After all the conversations I've had with the ex about agreeing to change the Child Benefit into my name, I had a shock yesterday when I phoned to see what was prolonging my claim and found that my STBX is fighting for it as well.

Let's be fair people, as the the CB is currently in her name, they are not are not going to be changing it into my name especially as I am a man. We share her 50/50 (despite the fact that I know her Mum looks after when she is away on business) and I work part-time so I am never 20 minutes from that child. I feel defeated as I know what it means to have that CB in

6.45 this morning I dropped off my little girl around the STBX's as prearranged. As I am turning the car around I happen to notice "his" car.

I knocked on her door very loudly thinking irrational thoughts and dreading this day. She opens the door and I barge past heading straight for the stairs (my anger completely shot to bits), thankfully she stops me and I don't feel the urge to proceed any further, take a deep breath and turn and leave. I hear my daughter's crying as I depart and it tears me up.

I park next to his car thinking do I smash it up or not? Thankfully again something stops me and

I had to call the police today.

After yet another slanging match on the phone this morning about childcare and housing with my STBX, my MIL turned up unannounced to "tidy up the hedges" as they are a "disgrace."

I told my MIL that if the hedges need cutting (they do), I will in fact do them myself. She told me as she had invested money in the property (poxy loan a couple of years back) she has a right to do the hedges. I really needed this........

I told MIL (calmly for once!!) to please stop or I'll have to ring my solicitor or call the police. She laughed so I had had enough by now and decided