Here's the situation. Divorced a little over a year, been apart over 2 years,financilas all sorted, XW and I live near each other. No one else involved in the split, just deeply fed up with each other, too different, etc etc. So I thought the parting would be amicable....BUT XW became enraged for some reason, went on a hate mission (anyone who would speak to me could not be her friend -this included all her family who I have known 20 years)

Oh, she also threw out our oldest daughter who's now living with me. Because she couldnt stand said daughter's admittedly quite @rsy manners. In the middle of her A levels.....

The hate has calmed down, thank goodness, though I think that's more because she realised how silly she looked. But I really do not feel inclined to do her any favours. Like when she asks me to have the kids an extra weekend so she can go to some party with her new man. I'm not in the least resentful or jealous of him, but I really dont see why I should help,after the way she carried on for the first year and a half.

Or am I being small minded?

I would think less of why she wants you to have the children an extra weekend and more about whether you would love to see your children more.

If the answer is YES, I would love to see my children more then don't cut your nose to spite your face.

It is as simple as that. Just don't let her take the situation for granted, do say no sometimes.

Regards

Sarah

Id go with Sarah on this, the more you see of your children the better, but certainly dont be taken advantage of, Im sure if you dont do it there will be a response if she cant go out but wont there always be

Max

Hi there,
I would say the same as Sarah and Tmax, but literally turn it right around and feel blessed that you can see your children more. Sod what she is doing while you are having fun with your kids. She is the one missing out.
It will make you and your little ones closer and how wonderful if they know that you have them because you want to and not refuse to have them so that it messes up their mother's life.
I know that you feel you are being used, but I would turn it completely around and have them as much as you can.
It is not long before they have grown up and we are not needed quite as much, enjoy them.
Good luck
zara