Blog Entries - May 2007

What a day!!!

mandylouise190@hotmail.co.uk — Tue, 29 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

So, after nearly 1 1/2 years of being unhappily married and wishing I had the strength to leave him - we finally agreed that this marriage wasnt working! - I would move out with our two daughters.

Thankfully, I thought it would be easy - so often had I thought of how I would react; I was feeling strong and wouldnt be "bullied" or "put down" and made to feel insignificant in comparison.

But that all failed - miserably - a few choice words from him and i'm fe [...]

The beginning of the end of a marriage.

alice-taylor@hotmail.com — Sat, 26 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

It is now nine years since I announced to my former husband that he could expect my petition for divorce any day. Ours had not been a happy marriage. The old adage of 'marry in haste and repent at leisure' certainly applied to me. I had known R (as I shall refer to him) for less than six months when I discovered that I was pregnant. Twenty six years ago having a child outside of marriage was still very much frowned upon so in May 1980 R and I tied the knot in the local register office [...]

It is now almost 11 months since......

monitor441@googlemail.com — Fri, 25 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I found out about my wife's affair. Talk about a killer blow! I had been out with a mate to the pub for a quiet drink which had turned into a full blown drinking session, staggering out of the pub at midnight and getting a kebab on the way home. The drinking session was an unusual occurence - it had used to happen every couple of months and then no booze at all in between. I got home and got into bed with my wife. My wife had gone to sleep with the TV on and I felt around under the pillow [...]

Just for the record

tom.beale@courtyard-group.com — Thu, 24 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Wow, like having children, no one ever prepares you for divorce -not that knowing would ever stop it happening. I have found that trying to control too much in this process is futile and just rolling with the punches then get back on your feet is the only way to survive. Some days the blows are soft, others they are a devasting direct hit, flooring you for a long time, but just get back up and keep going.

I think it is not just the 'ex' but family, friends, the dreaded barrage o [...]

Two sides to every story

dougie1dougie@sky.com — Wed, 23 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

This blog is written by the girlfriend of the user Dockley, just to show both sides of the coin in a world gone mad where divorce is concerned.

I divorced in 1997 with 2 small children aged 4 & 3. My ex left the home and also took entire contents with him. He stopped paying the mortgage and did not pay maintenance. I on the other hand struggled to keep my part time job, care for the kids and pay the bills. This I managed and eventually had the mortgage(debt) signed over to me. There [...]

a bit depressed

kbell@dmu.ac.uk — Mon, 21 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

... and the print in the headline is so big and bold it's giving me a headache.

At home - failing to get all my work done and failing to get the housework done - much as usual when things are busy. Oh, and lonely too. so what shall I do about it?

Have a rest, I think.

Nothing of interest to say - just trying out the blog to see how it works - but perhaps I'll suddenly offer acute legal advice or pour out a torrent of vituperative abuse ... who knows? (probably [...]

Dad to the rescue

richmondlane@hotmail.com — Mon, 21 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well today my Dad is coming to my rescue by paying off my solicitors bill to stop them from repossessing my house. To be frank i'm a bit embarrased that at the age of 40 I had to ask him for help.

This saga with my solicitor has been running for around a year and [...]

my partners wife keeps delaying things

hollielouisedore@hotmail.com — Sun, 20 May 2007 10:00:41 +0100

my partner has already started divorce procedings and his wife keeps prolonging things for no reason. First the used mediation and then she wasnt happy so they took it to court and she must have hired and fired over 8 different lawyers and then decided to do mediation again and then she (predictably) decided it wasnt good enough so she took him back to court and she fired and hired another lawyer so she was able to extend the court dates so her lawyer can catch up. He is giving her the [...]

still going on

hollielouisedore@hotmail.com — Sun, 20 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Its been a year and 9months since i last wrote a blog on this site and still nothing has changed, my partner and his "should be by now ex wife" are still married and there is still no date for the final hearing, he has already given her everything and just wants a clean break so i dont understand why this is continuing? he has not had access to his kids since all this started as she wont allow it, we cant move on and find our own place til we know where we stand financally and its t [...]

Missing my son badly

richmondlane@hotmail.com — Sun, 20 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

I keep seeing other dads with their sons: playing football in the park, riding together on a motorbike or swimming in the sea. I miss my son desperately and hate that we are both missing out on each others company due to the spite of my soon-to-be-ex.

I have lived for the last 10 months in the south of france. During that time I have negotiated with her for him to be allowed to visit me three times, Xmas, Feb half term and most recently at Easter. Each time she has decided to veto the t [...]

Hanging on by a thread

CLARE.MAYES@HOTMAIL.CO.UK — Sun, 20 May 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Well 15 months of hell and probably a year to go the depression has kicked in and the sheer hell of those expensive solicitor bills. Hanging on by the thread of my knickers but i'm not done yet! First hearing been and gone and the fdr looms ahead fighting for what I dont know because all we have is debt. No money for anyone will be left but still he buries his head. No mortgage payments will he give and the house is the only asset. Is he mad I dont know perhaps he's lost his head.

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my divorce

sharon.szkwarczuk@gmail.com — Sun, 13 May 2007 02:40:09 +0100

my husband desided the wk before xmas that he wanted to divorce his reason he had not been happy for two yrs neverbotherd to tell me how he felt so it was a complete shock, any moved to my own home in april