my husband left 2 weeks agao ,after telling me he no longer wanted me i was destroyed, he wanted to stay while we sorted things out as we have a little boy 2 yrs old,i did not see it coming, but felt i could not live with him,
a few days after he went, i was on the p c ,and instant messages started coming up on my screen from a woman my husband was supposed to meet the previous week end , i could not belive it, she filled me in on all his internet activities, and told me his chat room user names,i was gob smacked , i had no idea that he was meeting woman from the net , and now it all slots into place for me,i will never have him back ,i see a sol tomorrow ,as i will never trust him again, but i am still totaly in shock,

Tabatha, it sounds like your husband is being really awkward with you about moving out & supporting you all. If you have kids then i think its your right & your choice to stay at home & care for them, he should be paying the bills! But after he leaves you should be en­title­d to income support to support you all & see you through. As for saying things in drink you regret? Dont feel at all guilty, he deserved everything you said after all he's doing to you, stay strong girl & stand up to him, be firm in your decisions.
Cindy

From a man's point of view I would have though that if you started dating he would just go......... Not a very nice tactic but one that should work. Even if you go out for a night out with a very handsome bloke (even just borrow one He-He) and then go to a friends for the night and be a pretend dirty stop out. This should drive him a little crazy for the evening. Either way you need a way out from this and soon the stress will make the breakup much harder because you'll have to recover from that as well as the obvious stuff.

Hi everyone. I had to change my ID...various reasons, but anyway, I'm still reading

Two nights ago, I was reading a book, coming downstairs when I needed a smoke...I try not to smoke upstairs. And I felt sooo much calmer than I had done. It was really funny, where as before he had been hiding he had been on these sites..although I caught him loads of times, this night, he never switched pages back and forth when i was in the room, he just kept them there typing away. Now a lot of people would find that harder, but for me it felt clearer. I didn't say anything to him, and found no interest at all. I think he did it to make more more jealous, maybe he thought i would want him back..I dunno..but to me it just proved what I thought. If he can now do it so obviously,without even having any decency to hide it, shows how low he really is.

I said to him earlier the day before, that I want him to go asap, and I wasn't going to make it easy for him to be under the same roof, which he keeps asking me to apologize for and take what I said back, but I don't think I will.

I still look for him when I go into town, but I don't feel the need to check up on him anymore. Although I found a note today from another woman, I'm off to photocopy that very soon, not out of jealousy, but evidence. Of course he prob left that for me to find, it wasn't hidden. I can't believe how quickly and how much better I feel. I know I have still loads of bad days ahead of me, but I do feel stronger in myself. I brought some more romance books to ready, and a DIET cookbook, I painted my nails..thats been years since I did that, and I went out last night with my daughter and had a great time. Even brought Kebabs on the way home, of course the stbx was upset I didn't get him one...ah bless...nm eh!!!