Ok where to start, its going to be long winded so get a cup of tea first.
Ok My wife and i split in 2003 after she wanted a seperation totally out of the blue.
I saw my daughter at least once a week when work and shifts would permit, and we had a seperation agreement saying i would pay maintenance increasing by 8% yearly, once i got a new and better paid job she went straight to the csa, not long after splitting i found someone else, and had loads of problems, like my girlfriend wasnts allowed to be in the car when i was picking up my daughter etc, ths went on for about 2 years, (should say daughter was 3 at time of split)
Then the last 2-3 years were more amicable to the point my ex wife would ask my new partner to pick up from school, take child when i was working etc.
Anyway at the start of this year we split up (my decision) again i always picked my daughter up when i said i would, the only times i have not seen my daughter is when i have been away on holiday so around 10 weeks out of 5 years she didnt see me.
If i said i would get her i always have.
Im now in a new relationship, and want my daughter to meet my new girlfriend,i have moved in with her now and she wasnt in yesterday, so i explained everything to my daugher (now 8 1/2) and she was really keen on meeting my new partner, so i brought her to the house, only me her and one of my friends turned up later on.
Then this morning my ex wife called me and said she understands i took daughter to my girlfriends house, i was honest as i always have been and said yes, her reply was well its going through courts for your access now.
And she hung up.
What are my rights as the dad seeing my daugher and her saying i cant take my daughter here or there etc.
I love my daughter and never want to stop seeing her and at same time i love my partner and dont want to loose her,my daughter was so happy yesterday when i told her about everything (been kept quiet at her mums request to that point) but her mum is hell bent in dictating what i can and cant do.
Now my ex wife and ex partner are best buddies i was out a couple of weeks ago and another of there friends came and had a real go at me for seeing someone else, im so angry inside but know i got to keep a cool head to i dont loose the 2 things that are so precious to me.
Please any answers would be great folks, il look forward to hearing from you.
Oh and that cup o tea you made will be cold now so get a fresh one.

It was clearly too early for introducing a new partner, you are barely 6 month together if you split up this year with your old partner. You daughter just experienced another break up, esp since your former GF was part of her life as well. And now you introduce her yet to another..
No wonder your Ex is mad at you.

However this does not give her the right to restrict contact.And since you have decided to move in with her you barely have a choice apart from taking it easy now,take your daughter out and minimize the contact until you are really sure this is for a long time (not just cloud 9).
If your wife is not cooperative to a well formed plan how you are taking your daughtes wellbeing into consideration and at the same time incorporate the facts ( that you actually live there) I am afraid you have to go down the court route.

Hi. I'm new on here but your post sounds so familiar. My long term boyfriend is having similar problems with his ex. He sees his sons but not his daughter. This needs to be sorted out, through the courts if need be before it turns into parental alienation which is nasty and can take years to resolve in court. Sounds like your ex is becoming bitter although maybe she is worried about another partner being introduced to your daughter so soon after your previous one. It's a tough position to be in, you feel as though you are being torn between your new love and your child. No-one should be forced to choose. It would be so much easier if your ex could sit down and speak calmly to you about her worries.

I have to say that I can agree with your ex wife on this one. Your daughter has seen you split with her mum, and then formed a bond with your next girlfriend, and then saw the split again. Now there's another woman on the scene and it starts all over again.

Why are you so keen to involve this new woman in your daughter's life? You haven't been together long enough to know if it's a long term thing. You can have a relationship with your daughter and your girlfriend without involving the two. It sounds like you dont' have your daughter that much (i.e. it's not shared residency) so there's plenty of time for you to see them both seperately.

your daughter comes to see and spend time with you - and not your girlfriend.

I always thought that the recommendation was that you should be with someone for about 1 year before involving the children, by which point you'll hopefully know if it's a long term thing.

As for choosing between your daughter and your girlfriend, there should be no contest. I would go back to your ex wife and say that you agree that the new girlfriend shouldn't be involved in your daughter's life, and stick to it.

Hi, I've commented on a post here but from the other angle ... You sure your ex wife doesn't come on here? LOL, anyway, I'd suggested that if she had a problem with her ex's new girlfriend, to invite her round to meet her.... BUT.... after reading some of these posts, I'm inclined to take it back and agree, especially since your last relationship broke up. I know relationships break up all the time blah blah blah, but I do agree that you should wait a little bit longer. I'm sure your new partner would agree if it was explained to her. If she's a keeper she'll understand.

Finally.... your two ex's are best buddies???! ooooo not good eh? LOL sorry had to have a giggle at that, ok it's not funny but I have a sick sense of humour.

hi ya, the 2 ex's being friends now seems strange !
Anyway, initially I thought your ex was being awkward and perhaps jealous even that you are in a new relationship.
Tricky things new relationships, when there are children involved. My ex husband created so much trouble that my relationship with my partner failed. I am staying single now as I want my children to have stability, but I am now lonely and its this is not fair on me !
Talking to ex wife and resolving is always best, but there is the court route which you can register yourself. Courts offer advise on forms and costs etc. Once you get there you can have mediation through the CAFCASS officers, then you go in court and matters are discussed.
Stopping access because of your new girl friend is a bit much I think! Sure, I agree with the other points of view also.
I am going through a similar situation, My ex husband is taking me to court for child access. I had to limit access due to serious issues such as anger management and domestic violence where the children were emotinally affected. I wanted him to see the girls with consistency. He has decided to take me to court and is doing this himself. I am being represented and paying lots of money for it.
If there are no serious issues then the courts will allow fathers to have visitation rights. This can be weekly, fortnightly, letters, phone calls etc. supervised, unsupervised......stay overs etc etc etc ..... If she was sensible, she would mutally agree with you, day, time, place etc etc. Goodluck

What seems to be the issue is, not communicating ahead of the game the changes in your life.

Until you have reasonable levels of communications between seperated parents of the child any issue small or large will result in a disruption of contact.

The loser is the child, more effort from both parents to communicate on issues affecting children would sort this out for the future.

Tim