Blog Entries - October 2007

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dragonheart196@hotmail.com — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well it's been a while since i was lst on here. Hubby and i have decided to separate, only problem is neither of us have anywhere to go, so we are all living together, his 4 girls and my 1, until the house has been sold. It's on the market at the moment and we've had some interest, but no offers as yet. Market is slowing down. I so badly want to move on in my life, but can't. I could move out and rent a flat with my daughter, but she thinks its a waste of money and we should stay [...]

a big thank you

LittleNic38@hotmail.com — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

thank you to Chris 33, Fat Boy (jules) and SK Max for helping me to sort my pc out - really appreciated, thank you

an e-mail...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I can't say for sure what my intentions are. As it becomes more and more clear to me that my wife has decided that we will not be married in the future, I have resorted to the following e-mail. Part of my intention is to make her think about what we have, while part of it is to embed notes for comparison into her subconsious. Will her new partner be all of these things that she knows to be true?

Just read please. We don't need to discuss.

Pros? [...]

Complacent

rh.m@virgin.net — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I think I may have been a bit too complacent..

Things at school and home(with kids) has been fine...uneventful but fine.

Today I ask x2b for contribution towards winter jackets for kids....his reply was 'take it out of the joint account!!'

what bloody joint account??? If there's an account with my name next to his I want half of it...but then half of nothing wouldn't buy a very warm jacket would it??

Maybe he was trying to be funny?????

It would [...]

Communication - you want it so much yet dread it so much.

julian@pc-cb8.co.uk — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well we had a planned conversation last night which started on time, was civil, kept to the subject and left us both on an emotional even keel.

So that's good, isn't it? So why later in the evning did I feel that it hadn't been quite even.

Perhaps it is paranoia, I don't know.

The plan I had laid on the table a few weeks ago was for me to put self-employed business on back burner, running it as an evening or week-end role and to look for regular waged work.< [...]

Not sure what will unfold in the next few months

sallybargeton@btinternet.com — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Left a message with X2B asking what he intends to do about the dreaded overdraft..we are squared up about the obvious financial commitments between us..He pays me child maintenance, but then takes it back for the rent that I have to pay him...so simple.

He responded with a scribbled note, stating that he will give me a few bob when he can, but that I have to understand that his life has moved on that he has new commitments and that he needs to save to rent a house which will happen befo [...]

Calm Down SL

karencockburn41@hotmail.com — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 05:56:17 +0100

I am absoloutely livid!!!!!!

Just came back from an appointment with my sol....

It now seems that not only has my STBX cheated and lied for months.... he has now developed a gambling problem...

His sol writes " He has lost all the money gambling"..... YEAH RIGHT !!!!!!

So.... all the money that he took when he left me 3 months ago... plus the 1K he earns each week has all of a sudden dwindled to £1,200.00.. oh.. &qu [...]

My Effect !!!!

karencockburn41@hotmail.com — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Hot on the heeels of my last blog........

I am beginning to wonder if this is the effect I have on men???

I went to watch 'Meatloaf in Concert' last night......

An excellent show..... until..... he walked off stage in the middle of a song.... "I can't continue - thanks for 30 years" - WHAT????

There I was... feet stomping, arm waving.... then - that's it... gone - finished..... lol... sound familiar???

&nb [...]

It hit me today - like a ton of bricks!

LittleNic38@hotmail.com — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

After seeing the financial advisor yesterday to see if I can afford to buy stbx out and then trawling through loads of paperwork etc, I overslept this morning and when I did wake up my first thought was - my god, he's left me. That was it, I could hardly even get out of bed. I phoned work made an excuse about upset tum but I forced myself to get dressed and go to work, even though we work for the same company and I knew it meant I would see him. I cried all the way to work, not so much ab [...]

So everything is OK ?

sallybargeton@btinternet.com — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Having a strange time with myself.

working really hard but getting so much enjoyment in being part of the gang at work..seem to have become a human being again, stopped making to do lists and am now just having a laugh with the girls.

I've never really been one of the gang, through my own fault..forgot about being a person I just became a mother and wife. I wonder if that's really what went wrong with the marriage, met the tasks forgot to have any fun.

But now I know [...]

Obviously, it was only a matter of time

rew.mason@hotmail.co.uk — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well, I've just spent the last 30 minutes consoling our daughter (M). She's here on a visit this evening and all was going well until bed time when the "why can't you and mummy live together" questions started.

Lots of tears from both of us and she called X2B who did a good job of getting her to laugh for a while. Unfortunately, that disappeared when M finished the phone call. More tears and more questions.

I'm hoping that tiredness is playing a big factor i [...]

can't add comments, so keep on bloggin replies...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

she called again at lunch and left a pathetic message about me ignoring her. so i broke down and called her back. when i did, the whole conversation was, "what's going on?" "nothing - working" "oh..ok...was just checking in" "ok" "did you want to say something?" "what do you want me to say? you made it clear we had nothing else to discuss" then her office phone rang and she had to go.
All that for nothing. What a stup [...]

update...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

(had to blog 'cuz wiki wouldn't let me add this comment after Andrew's and Fatboy's comments...odd)

I'm not sure what the overall effect will be, nor am I a professional, but so far, it seems to have gotten under her skin.
As I didn't call her back last night, she sent me a txt message as early as 7:15 a.m. this morning - "I left 2 messages last night. Call me when you can."
I didn't call. At about 8:00 a.m., I sent a very impersonal e [...]

Sybil's revenge...

mikehart@boltblue.com — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

What do I do next? I am beginning to think that she has some kind of illness. Yesterday, she got a locksmith out to open the apartment and her former bedroom. After the door had been opened, she got one of the staff to accompany her into the room and witness her taking two new watches and a new digital camera out. Whatever it was she really wanted, she has obviously taken before getting the member of staff. To add insult to injury, she paid him cash from the till and left the receipt for me [...]

Off to see the counsellor today

julian@pc-cb8.co.uk — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Not really looking forward to it. It's been two weeks now and I was hoping for some improvement in the general climate between us.

What I have realised is that by trying to get my wife to talk about us it is causinga dditional stress. And I mean real stress. I think she has enough stress already. So by me trying to sort us out is actually pushing us down.

Well that's my current view. The reason I think this is that when she came back from a few days away with our kids [...]

On a downer this morning

rew.mason@hotmail.co.uk — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

My first day truly alone yesterday, woke up alone, went to bed alone. I guess that has something to do with it. Had a good evening as it happens, drank a few beers, had a good chat to a friend, nothing special but real "me" time for a change.

However, this morning there were tears during the walk to work. Not full on crying but enough to make me put my sunglasses on which in the half light of 7:30am must have looked stupid. I thought I looked cool, the people I passed thought I [...]

2 can play at this game...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 22:32:31 +0100

Well...after my x2b making it obvious that she can go without communicating, here's how things played out over the last couple days.

As I mentioned before, she sent the txt message "will call u later..." on Friday afternoon. I drove to Vegas with my son Saturday morning and arrived in time for some Halloween trick-or-treating at a neighborhood shopping center. I dressed him up in his Red Power Ranger costume and he was ecstatic! I took a camera-phone [...]

Amicable? more like Armegeddon!

mikehart@boltblue.com — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 03:01:00 +0100

Just when you think you have gone as low as you can, something comes along to remind you that there is always lower. The STBX and I co-own and operate a small hotel. Normally we have a chef, but she gave him the week off this week. Normally STBX is second chef. Normally I run the bar and front of house. This weekend was far from normal. STBX moved out on Tuesday, in a very confrontational manner. Friday we had a full hotel. STBX waited until I got home f [...]

The first single dad weekend

rew.mason@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

It went well. I was sooo nervous but no need really. We did ‘stuff', snuggled on the sofa and watched CBeebies, stuck fluorescent stars on her bedroom ceiling (that was fab!! Really brilliant!!!), went shopping, did colouring in etc. etc. etc. etc. All ‘normal' stuff for a ‘normal' weekend.

Someone on this site gave me some advice a while ago. It was something like, don't try and make it ‘the best weekend ever' because you will set yoursel [...]

The moving out process

rew.mason@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Friday was moving out day, officially.

I had spent the previous few days moving boxes and stuff to the new apartment with ‘men with a van' coming 10:30 to do the few furniture items that wouldn't fit in the car.

I was OK, surprisingly calm and collected. X2B had taken our daughter (M) to school and was doing some shopping for me as well so she was out of the way. I had managed to get everything sorted out and prepared before men with a van turned up. Boxes and stu [...]