Hmmmmm, good bit is I haven't cried since sunday, but having internal wobble. Felt a bit of anger and stuff last night and then just had awful night. Had one of those really vivid dreams about him me and the barmaid, I dreamt he left her and came back to be and she was gutted. Then couldn't settle and had millions of things going around my head. So this morning am very tired and feeling vunerable. I am going to see lots of him this week as he taken week out to see 15yr old. I am just really not sure where my emotions are.

He says he not with her now, but that comes down to trust which I don't

Hi,

Am new to this site and having read alot of the stories they make me very sad, unlike most of the stories about husbands affairs and how they are acting badly,  well I am one of theose husbands who has been labelled a liar , I had an affair online with a girl I have only met 3-4 times on business but my wife found some explicit emails from me to her and thought  I was having an affair in I guess in some ways I was and do not blame my wife one bit As I would of assumed the same.  She has gone to the solicitor yesterday and I'm terrified,  we have a 9 month girl and a 4 year old boy who are

I've been stuck in a rut for years.  Working a long way from home, long hours, very stressful, underpaid, and, I've finally realised, neglecting my family and taking all my grief out on them. 

My wife's been stuck in a rut too.  Alone in the house, looking after the kids, depressed, realising she was nearing 40 and the kids were growing up and blaming me for everything.   

So we drifted. She hooked up with an ex, stopped talking to me, and  started a new life.  I got cross, got stressed, and had a total breakdown, exacerbated by several deaths in the family which I had to deal with.  I