Having finalised our divorce in April (adultery) our 2 children live with me. Their dad, who they see everyday, lives with his partner & her 3 children.

We agreed on a memoradum of Understanding via mediation which was then drawn up legally - including our going for a short court hearing. Their dad (Teacher so has 6 weeks off in Summer) looks after our twins on days I work (part time) during hols. The agreement is  that he can take them to their Grandmas caravan (his mum) or for overnight stays at his mums house. This will be arranged by negotiation between the two of us.

On tues he said he

Its been a difficult year.... Last Summer was bad...Having being left after 20+ years with two young children I petitioned for divorce & started to sort buying my ex out of our former home. The Mediation process was difficult and painful but finally ended with agreement.

I struggled to come to terms with my daughter having a life long health condition. I've had days/hours/weeks even  where I felt 'incontrol' of my life etc but equally I've had many times when I struggled with so many aspects of life that I didn't know where to turn.  We divorced on 12th April - a day after (what would have

 I thought I was doing ok. The last few months since my STBX left have been really hard but I thought I was starting to get over the worst of the pain, until today (boxing day). This year was the first year I weve been apart in 26 years but planning a great Christmas day for our 6 year old twins kept me busy and the three of us had a lovely day yesterday. He called in briefly (30mins) to see them and whilst I felt upset that he spent so little time with them I was glad not to have to see much of him as its still painful. 

Today he called in for a hour to see them (he sees them everyday) and