well I havent checked in here for a while. Last weekend I went away with friends leaving my young son with my ex.Was having nice weekend until got voice-mail of ex and OW rowing and son sending texts obviously upset as OW was being nasty to him. Sigh and ex had row with OW and brought son back after I returned, and then my daughter had to go to his house to stay as having problems with rented house.So ow got rid of son only to be replaced by daughter. So didn't have a very nice time while away and lesson learnt about not responding to ex when he throws his toys out the pram.Felt very

So tomorrow night is the date with my wife. I arranged a nice Turkish restaurant and then a pub next door for a drink after. She asked what we'd be doing and I told her and she said "oh, the same old thing. I was hoping for something fun like racing go karts or going kayaking". ok, here is where I need some advice. My theory was let's see if we can talk and have fun rediscover each other and not fight. I guess she was thinking of a more fun activity. Should I change the plans based on her input? I could find a place to go dancing or race go karts or bowling or something touristy. Should I

I want to know how all of this will end up. So much of what I have read has stressed to focus on the now. To focus on accepting what is. To be at peace with today's reality. I get it. I actually do think that is the healthiest way forward and I am trying to find my center as I slowly move on. Deep down, I know I'll be fine and it'll all work out. I'll still be me and that's pretty good. But I cannot help the impatience. I want to get there NOW. I want to get to the good place NOW. Or at least I want to know what that will look like. Where will I be living, who will I be with, how often will I