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Oct 31
2008
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another update..Posted by MazzB in soon to be ex, moving on, dealing with solicitors, accepting its over |
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well peeps ..here i go again..
need to blog as it helps me get it off my chest ..( wish i had a bigger chest though !!)
hubby rang me yesterday askin if i would sort out all his finances eg.wot he pays out every month ..credit cards and dds etc..
no problem with doin this as we still have joint finances..and hes workin away all the time so obviously has no time..
rang him last night to tell him they were done and when would he get them. had a lovely conversation with him,he was so friendly and nice ..couldnt believe it !!!
hes stayin in a caravan with a few of his workmates in sheffield and was gonna have a drink there to celebrate one of their birthdays so wished him good night and went to bed ..
he rang me back about 11pm ! another nice talk we had ..quite sexy too..lol prob the drink talkin but anyway i enjoyed it..
and thats where the nice things ended..
today hes been to see his sol for the 1st time and bingo...
what a change in him !!! i asked what sol said about my sols advice and was told very abruptly, that im not going to get what i asked for.!
so of course another arguement started about everything..her included.. and i ended up sayin we will have to break off any contact cos its the best thing for both of us!
he asked me what it is i want from him..well apart from wanting my hubby back ..not a lot..but didnt say that to him ..lol just said i wanted to be friends ,close ones if thats possible..im sick of all the arguements,all the crap im being dealt
none of this was my fault !!!!!!!
hes comin here tomorrow to sort out our joint accounts..i decided to have seperate ones so that we dont rely on each other..think thats the best way although it hurts me soo much at not being able to have contact with him..
so will see wot tomorrow brings..!
our son is comin to stay for a weekend..hes never been since we split and hes soo lovin and i know as soon as i see him ill crumble..but hopefully that will be the last time i do...
from now on im gonna be strong and get on with my sad life....need to get out and enjoy myself ..but who with ???? all my friends are married or in a relationship..so will end up sittin here alone as usual..
sorry if ive rambled on a bit tonight but needed to do it
thx mr blog for listening and wiki peeps for reading it.(if anyone does )
mazz xx
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rasher
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| October 31, 2008 | ||
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Mazzab he will always see you as his wife until you move on - sadly hes so messed up he wants you and everyone else and only you can decide if that is an OK deal. Some people go through this and I for the life of me cant tell you why cos Im not one of them but they are male and female. All you can do is stand your ground. If you want him back Im quite sure he will come but you might just move on in the mean time he will come back either way so either stay put patiently or sort yourself out and actually you might meet someone else and not want him but do it for the sake of history. Who knows - I can promise you he will be back but on what terms will you have him babes cos you sound like alot of fun and there are others who will like so just know at the point he wants back you might be playing else where so be aware but get on with your life while he messes about. Never too old let me tel you RX |
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lioness
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| November 01, 2008 | ||
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Hi Mazz, Its good to see you looking so positive and starting to take back some control. I know what you mean about finding someone to go out with, I hadnt told any of my colleagues at work or even my friends that we had split so I spent about three months with my own company. Then I told a couple of friends at work and looked up some old friends and told them too. I have never had such a social life, its been nice to talk to them catch up on what has happened to them and they have given me so much support that I could never have expected. It will probalbly take a little while, but I know you will get there as you seem such a nice person I am sure your friends will rally round, (even the married ones). Take Care and good luck. Lioness x x |
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Tarnlass
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| November 01, 2008 | ||
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Mazz Sugar, Everyday that you cry less is a step forward. As you say, you will feel better when you take charge of something, even if it is just your own bank account. I know you need to see your Son, it will be good for you both, give him a hug from me Hun. Speak soon, I'll give you a call. Tarnlass xxx |
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