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Oct 01
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Been in a bit of a low state for the last week. After being on the up for a bit I seem to have crashed down and struggling to get up again. The tears are back with a vengeance and tonight I woke at 4.30 and no chance of sleep again.
It's been 3 weeks since I told him I knew about his other life. Not had any response, no denial, no excuses, no sorry...don't know why I expect any but after nearly 22 years of marriage would like one. I can't even discuss this or argue...just have it going over and over in my head. Where did he go my husband?
Had the school contact me requesting daughter's fees so I wrote him email last Thursday asking how he could do this to her...had a response sent early the next morning so no problem with internet access when he chooses! His first line was "Get this straight I am not doing anything to her or anybody else" then proceeded to say it was me to blame for not paying them out of the considerable sums of his money he has given me. Well I did a spreadsheet for this year so far and without adding UK credit card repayments, food, household essentials, clothing (not that I have anything new except 1 pair of Fitflops) school books, it left me with the princely sum of 48.15 euros a week. The previous 2 years I couldn't do because the lawyer has all the statements but I know will be exactly the same. He is so far removed from the real world I think he must be residing in a mud hut in the swamps!
Went into school and gave my last 1ooo euros that was lent to me to cover some lawyers fees...told them I would get the other next week. How? I have no idea and since he has given me only 3000 again for next month it won't be coming out of that.
Received email yesterday from my lawyer saying his had been in touch asking what I wanted. What does he think I want???? She has listed what to offer for a clean break but I can't get my head round it at the moment. My head is not clear enough to see what is right and best for me and daughter.
I just wonder if he goes to bed at night and sleeps soundly and does he get up with a sick feeling every morning? I hope so because he deserves nothing less!
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supercali
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| October 03, 2010 | ||
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S/R, MY heart goes out to you, I too am left in a financial trap. I wake up in the middle of the night too with the fear that I won't be able to afford anything if this nightmare situation continues. I am going on a mission when my ordeal is over to teach women in the same situation how to take care of their financial well being. As for the day to day, I am cutting back and only buying what I really need while stbx sits with his pots of money. I know who is happier! Some people don't change their spots. Keep smiling, Supercali xx |
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pinky56
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| October 09, 2010 | ||
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bloody men.. they take your life then when it suits them they get a new love to look after them. I gave him 35 years of devotion to get a slap in the face... thanks if this is life you can shove it | |
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