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Dec 01
2009
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an updatePosted by am13 in breaking up, being single |
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im not in a bad place
have joint custody with my kids got promoted at work opened my self to new experences met a really nice girl who is really into me and doing more with my life than ever before .... so why after all this good stuff going on in my life
do i still miss her my ex more than ever and i really wish i didnt
time is a healer and i should be really positive about my new life .... does it get better i dont think so
i still long for my wife and family life and i really do miss her soooo much
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Fruitcup
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| December 01, 2009 | ||
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Maybe it is not the time to have a girlfriend, you need to be alone to deal with getting over your loss and moving on, then you will be in a better place form a new relationship later. | |
Joff
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| December 01, 2009 | ||
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Hi, I just rea your blog intro and other than you have two children and I have one the start was the same. Wife left after a similar period. I was lost for some time and it took me a while to get my head round it. I am divorcing her as there is no way back. Not too sure if you are in the same place of knowing there is no way back but I do not deny that there are things I miss although over time they are getting less. I set myself three important things being me, work and home (the house, son etc.). Sounds like you have had some good things with finding a new partner and a promotion but at the same time retained access to the children. Sounds like still a little to get over so a question or two - does your new girlfriend know how you feel? are you being fair to her or giving uncertainty which will strain the relationship? If she is willing to help you work through this great but if not maybe best to have a little time on your own to work things out and maybe go back to her as it would be sad to ruin a good thing just because you are not quite there yet. Celebrate the good things you have and good luck with the challenges it is not easy. J |
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Itgetsbetter
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| December 02, 2009 | ||
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It is natural to look back at your marriage and your ex with affection and remember the good things and forget all the bad things. I know I did it! I don't think there is a magic wand, just strategies for coping and the more you use them the easier it gets. Things like doing a list of the things you didn't like about your ex and reading it when you find yourself thinking of her. All the best Steve |
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Pheonix2yk9
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| December 02, 2009 | ||
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Am13 I am glad that things are slowly picking up for you don't be hard on yourself if you still miss your ex, like itgetsbetter says it's natural, you had a family together and it takes time. I find it hard to hate the wife but then I do contact her less than I use to take care Pheonix |
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