Personally I think you are absolutely right and he is being a control freake. However, it is really not worth the hastle of an arguement and as for talking to his daughter about your "selfishness" WHAT A PRAT! I would tell him that you will do the drop off (I think this is the easier one because it means you wont be waiting around for daughter to get ready and she wont be waiting around for you to arrive. But, tell him the reasons why you think he is a prat ie. school runs, activity runs etc. You really should pull him up on damaging your daughter too with comments that she has no need to hear. Best of luck.

He should be a good ex hubbie like wot I am and know that the roads only work in one direction.From my house to hers on collections and from my house to her house on returns.
I couldn't possibly expect her and barry to encroach on their quality time together in the house I bought for something as trivial as accomodating shared transportation of the kids to see their father now could I?
So he's petty to ask to share transport after 4 years?
Shared is fair.

to say petrol cost are hurting his pocket is rediculous.
the kids are his flesh and blood.
no distance would stop me seeing and beeing with my boy.