Earlier this month I saw a case worker from my local Citizens Advice Bureau. I asked their advice about benefit entitlement.
I am still living in my STBX matrimonial home which I part own. Me and my STBX husband are in the process of getting divorced. STBX is currently applying for a remortgage of the home which could yield a lump sum of approx' £35.000 (for me) and the property would be transferred into his name alone.
I have two children (under 16) and STBX receives Child Tax Credit and Child Benefit for them. The Department of Work and Pensions (DWP) accepts that me and my STBX and are separated while living under the same roof. Therefore, I receive £86.35 per week Income Support as a single person. I also receive Disability living allowance (approx' £18.00 per week).
With regard to how this will affect any state benefits I might receive: the CAB advises that a lump sum settlement of £35K would but my savings/ capital above £16K. This would mean I would lose my entitlement to any means tested benefit (my Income support would stop). Once my savings were reduced to less than £16K, I may be entitled to means tested benefits depending on my circumstances. (Have been advised to keep records of how savings are spent.)
At Family Mediation, I was advised that, maybe, the court could order for the divorce settlement to be paid in instalments of £3,000 per year. CAB says that although this would not take me over the capital limits- I would have to notify the DWP of the balance of money still owed to me. This could still affect my entitlements as the DWP may consider I am depriving myself of capital just to increase my benefit entitlement and could be treated as still possessing all of the £35K.
Also, if I receive a lump sum I will need to inform my debt advisor as my change in financial circumstances may affect my liability to pay my debts (£25K on different credit cards).
This seems like a very awkward situation and I am not sure which is the best way to go with this. My solicitor has been demanding to know what my STBX can really afford. What he has offered so far will not be enough to 'buy me a house' the solicitor says. But I cannot see how my STBX can afford to offer any more than he has. Anyway, if I did buy a property or part-share in a property, my creditors could come after my property to pay my debts.
The dilemma is that £35K is not enough to buy or pay for part of a property yet £35K is too much to qualify for state benefits. (It would be used very quickly on living expenses - but the first £25K would have to be used to pay my debts anyway.)
Our divorce goes to court in early November 2008 to reach an agreement over financial matters. I am worried because I don't think I am going to get a fair settlement. I somtimes wonder who my solicitor is working for - she seems to listen to my husband's side of things more than my needs.
I suppose I am too easy to overlook because I have mental health problems while my husband is a school teacher with a regular salary and can pay the mortgage on the STBX marital home. (It is too much upheaval for the children to leave their current home - and I am currently unable to work, due to ill-health - and provide a roof for them. I am afraid I will not get a fair hearing and that all the sympathy will go to my STBX as the 'lone father'.
I don't know how I am going to survive in rented accommodation on state benefits. I am afraid that the situation will only worsen my mental state - yet my STBX is putting pressure on me to move out as quickly as possible after a settlement is reached. He says I am being too fussy not wanting to take the first available thing that comes along - 'Oh you can just find somewhere better later'. But I do not want the stress of moving around too much.
It just seems that my STBX will get to keep everything and I will just be cast off onto the benefit system, due to being unable to work currently. It looks like it will work very cheap for my STBX - he has found a cheap way to get rid of me and he knows it. He also thinks he has the moral high ground because I was 'irresponsible with money' and ran up the most debts. He had debts himself but has discharged those with another loan - but he is so smug about all this. He'll be 'alright Jack'.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? If so, how did you cope? A life in the benefit trap seems like no life at all - that is not what I want.
