Thanks Zara.. I just called him and told him the news as I picked up the letters from his flat. He is furious and I have suggested what you have said. As I said in my last post, her solicitor is desperate to blacken his name to make it look good for her client in court, the victim. We know how calculating she is and i think her solicitor is the same. The reason she is doing this, is because he wont play ball, he wont roll over and die for them. Thats p***ing them both off. He has stood his ground and took her to court over contact which she didnt like. He once drove 6 hours to see his son, on a agreed visit and when he gpt there she told him she would not let him see his son, its the first time I have seen my partner cry. He hadnt seen his son for 6 months as he was working abroad. I think she is a nasty b**ch. She should accept that he has moved on with his life and get a life of her own.

I always think it is so incredibly sad when a parent plays these games and uses the child as a pawn in the game.

That poor child is losing out on quality time with his dad and it really is not fair, the child will end up resenting his mother for it, I know because I am speaking from experience as my mother split up with my father when I was 5 and re-married and made things very difficult access wise so i hardly saw my dad at all until I was 16.

I will never forgive my mother for this as I feel that she ruined my childhood and stopped me from having a relationship with my dad. She still is very bitter about things and hates me seeing him so I dont tell her. I basically lost all contact with him from the age of 9 until I was 16 then I got in touch myself.

This is why I would never stop my son having contact with his dad and even though we will be moving away some 350 miles away, I have said to my ex (second hubbie, not the one im divorcing now), that he can come and stay anytime and it wont be long before my son will be able to fly on his own and use the train.

Saffy x

Well.. my only advise to my partner was.. let things go and when his son is old enough. then he will contact him and he can tell him and show him letters he sent that his mother never let him read.

The same thing happened to my brother, he never saw his kids from a very young age and when they hit 16. they all went round to my mums and asked to see their dad. When we told them what their mother had done they were devasted. Devasted that their mother lied and cheated them out of a father for so many years, just because she was bitter and twisted....

Thanks Zara and Saffy, you've both been great and its lovely to know people are there to listen what ever problems we have...

It might be worth a pop into the surgery and just ask if trying to contact your son is classed as harrasment.
PErhaps Amanda might be able to offer some good advice as to how to reply to his solicitor.

LEt us know how it goes, keep the thread updated.

zara