Possibly not - but Childline probably have a web site. I always joked with my son that I'd pay for the therapy later in life. Kids see that you're real.

You know: i think Divorce would work easier if there wasn't all this cloak and dagger stuff hidden behind solicitors doors!

I think all communications (including solicitors letters) should be made open to the other party. I don't get that it's all carried out like criminal law. I don't get the fighting element.

This did happen to me - it was me that Mike was referring to in his earlier post. My ex joined the site a few weeks ago in order to contact the wiki team and have them take down all my blogs due to their "defamatory" nature. I don't blame the wiki team for doing so, not at all, I can totally appreciate that they have to protect themselves and the site. However, the blogs were anonymous and while, if you knew us, you'd recoginse the story, frankly, everything I wrote was true and for the most part verifiable.

I can imagine it was very hurtful to read, but it's really the online equivalent of reading someone's diary (he did that too) so if you're going to do it, you should really be prepared to read things you're not going to like. And if you do, it's totally out of order to condemn the other person for writing them.

He now brings up things I'd written in the blog (and the diary) as we continue to try to come to a financial agreement. More proof, should I ever need it, that while there was a control freak in the marriage, it wasn't me.

Luckily, he did this at a time when I was feeling much stronger and I was able to just rise above it. I left the site for a while, and didn't feel the need to blog any more. I imagine he'll still be keeping an eye on me and will be reading this, so hi

As you can imagine, it has made me extremely wary of what I write here, and I've debated whether to even post on this thread, but I don't see why I should be censoring myself. That said, I am happy and getting on with my life now and the misery of the blogs that I wrote seems very distant now, so I am OK with their not being published any more.

Hi
Well so what if he does!!!!!!!!!! Truth often hurts. He has the choice as to whether he depresses the keys on a keyboard and enters a password, let us just hope that all the faults you highlighted he has addressed.
Enjoy Wiki
Zara

I am a newby and when I posted my original question I was deliberately vague as I was concerned that it could identify me. However, 5 months after discovering that my husband of 30+ years was having (another) affair and has chosen to leave me for her I really do not mind if he, or his 'lady' read this, or any future, posts.

In fact, if she does happen to distract herself enough to find this site I would like to remind her that I have worked all my adult life (unlike her)to ensure that my husband, our children and myself were not a drain on taxpayers (by the way how are your kids doing?), I attempted to keep his spending under control - even though ultimately I paid his debts, the flash car/passion waggon is only lease hire, the (failing) business cannot possibly support you both and it would also appear that I may have recourse to lay a claim against the value of the premises/land.

Although, as I understand it, you are not yet living together on a permanent basis, have you considered how you will feel when you are washing his manky underwear, cooking his dinner every night, listening to him breaking wind in the bathroom every morning (assuming he actually makes it to the bathroom)- oh and by the way the MH still has a mortgage on it - he's obviously not as wealthy as you had imagined.

Most of the above is totally off topic - I obviously need a rant tonight!

Well my ex didn't use this site she used friends reunited. The way her post was written implied that I made her unhappy.
Well just adds more ammo to me !!!

Mine has admitted in a row that she has found my sanctuary here and I'm gutted about it. This has been my refuge, the place I come to to moan or vent, chat with friends in a simila position and where I come for support. And it was MINE! The last thing I need after what I've been put through is to have parts of my posts quoted back to me in a row! You've had your 'thing' that I wasn't a part of, let me have mine!

As a result, I will probably be posting less about my own situation, as I don't want the temptation of using wiki to post things hoping they'll be read. I'll still join in other's posts tho, and leave the same rambling nonsense I usually do!

Sorry to hear that Sun - I know we cant own the site but it does feel like a violation when your ex shows up and joins in. You could of course create an alter ego for yourself so you can still say what you want but keep Sun as well.

Rasher