Blog Entries - January 2008 http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce Sun, 07 Sep 2008 18:42:07 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/799-long-awaited-update.html So...here I am. All settled in Las Vegas. First month under my belt, and as much as it has been a great move for me, my heart bears a heavy burden. The good: I love my new rental property. Its a wonderful home. I love my new job. I'm doing great so far and fully expect being the best at what I do there. My roommate moved in last weekend and paid me $500 US for Feb. rent. That's fantastic. My last job is paying me my monthly commissions, as agreed upon, so another $2500 US will b [...] cmason.home@yahoo.com Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100 child contact residency http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/798-Thursday-Friday.html Hi all Thursday that was a strange day it started as only a morning can when you have a houseful of hung over teenage girls. It was so good to hear the giggling and joviality back in this home it has been like a prison cell at times lately so quiet and unwelcoming. I went to the bank to get some Euros for my daughter and ran into my stbx’s cousin we chatted for a while. She is shocked didn’t know what to say at first so I just told her to say exactly what you’re thinking. Tha [...] goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100 my day today bad day http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/797-Getting-a-grip.html Well it's been a week now since my wife told me IT'S OVER and there's no more trying to work things out, well it's been three mths that we've been working at it and six to eight mths for her. Basicly I've spent a week crying thinking what am I going to do, why has she done this, what's wrong with me, had I done anything, why, why, why. We had a chat last night and I told her how hard I was finding it to let our marriage go, I sort of knew in the back of my mind that [...] daviesinkmn@aol.com Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100 dealing with emotions breaking up http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/796-Housewife-Down.html Something has happened to me over the past day or two. Not quite sure how to describe it, but I feel stronger, calmer and much more together, and far more positive than I have in a long time. This is good, and I hope it lasts! Mike62 sent me a wonderfully uplifting peom, which I printed out and is now on my fridge, I read it in full at least once a day. The weather today is awful, pouring rain/sleet, with snow due later this morning, strong winds and freezing temps. Today is the funeral of a man [...] flopsybunny_uk@yahoo.co.uk Thu, 31 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 positive thinking good day http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/793-My-wife-and-my-exbest-mate-793.html Well she is out again and its just me and my girls who are fast asleep. Moved all my stuff into the spare bedroom so we have our own "space" now. It was my idea so I dont know why it makes me feel so down. I know its just a step on the way to the day when we go completely seperate ways when the house sells. I suppose its a good thing as I dont want her to see me getting ready for work or being around me so much now. I think its just part of saying goodbye to a marriage that is now over [...] davej1808@aol.com Thu, 31 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 children http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/792-Time-to-catch-up.html I m having to flip through this Blog, I missed a day or so, please bear with me. Monday afternoon was a bit flat and boring loads of time to my self, so much to do but so little enthusiasm to do any of it. I suppose it makes you a bit like that when the reason you had the enthusiasm to do so much before has left. My Daughters at work she looked so tired when I picked her up from school, I don’t think she slept much last night. I am a little concerned for her. She has a school trip abroad [...] goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk Thu, 31 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 my day today http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/791-Now-I-can-t-even-pay-the-Mortgage.html Well, he has stooped to an all time low now! I checked my bank account on Monday to find that he has not paid me my CM of nearly £600. He paid his share of the mortgage (£266 being 40%) into my account because he can't be bothered to pay it directly to the mortgage company. I have just had to phone the mortgage company to tell them that I cannot make any payment toward the mortgage this month. I need to use his share to feed the children and pay the other bills. My solicitor ha [...] s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk Thu, 31 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 worry and anxiety debt and bankruptcy http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/790-790.html i've ended up with a referral to a consultant shrink cos of a weekend of pent up depression. GP wanted to give me a fortnight off when i saw him last week but i explained i prefered being at work. it's just the driving home which is so bleak. i've started opening up more to my mum but don't want to worry her. i'm just finding sharing the living space with my x2b so stressful. i found out today that she's made plans to move into a brand new house in two weeks time. i was g [...] wikivorce@dddep.co.uk Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 bad day http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/789-how-this-mess-began.html Hi, My 1st divorce was 10 years ago and I have a son age 12 from that marriage. I had been with my first wife since we were schoolkids of 14. 3years after divorce I met my Xtb she & I had had a crush on each other as kids and the 1st few months were amazing. We felt so right together,although I was still hurting from the 1st divorce, still smoking grass and drinking too much. BUT i felt right at home with her. I wanted to be with her. We got married in 2005. Xtb had also had a son a year [...] wikivorce@dddep.co.uk Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 my story http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/786-Everything-has-been-taken-away-from-me.html We seemed to have a normal Christmas - but my husband did not really seem to be 'himself' somehow. He seemed to be restless and on edge. Then, on 3 January 2008, he suddenly announced he was taking divorce proceedings against me. I thought he must be joking, he was not thinking straight. He said he was serious, it was the only course of action. He said he was divorcing me because of my credit card debts (he also has credit card debts) and because of my ongoing mental health problems [...] louise.bowen10@yahoo.co.uk Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 my story financial arrangements http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/785-My-wife-and-my-exbest-mate.html Day 14, Its been a little bit quieter over the last couple of days. Received a fairly unpleasant phone call yesterday from stbx coming out with all sorts of threats about me having to pay to keep her and stuff like that. In the end I hung up. Seem to do that alot these days. I have decided not to discuss anything financial with her apart from the actual sale of our house. I wont talk about how the equity gets divided. Thats what I am paying my sol for. I told my wife this morning that I will not [...] davej1808@aol.com Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 dealing with emotions http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/783-12-month-point-Life-goes-on.html Well, 12 months since I was told that 'our' marriage was over. I felt the need to mark it in some way, so another outpouring into the blog machine seemed as good a way as any. It's good to write. The blog machine doesn't judge, doesn't comment, just takes whatever I throw it's way. It's my 16th wedding anniversary on Friday. Shan't be rushing out to buy the card and flowers this year. I suppose that she will be feeling a bit fragile about it too. Should mak [...] mikehart@boltblue.com Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 my story http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/782-What-do-you-do.html I don't know what to do anymore, don't know where to turn. My wife of 11 years told me last Nov she didn't love me anymore as a husband. A friend yes lover no ok after lots of chats and tears we came to a decision to go to marrage councelling. I've tried and done everything, I don't argue or hit her ever I sort the kids out do the housework, dinner even though I work myself I buy her flowers now and then, she comes home from work there's a bath run ready for her that' [...] daviesinkmn@aol.com Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 dealing with emotions breaking up accepting its over http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/781-What-would-I-be-entitled-to.html Can anyone tell me roughly what the split would be please? I have been married for just 3 years My wife has had an affair for the last six months She has a 16 year old son from a previous relationship who I have supported for 6 six years My Salary is approx 60k including commission Hers is 25k I brought the house before we where married and it is in my name only She put nothing financially into the house when she moved in The mortgage comes out of a joint bank account Hope that’s [...] ian.johnson@uk.insight.com Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 financial arrangements http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/780-Highs-and-Lows-of-Highland-Lass-780.html "Its a new dawn, it's a new day, and I'm feeli' good" So wrote Nina Simone, and it's how I feel. Sorry about all the navel-gazing and self pity in my first blog, thanks for the kick up the bahookie, guys, it was honest and needed! I went to see my solicitor yesterday. To cut a long sesion short, I know now what my options are and where I stand legally (and his legal obligations too). I've decided to try to opt for a seperation agreement, where the financail side to [...] flopsybunny_uk@yahoo.co.uk Tue, 29 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 money and finances good day http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/779-Fed-up-day.html Thought this may be a good way to put my feelings down and keep track of things. Have been married for 21 years, with him for 28, thought it was for always he obviously had other ideas! He left couple of weeks before christmas after months of distancing himself more and more. he wants a divorce as soon as possible, I dont - cant get my head round it. Wants me to divorce him for unreasonable behaviour as he says he has got nothing on me as I haven't done anything wrong. Have tried to say th [...] bjwembley@aol.com Tue, 29 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 other http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/778-My-Wife-and-ex-best-mate.html Day 12. sorry to say but mostly not a great day. Stbx started off being nice but then really lashed out on the phone and was generally not being nice at all. After a few mins I thought I dont need to listen to this any more. We are no loner a couple so I hung up and ignored my phone for the rest of the day. Any way today I wont bore you with the details of my day but instead post a poem that was sent to me today because a good friend thought I needed to read it. For those of you in a similar boa [...] davej1808@aol.com Mon, 28 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 positive thinking my day today http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/777-Why-do-they-give-it-to-you-in-one-hand-and-take-away-with-the-other.html Have had another bad day.Yesturday was so good, I was starting to look forward to the future but today has seen more bad news.Got letter from council today saying my income support is stopping.because of S2bXs measly maintenance payments (£150 a month)they say I am getting too much now.So now will have to pay council tax and also free lunches, dental treatment etc is stopped. Text S2BX and he said he would pay me more.As if all that is stressing me is money. Last night when he phoned to sp [...] pinkymalmalred@yahoo.co.uk Mon, 28 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 money and finances bad day http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/776-Sunday-night-Monday-morning.html Oh hum I had a bad evening at home, wife’s still living next door and I was not feeling particularly sociable towards her. She decided to try and speak to me, I was in my garage when she walked in being as nice as she could be, for once I just walked straight past her shut the gate and came inside without saying a word, looking in her direction, or even acknowledging she was there. Why I did it I don’t know I just didn’t want to have anything to do with her today. I cooked a [...] goodayatheoffice@yahoo.co.uk Mon, 28 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 children accepting its over http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Blogs/775-What-does-she-want.html Last week I had finally decided to leave my wife due to her affair and constraint lies even though I am still madly in love with her. I couldn't do this face to face as it was not what I wanted but felt I had been left no choice so wrote her a letter. I gave her the letter on Saturday saying that I wanted to separate and she burst into tears. She has told me that she loves this other person and loves me as a friend only,so why the tears? She said it was because she was scared that she ma [...] ian.johnson@uk.insight.com Mon, 28 Jan 2008 00:00:00 +0100 accepting its over