I had always worked full time before and during our 20 years together and only gave up to join stbx who had moved abroad with his job. He always had a "bee in his bonnet" about me working - he never took any interest.
He said he was now earning enough for me not to work and ­object­ed when I suggested getting a part time job abroad (I was bored with manicures and coffee mornings.)
The money he sends each month leaves me enough to survive on but there is nothing left for holidays or car/property maintenance nor to have much of a social life. he has refused to increase his payments.
There are 2 opinions on the subject of me finding another job:
1. I have only been a lady of leisure for 18 mnths and why should I go back to work when he was the reason why I no longer have my well paid job.
2. When determining the split of assets the court may view the fact that I don't work in a negative way and I should show willing by finding a job.

What to do?? I could get a job but I will never be able to match the earnings it took me 20 years to achieve. Will having a job prejudice the share of assets?

hi..i cant advise on the legal side...my husband always bemoaned the fact that i didnt work...(two kids and a house to run..thats not work..?!?!?)...i work now but school hours and hes still not happy...!!!...does he know how much childcare costs..??
i would suggest that you see whats out there ..use you talents to do something you enjoy...if you are not desparate for cash you can find something that suits your life­style­....a job opens up a whole new world to you even if it isnt highly paid or dynamic..thats my opinion

Hiya

the view the courts will take will depend on whether you have children under senior school age or not, and whether he is a 'High Earner'.

I haven't yet found an exact definition of high earner but suffice to say if there would be enough income to keep both of you in the manners to which you have become accustomed the courts may be less interested in you having or not having a low paid job.

HTH

poppy