of the drive and across the driveway so he cant block me in like last wk.
Kids stuff will be packed for their day out ha ha- end up at his flat and miss the sunshine - trying hard not to think about what they would be doing with me park games etc.Given kids football etc may encourage ex2b to move of his bum

Taking my [...]

depression

anna@theharrisfamily.wanadoo.co.uk — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well woke up this morning as if the whole world is on top of me. As if everything that is happening to me can't be real. Fed up and tired of this battle, of solicitors, and court hearings. Just want to feel normal again and wake up with a smile but it's not happening. Just want to feel happy to do the food shopping as it's great to experiment with new recipes.Just want to feel happy doing the housework as it's good to see your house clean.Just want to be happy doi [...]

just a quickie

Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Just a quickie ..

My 10 yr old and myself are doing race for life tom (prob be a stroll for life)

So if anyone around the victoria embankment notts tom at 11 ill be there

Will let you know how i faired tomorrow abw

Disdain has finally found its way into my heart...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

As I discovered that the x2b has recently booked a vacation (or holiday for you Brits) to Cancun with her np.

This, being the same destination that she and I spent our true honeymoon at. We took it a month before the wedding because timing worked out best.

Will she be strolling down the same beach in the same sunset, holding the hand of another, replacing the memories with new ones?

It sometimes seems that that's what she's trying to do. Re-live every good memory o [...]

Just to make you smile!

stellahall59@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 30 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared
> everything. They had talked about everything. They had kept no secrets
> from each other, except that the little old woman had a shoe box in the
> top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open or ask
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> For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day
> the little old woma [...]

new beginnings

Fri, 30 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well my absolute through wey hey so new beginnings...new name new image despite desperately trying to put my pic on just cant do it.

Was leaving wiki...but cant do it.... been with me throughout the rough so im sticking in now with you good guys for what maybe the smooth.... if all goes to plan hey

My absolute came yesterday it was granted 16th may my sons 9th birthday how ironic

been browsing over site lately and realise how many people can be helped or just encouraged as a [...]

I feel sick

kellyvakis@hotmail.com — Fri, 30 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I feel sick - my head is pounding and most of all I never thought, he would do this to his children. Today I check my bank balance and have had to phone the csa. Why? because the payment was missing and my mortgage is due to be paid monday. After two phone calls I discover the reason the payment was missing because my ex, has given up work to claim benefits. Im paying the mortgage and without the csa payment, Im going to struggle - I think he has done this in order to force me to sell. I don' [...]

He paid me a compliment!!

stellahall59@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 30 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Got a text off scumbag last night-I had texted him during the day telling him that I had gone to see our former financial advisor. Anyway, he said that was a good move!! It must have choked him to write that!! I think he has totally forgotten how practical and sensible I am. He sends wild threats and demands, I try and find out what is permitted or feasible.

He says he will contact the FA for her suggestions, tho I'm not too sure he will be happy with them. He hopes to walk away wit [...]

Is this a Plan?

duncan.webster@lloydstsb.co.uk — Thu, 29 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Whilst at work, I had a call from my wife - strangely calm - had to double check it was her. She told me she had been doing a lot of thinking about her behaviour over the past years etc. and she did not want us to part with her thinking for the rest of her life that she could have made the marriage work.

To cut a long story short, I insisted that the relationship must end for a minimum of 6 months, and after that there are no promises. Why did say this? Well it is still early days, a [...]

Residency

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Thu, 29 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Have spoken to some very useful and helpful people today about my situation and my stbx.

I am now giving serious consideration to seeking residency of the children with me. A lot of people consider her behaviour to be far from normal or healthy for the children and her level of care over the last couple of years has been poor to say the least.

To date I have taken the view that I will try and rock the boat as little as possible but I now realise that this may not be in the childr [...]

Hardwork and painful

anna@theharrisfamily.wanadoo.co.uk — Thu, 29 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Yesterday I was very stressed as well as having feelings of uncertainty and sadness for the future. Emotions of dealing with everything can just catch up on you.But will explain the build up to those emotions. As well as the rush of energy you need to deal with things.But there never seems alot of time for me to step back and think.

Some of you may know I eventually had my first hearing on the 15th of May.No surprise it did not follow into an FDR hearing as my stbx had not responded [...]

Another Small Step...

heath.davis@hotmail.co.uk — Thu, 29 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Today I changed my S2BX's name in my phone from the informal abbreviation I used to call her to her full Maiden name.

Sad, but empowering at the same time, a bit like when I washed her pillowcases after she left, and her scent left them.

Anyway, I'll won't be here as much for the next 2-3 weeks, as she cut my phone off today, and I have to wait for the broadband to be reinstated on my new number.

I'll still pop on at work to keep up with [...]

Feeling Low

sharonshz@yahoo.com — Thu, 29 May 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Told my x it was over in April after 12 years married, 8 of which have been heartbreak after heartbreak. We have three children 14y, 10y and 2y. We moved to Spain last year to make a new life and get rid of money problems and debt but have since discovered that no matter how much we pay off debts from selling houses he will just amount it up again within a few months by getting cash on credit cards. Dont get me wrong its not just money. He works away alot and cheats, lies an [...]