Your respective ages;
I am 35 he is 40
The number of children you have and their ages;
son 16, daughter 15, son 10
How many nights the children spend with each parent;
still to be decided he says son 16 wants to stay with him but will have some days with me
The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;
17 yrs married no yrs cohab
Your respective incomes;
I have been house wife for 17 yrs because of his controlling behaviour, he works for dads big businessI have never been told how much he earns all he says he is in debt after being released from prison, He definately has a share in dads business he manages to pay 1000 monthly mortgage and bills so far
Your respective outgoings;
I have to travel to kenya to meet my parents once in a yr him no idea
Your assets - both soley held and joint;
I only have 2500 savings him no idea
Your liabilities.our home jointly owned current value is around £500k
I have to pay bills gas,groceries electricity, water, car rd tax etx total of about monthly 2300.Him no idea

Has he made an offer to you yet?

The courts will consider the housing needs of all the parties, but give priority to the children and the parent-with-care. You will need a four bedroomed home, and I imagine you have this since its' value is £500k

Since you have been totally supported, my guess is you'd receive spousal support, at least until you can retrain and work full time. Child support is 25% of his income (for the three children) don't know how to do the sums for spousal support...

Someone else will help.

A recent sols letter says that eldest son wants to live with him. I have asked for mediation to arrange equal residential order.He has not asked about other kids as yet. The 500k home is 3 bedroom. I hear from kids he wants to buy me out!can I refuse as this home is convenient for school.
No formal offers yet but I would want to know more about him since he keeps saying he has no money as he was in prison and is in debt but I know his well to do family has his share he admitted transferring stuff to his brothers name. How do I know he is being fair to me and kids?I am getting legal aid would they get an investigator to find out what he really is worth
Can I stop my kids from staying at his sisters house as she uses my kids to change her kids diapers, do her washing etc