Braindearth, your post is abusive. Loblolly, who started the thread, is a full-time parent. Her husband is wanting to split the children and take one away from their full-time carer. Neither of these is likely to be in their best interests, which is why I suggested that her husband was treating them like commodities.

Of course it is better to sort things out in mediation, but this is not always possible.

Sadie

braindearth, i feel your comment was rather harsh.it really is not right to state that someones post is the usual rubbish. there are ways to put things.
mediation only works if both parties are willing to attend,although it has been set up to try to help difficult situations.
splitting up the siblings is not a good idea. due to the equality thing, men now feel they can offer this after the female ,often ,but not always, having had the carer position since childbirth.
i feel this is all about money and being mean ,not about the best interest of your children.
the courts ,however will ask the children where they want to live.
as you have equity in your property, and rather a lot, it may be the best thing to sell up and half the money and both of you can re-start afresh.there is enough to purchase a smaller property outright.
if at all possible , can you talk to your stbx, it may be worth a try.
good luck xx