Blog Entries for Goodman01

Entry 31; Its been a long time I guess

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Since I last blogged.

Some strange stuff has happened between my ex and I, well between her family, her and me. Her getting back with her boyfriend as caused some really bad fallout, I have been asked some difficult questions.

If your children could be in danger what will you do about it?

I dont know, my ex brother in law, and mother in law, both have told me that they fear for the safety of my children. It all got very silly and my ex ended up getting [...]

Entry no: 30 Bad to worse

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Since my last blog things seem to have gone from bad to worse regarding the ex and her boyfriend.

When she told me that she was seeing him again she asked me not so tell her family, which I agreed to, as I thought it was her place to let them know. They have been together for about 6 weeks now I am told, she told her mum about two weeks ago, and they have seriously fallen out over it, and her brother is livid.

I received a call earlier this week from her brother, he is very [...]

Entry no: 29 - So I need some real advice now!

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I posted on the forum earlier today, but due to the time of day and probably my title I didnt really get much of a response, so I have decided to post, hopfully to get some of my blog reading friends to give me some help!

So, the story goes something like this, my ex's boyfriends attempted to hit my 5 year daughter about 6 weeks or so ago, so she dumped him, I think there were other reasons too, but that is the reason she gave me at the time.

Last weekend, I didnt h [...]

Entry no 28: My life is a bit wierd, but ts ok mostly!

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I havent blogged for over a week, I am feeling less of a need for it, not sure why?

To be totally honest, I think it is a good sign, I will keep a watchful eye on wiki, but I am needing it less, I want to keep supportive of the people that I know and the new ones that I dont that if I can help I would like too!

I think that I am getting there, to the place where I feel more in control of myself and less sorry for me, yes my ex was a complete nightmare, and she made me feel absolut [...]

Entry No: 27 The Start of Something New

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Today I delivered the programme that I have been working on for the last two years, on time, under budget, no issues etc. In my infinate wisdom I also planned and executed another house move on the same day!

So now I am sitting in my new house, I have been awake since 6.00 a.m. on Tuesday morning, I worked all night last night, came home at midday today, and then moved house, I am knackered, but I feel great, feels like I have really achieved something, and I am realising that you [...]

Entry no: 27 The Best Job In the World

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

An ex girlfriend sent this to me, not sure why she has started to mail me but I thought it might make some of the other parents laugh!

POSITION:
Mum, Mummy, Mama, Ma
Dad, Daddy, Dada, Pa, Pop

JOB DESCRIPTION:

Long term, team players needed, for challenging, permanent work in an
often chaotic environment.

Candidates must possess excellent communication and organizational skills
and be willing to work variable hours, which will [...]

Entry no: 26 Like I said, going to get harder again

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dearest blog reading friends,

I was thinking about how to blog this last night, and then I received this mail from an old female work friend this morning, and thought I may as well just stick this in my blog, less the names etc!

Sent: 15 September 2008 09:36
To: Me
Subject:

What's going on with XXXX then? I see she's changed her status to single!

You and the kids ok?

From

old female work friend

My R [...]

Entry no: 25 Its going to get a little bit harder, again!

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Havent blogged, well for about a week or so, was quite busy last weekend, had a little party with some new found friends, in some hotel in London, head is cleared now, just!

Work, still going well, project/programme on track to deliver for the end of the month, people are happy about the way it is going, thanks to all the great people we have working on it, we stand a good chance of doing something that is very rare at my company, doing something when we said we would!

I finished [...]

Entry no 24: I am so much better off!

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So, I had the children from last Thursday evening until this morning, my ex, sold the FH and down sized, pocketed the money, and has been moving over the weekend that has just passed.

So, I should be feeling a bit gutted, living in a furnished, rented flat, not much of my own to talk about etc. However.......

We have moved many times, in the last 11 years, sometimes during these moves, they have been easy, when the money was there, however we always stretche [...]

Entry no: 23 Do we chose how we are with each other?

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Blog Reading Friends

I responded to a blog earlier today, written by Drew about how his wife spent too much money and stuff, in my response detailed some of what my life used to be like etc.

I tend to do this, respond to other peoples posts with my own experiences, not sure why, they are not asking me to tell them my story when they post I dont think, maybe it helps to hear that you are not the only one, or for somebody to say that they left their ex, for the same reason [...]

Entry No 22: Not sure what to do....

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Been another one of those weekends, didnt have the children, so by today, was gaspin for them, like people who smoke but have run out of fags me thinks.

Had a social ish weekend, went out with mates on Saturday, had a great time, people attempted to pair me off, with single friends, went red, had a laugh, etc.

I have an interview tomorrow, its a second interview, fingers crossed, would be another leap up the ladder financially, and a great opportunity, hope I do well.

Tuesda [...]

ENTRY no: 21 Is that what it is all about?

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I am confused; it's not that difficult for me to be this way!

You see, when I was with my ex I was miserable, probably 80% of the time, and probably from about year 5, so for most of the time that we were together, well I thought I was. Before we were married, our relationship was already over, I knew that she wasn't the one for me, don't know why I didn't have the guts to say so, would been less difficult then it ended up being, howe [...]

ENTRY NO: 20 I am not alone am I?

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So its Saturday night, I have had a nice day with the children and I am sat alone in my flat.

I like my flat, it is great, large, cheap, nice bathroom, kitchen, good location etc, but I have to leave come November, coz its not mine.

I confirmed that I will take the cottage that is smaller, less nice, etc, but 3 mins from the kids today, the estate agents were happy, they havent known me long, but long enough to know that I am nice, honest, etc, shame my ex didnt see these th [...]

Entry no: 19 Bits and Bobs

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

My life is a bit up and down at the moment. Work is going great guns, coming to the end of a two and a half year programme, it's been my complete focus for so long and it's all coming together, so I really feel like I am making a difference. However at the same time I am been approached by another company for a really great role, so I am thinking about pissing off as soon as the project is done at the end of September. My boss will be upset, but thems th [...]

Entry No: 18 I wonder what it is like?

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

When I woke up this morning I said to myself, you must remember that dream, I do this often, but never remember the details. I will attempt to capture it here whislt its fresh ish.

So this is what I dreamt about, I meet a new lady, and she is divorced, she has two children, she lives in a nice house, no mortgage, nice garden, car, furniture, delightful children etc. We get together, and I slot right into her family, in the space that has been left by the per [...]

Entry no: 17 Family bliss!

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So its the start of my week long stint with the children, they have been with me since 10.00 a.m. yesterday, we had an afternoon playing then it was a trip to the cinema to see Wall-E, which is great if you are looking for something to go and see.

Then a trip to the shops to buy food for the next few days, home, dinner some time in front of the box, and kids to bed nicely by 8.00. Kids up at 7.30, breakfast together, bath time, did bath this morning as we ran out of time last nigh [...]

Entry no:16 Complicated

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Last night, my son had trouble sleeping whilst he was at my house; he came to see me in the lounge and said that he was upset.

My first reaction was he was trying to stay up late with Dad, which if I am honest I don't mind as I get to spend more time with him, but I know that he needs to be in bed. I could tell that he had something he wanted to talk about.

He sat down and started to talk about a friend of his from school, who has said that his mummy and daddy are [...]

Entry 15: An up and down week, and a bit of a ramble!

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I have only blogged once so far this week, and its Sunday morning, I have had a nice lie in, breakfast, its sunny outside, I have nice day ahead, and this evening I will run around a plastic field kicking a ball with some blokes that I know, just because they have done this every week for the last 3 years or so with me. I hardly know these guys yet we spend a couple of hours a week with each other, and we get on just fine. The are all about my age, have ki [...]

Entry 13; Serious SH1t

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Today when I collect my children, I am told by my ex that they have been naughty and that their punishment is a week without TV, DVD's, PSP's etc.

Ok I think not so hard it's not my weekend and I have to feed bath and put them to bed in the next two hours, and we won't have much time between these things.

However my children are very sad, and during our limited time together I sense this, my son, aged 8 and a really good, honest, caring child tu [...]

Entry 12.5: Looking forward

andrew.reeves-smith@t-mobile.co.uk — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I wrote an entry the other night, whilst away on a works team building event, I was drunk, it was full of typos and waffled on about something that was irrelevant, so I deleted it the next morning!

I have the children this weekend, I am going out tonight with some friends, and I am at the brothers tomorrow night staying over with the kids, and they are looking forward to it.

So nice weekend lined up, and then some fun stuff next week as well. I have made so [...]