Hi

My divoce file has just started (Im petitoner).
BUT I don't think he agree any settlement (maintenance whatever he pay me) more than 3K.
Just he keep saying "I supported you during marriage.Why I have to pay you settlement "

we married 6 years and 1 year lived together before marriage.
He works for 28 yrs, and will retire in 2010.
I was working as part time and I paid our council tax and contributed all food, and some part of our holiday.

As long as he doesn't agree financial issue, it takes longer to finish divorce, meaning is, cost more than 10K to pay my solicitor, which I can't afford to pay.(He is self rep)

If the cost(eventually) 13K, then settlement is 10K, but result is the same as 3K for me, but too much stress.
It will be simpler and less stress to agree 3K now for me??

Negociaton or mediation didn't work.

Simply, agreeing his offer 3K is easier ?

Any advice or idea, I really appreciate.
Thank you

moca

Hi Moca,

You have been together all in all for seven years.
You say that the house is in his sole name : could you please contact the Land registry and " declare an interest" in the house. You have a right to do so - and should do so - because then he cannot sell the house without your consent.
You are also en­title­d to a share of the house - it may not be much, but it is certainly worth asking for it.

Your husband's misbehaviour - as you so nicely call it - and the length of time he has been misbehaving have no influence on the financial side of the divorce.

One thing that you MUST put in a claim for is his pension : the police force have very generous pensions and you are en­title­d to a share of it.

I have read your posts over the weeks and think the following :

Your husband is trying to force you to accept very little, probably because :
- he is counting on the fact that you are far away and maybe do not not the law fully
- he thinks you cannot afford to fight him
- there is a culture of divorce in the police force and he has been advised by his colleagues that he can do this to you.

From what you write, it seems that you are en­title­d to more than you are being offered.

I do not know how you would feel about representing yourself ( there is help here at Wiki ) but if you take your case to court, your husband will probably be shocked and revise his offer which, by the sound of it, is not even approaching fairness.

Red XX

Hi, red

Thank you for your advice!

About the house, The land registry office sent him a letter already.. that's why he shouted at me..."Remove your name.Otherwise i don't pay single penny!"

I do not know how you would feel about representing yourself ( there is help here at Wiki ) but if you take your case to court, your husband will probably be shocked and revise his offer which, by the sound of it, is not even approaching fairness.


I am so scared of what's going on later I apply divorce case. That's why I wonder it is worth to ask solicitor to sort out or not...
1.He will be very harsh more to me in any way. He knows how to stubb to my emotion.(he has been stubbed to me emotionaly more than enough already.. there are no space to be stubbed in my heart any more)

2.I might not be able to afford legal fee.
I can't spend all my money I have had, because my father is too old and just has gone through big heart operation. He might need further medication or support (it is not free in Japan).

Here is lots of people and you .. who give us advice.Thank you. You and all people here keep me going..

I try to contact with Rachel (NFLP)

Thank you.

moca xxx