I am writing a piece for a woman's glossy magazine and would like to speak to any women aged 25-45 who have decided to stay living in the same house as their ex-husband for financial reasons. Perhaps you have decided to stay in the same property but split it into two? If you would like to find out more, and have an initial confidential chat, please email me on louise_millar@btinternet.com. Many thanks. Louise

Louise,

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Hadenoughnow

Why not right an article on something that is much more relevant to divorce and about much more serious issue's ?

Yes a lot of us have been stuck in the same house as a cheating ex but that's only for the short term. I wish a journalist would come on here and ask about the very real issue's that people face.

For example

Wife has affair, she stay's in house with two children, husband has to live elsewhere and pay CM and also pay the mortgage and part of his salary to her, But the wife has moved her new man in who has a good job and earns well, So why does the husband have to pay to keep them both????

Why doe's the law say if the marriage has broken down because of an affair your both to blame?

Why do some mothers on here get nothing from the fathers of their children?

Why doesn't the law protect females from violent partners more?

The list go's on and I'm sure there are loads more questions like this, but these are the real issue's people face everyday and we need people like you to help get the law reviewed and changed and not pick up on short term story's

Dear Hadenoughnow,

Thanks for your message. I do understand that some journalists post without permission but I can assure you that the site owner has kindly given me theirs. I look forward to hearing from any interested members in complete confidentiality.

Hi,

I found your request very interesting. I am stuck in the same house as my husband who is guilty of many different things through the marriage. I told him enough is enough, he has threatended me verbally,been physically abusive committed adultery, registered his details on casual sex dating sites and got me into a lot of debt by signing my signature on financial agreements. He refuses to leave the marital home.

I am still in the same house not because I choose to be but because i am a working mother I would not get any financial help to get him out. I could get an occupation order but the judge has to be satisfied that he has somewhere to stay and that I can afford the mortgage. I have been told it costs £1500 and more if he contests it.So i am stuck here in a nightmare, not able to move on. you will find that most people do not 'choose' to stay under the same roof as their former or soon to be former spouse, they are 'forced' to because the law doesnt help. I was told if I had have been on benefits it would have all been free. In my situation whether I work to earn my money shouldnt come into it, why should I not have the force of the law behind me because I made the effort to get out and work. Sorry if this sounds like a rant but this is the issue that should be raised.

I live in same house, purely because I don't have any where else to go, and why should I, it's my home, he is the one having the affair, but will not move out.