Not a question really, just needed to rant.

Weeks ago arranged with stbx which days he would have our daughter. He's having her every Wed & Thurs and alternate Fri, Sat. This arrangement has only just started as he couldn't have her overnight until he bought bunk beds. (OW has two children). Two weeks ago started having her Wed/Thurs. Didn't have her last weekend as he was at a wedding. - Fair enough - weddings are planned very much in the future.

Got home Wednesday to a note saying he couldn't have her night on the following Fri which would have been his first weekend. To say I was livid was an understatement! i did the right thing though - went out with a friend and a bottle of wine, rather than ringing him there and then.

next day I rang and asked why he couldn't have daughter. OW is ill he says. Oh, she knows she is going to be ill in two weeks time does she? says me.

After a few seconds stuttering he says they have gone through the diary and found they have something on on the Friday. Tough says I. I've arranged to go out (I haven't but he doesn't need to know that!). But I thought you were going out of the Thursday he says (he is looking after dog). Yes, and on the Friday says I. I arrange my social life around when I have our daughter. I have clients coming to our offices next Monday and they wanted me to go out with them but i have said No as I have my daughter.

When I asked who his priority was he said our daughter of cause "but if i don't keep OW happy, I've no where to live" - sounds like an even, loving relationship doesn't it? - Not that i was grinning at this point or anything.

So I've basically said tough, I can't have her on that day. He said he will sort something out. He'll probably ask his mother to have her but she lives 40 miles away and daughter has a music concert at 9.30am next morning. i will wait and see what happens.

I have been amicable and flexible over the last few months since he destroyed my world, but i am not putting up with this. My daughter needs to get into a routine as well.

Sorry for the rant but feel better now!

Good for you, stick to your guns, he shouldnt be able to walk away from the arrangements!

Sounds like your ex won't be able to cope with the contact arrangement (seems like quite a lot when such early days anyway). I'd continue with being flexible, and even compromising your own arrangements if I was you. This is in consideration of your daughter's wellbeing for now and also to consider the longer term relationship with her father ....and his new partner and her children - although I'm sure you're not too bothered about them, evitably your daughter will be affected by her relationship with them and the more positive the siutation the better for her. Sorry if not sounding supportive but just ­base­d on my own experience.