oh btw, I now see why you're not sleeping!

fm

maisey,
you do not say how old your children are.
If they are fairly independent and do not need help with home work and need mumtaxi too often I think you would be a fool to postpone your final year.You can let divorce take over your life or you can manage it with the rest.A busy person can always find time to do everything and I am sure you will be fine.It will keep you occupied.
all the best

I 'think' I will continue on. I have all the finances applied for and that is security in itself. I have been attending counselling at uni for, might even be 3 months now, and my counsellor is brilliant. My last placement let me out to attend the sessions viewing them as medical appointments, and afaik didn't inform uni so I am hoping that my new placement will be as understanding.

I have so much to do before I start though, I collected my stuff from the house last week and I have bin bags of clothes and boxes of things absolutely everywhere in this tiny flat and I badly want to sort them all out by the time I start - or else they will still be there in February as when in placement I have no time to breathe practically! Poor dd gets hardly any attention when I am in placement too, and she is having a hard time emotionally right now but she is my main priority alongside my degree and everything else goes.

I 'think' I will continue on.
That comment right there shows your strength!
You have come to a decision thats YOURS. You are stronger than you believe you are and I congratulate you

Maysie had a thought, we can internet study buddy together and try and stop each others assignment nervous breakdown. Although just finishing my course (an msc is 12 mths so runs oct to sept) the trainee probation officer job I have got means I have to do another degree to qualify as a prob officer. Sounds odd, it used to be on the job diploma but now on the job degree. I have to do it in 2yrs (no summers out, hence shorter duration) and work full time.........wanna try and stop each others mental madness moments of stupid men and divorce?????????? xxx

definitely!

Congratulate yourself on having done 2 years of the course first of all.

I think often we worry about how we will cope and things all seem too much, but we do get through.

Your ex is the one who wants to get on with divorce, not you. You take your time, don't let him bully you. I'm not saying drag things out to be spiteful, just don't let him dictate everything. And don't worry about what he would say if you deferred. Its none of his ****ing business. I am still finding myself worrying about what my husband will say though he's moved out, and reminding myself that its nothing to do with him anymore, unless it involves our children.

The counselling will help and I am sure if you talk to the uni about your circumstances they may be able to make some practical suggestions to ease some of the pressure.

Focus on how great it will feel when you complete your degree.

All the stuff that needs sorting out will wait until you get round to it. And in my experience, stuff always needs sorting out. I've done loads in the summer holiday and there seems more to do, but I am not going to beat myself up about it.

Good luck to you, I think you are going to be fine! If you feel doubts, listen to Gloria Gaynor's "I will survive!"