Blog Entries for TryingMyBest

So this is Christmas...

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 00:00:00 +0100

It's been a while since I wrote anything here, and a few kind people have let me know they like what I have written before and that it even helps them (gosh). Then again I find help in others' blogs too, so here's some Christmas leftovers from a once happy family now being gradually carved up Turkey-style with the trimmings and crackers making valiant efforts to maintain the good cheer and good will which should signify the season.

But first, an update, for myself as m [...]

Keeping Things Calm

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Aren't children extraordinary? They never cease to amaze. Get this...

My kids are big fans of Mario and Sonic Olympics on the Nintendo Wii (and Wii Sports and others). It's amazing because through this they are now both really interested in all things Olympics and all things sports. For recent birthdays I've got all the kids to take part in our own version of the Olympics in the park, and awarded little replica plastic medals and trophys to all contenders in a fun filled cra [...]

Reasonably Unreasonable

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Much has happened since my last post here. Then again much stays the same.

The divorce, like a large supertanker, moves obstinately forwards. The legal corresponding seems to be offering some contol, but not sure whether we can head off the collision with the huge iceberg that is court proceedings, which fxw and her inarticulate mule of a solicitor seem so insanely keen on. We wrote them a couple of long letters, explaining that it was a real shame that we didn't follow family law [...]

I am truly grateful...

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

...for this website. It is full of so much warmth and understanding. I read the blogs and posts and comments widely and often now. And the thing that keeps on coming through all this pain and sadness that every one here is forced to endure, is the support, the empathy, the kindness, the generosity of spirit, and overall, the love, that everyone offers to each other here so freely, fluently and without reservation. It really brings tears to my eyes. Why can't our ex- and future ex- p [...]

Back to the unfortunate normality...

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Good and bad things to observe.

First, yesterday evening I had an impromptu night out myself! Just a drink or two with some friends - old and new - and some normal interesting social interaction with some people I'd not met before. It shouldn't make any difference, but I have to admit that it helped that one of them in particular was a completely and utterly gorgeous woman in her early 30's, who was giving me a lot of attention which I'm not particularly used to. [...]

FXW openly stays out overnight

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

This is an interesting one. Perhaps a turning point. She told me she was going out on Saturday night and was staying out until Sunday evening. I don't know who she stayed with - I actually don't care - but what's interesting is that she's not keeping up any pretence any more. Probably quite healthy.

And this evening on her return, she seemed a little less uptight. I think that because we've given up on mediation, which means that there's no forum for her to plan [...]

Bye-Bye Mediation

jw@imaginary.co.uk — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Here's my first blog entry on Wikivorce. I've been blogging about my situation sporadically in a separate space at http://alovingdad.blogspot.com which I don'[t think anyone else has ever read, but I'm more than happy for wikivorcers to visit it and take a peak. I thought I'd continue things here as I feel very secure and supported within this environment and welcome people's thoughts on my situation, hoping that some of the things I'm going through could be useful [...]