My wife moved to 'trial separation' before totally changing her mind, so that is what I am pushing for. I suspect that it'll end in divorce which is why I want to get all the finances in order now, but I'm willing to give it a go on a trial basis just in case I (we) feel differently once I get my independence back again. In a nut-shell, neither my wife nor I are happy in the marriage anymore, so why prolong the inevitable!

As far as I know, spousal maint will not come into it as we earn roughly the same (unless you know different?). The house is paid for but I have suggested she gets a mortgage to buy me out, which I will then add to with another mortgage in order to buy another house. We have two teenage children but they'll cope - I did when I was their age and my parent's divorce was not amicable.