Trying to work out what we need to get buy. At the moment work part time with inc of around £9k seperated husband around £80k. Only benefits id qualify for are 25% reduction in council tax and tax credits. But when i add up income and outgoings i find myself wholly reliant on ex for money.
Once child left full time education i doubt i would be able to manage - i know its looking ahead but should we not do that when kids are involved - cant get ex to think this way.
All it would take is for him not to pay one month then we would be in debt - and a debt we would not be able to get out of - i know i could take him to court but what does that cost and do you actualy ever get the money back.
I would not be in this position if i could get full time hours back at work - but unable to. So to take on another job would be at night time or weekends and would need childcare. I just dont feel i can take on finanacial commitments for things i may or may not be able to pay depending on ex`s situation. Does anyone know what are reasonable amounts to put away monthly for
Birthday/xmas presents for child
A holdiay
Clothes
General Spending
Maintance of bought house inside and out

Easy for him as his income far more than mine, he can at times earn in couple of months what i do in a year.

Just feel like i am going completly mad just now - almost to the point of saying well you dont have to struggle so child might be better of staying with you.

hi
the only real option for you is to get spousal maintenance, as this will cover you untill you remarry, live with someone. get a full time job or die.
otherwise you will be relying on him agreeing to give you the money, if he meets someone else and decides he doesnt want to pay or to give you less you wil be left in the same situation and will need to take him to court.
hope this helps
kind regards
dawn

hi
the only real option for you is to get spousal maintenance, as this will cover you untill you remarry, live with someone. get a full time job or die.
otherwise you will be relying on him agreeing to give you the money, if he meets someone else and decides he doesnt want to pay or to give you less you wil be left in the same situation and will need to take him to court.
hope this helps
kind regards
dawn

does not really matter which way you look at it, think people in my situation really at the mercy of the ones who are paying the money - have known people going to court over outstanding payments but years later still have not had anything. My husband at the moment seems to grudge every penny he gives us and keeps pointing out we are getting more than en­title­d to - dont think that quite right but no point in pushing in case he stops paying things altogether. Just hate it that i have to be so reliant on someone for money didnt think of it that way when he was here but then was not facing the prospect of trying to make ends meet on my own. Im still the one doing without to care for child but you would do that regardless so why should he keep bringing up what he pays us. Could see the point if i was out living it up - or is that against the rules.