OK well I spooke to my solicitor today and he thinks that the disposing of assets statue won't stand up because it's meant for people who try and sell things off once divorce is on the cards. As this deed of transfer was signed before we even got married, that statute won't help us.
A friend is making enquiries with a property/trust lawyer he works with with regard to the money I have paid as a tenant etc, to see if we get anywhere with that.
My only other hope is that we can prove that the deed of trust is fraudulent, which is a possibility given that it only came to light yesterday and the divorce has been on the cards for 3 months. Trouble is I don't honestly know if it is fraudulent, because I can wholly believe that my ex and his parents did this before we were even married. And if it has been back-dated, I don't see how we'll ever prove it.
the fact that my in laws are on the deed complicates matters becuase the courts do not have the powers to sign the house over to me, as they may do in a normal divorce case. there's also the short marriage issues to contend with.
Even if this deed of trust hadn't come to light, then there's a good chance in court that we woudl be ordered just to sell the house and split the equity, and my very best case scenario would be to get a third, which less costs of sale is about £10k. That is what I'm asking for anyway given that I spent about £7k on home improvements, and have contributed towards the mortgage for 4 years.
I think that given the risks that my very best case in court (without the deed of trust) is about a £10k settlment, if ex is prepared to pay me this now i'll just take the money and move on. There's also the risk in court that I'll get nothing. It could go either way but I don't really want this battle to go on because I don't want the children to remember it. They're going through enough already and my eldest (18 months) is already really unsettled with this latest development and I'm not going to put him through any more upset than he's already had.
If ex wants to do this then he can. It's on his conscience but really I think the best thing for my boys is for us just to take our £10k (if we get it) and make a fresh start somewhere else.
God sometimes I hate being the bigger person. that said, I will be having one hell of a house-leaving party and will be painting the entire place an awful shade of pink before I leave
