Just thought I would write a quick blog to say that this week has been ok.

It is amazing how a few days without any abuse allows you to re-focus your attentions.

My problems and issues are still here and will not just go away, but they are so much easier to face when I can think straight.

As GeJay tells me to tell myself often "I am that strong, intelligent, beautiful woman and I am in control of my life".

The sun is shining; today is a "normal" day. Normal is good.

Can face today with a smile and a clear head; that has to be good.

Anyway, just thought I would share my positives with you, because

I haven't blogged here for a month.  Mostly, because I've been busy and haven't had time, partly because I haven't had net at home since moving house until a few days ago, so I've only been able to access this site at work, and have had technical problems until last night, but to a large extent because I haven't had anything much to say except "today was a good day".

Since my wife decided a month ago that our marriage was definitely over, I'm feeling really good about myself, and free from so many of the things that have been getting me down for the last five years or so.  I'm not working as

It's tough to be a single man having had to fight to be able to get married and then fight to get divorced.

The marriage

I'm a 20-something Londoner and I got married to a lady from Lahore, Pakistan in 2006 after we'd met in quite random circumstances. At the time, we were in love and my family and friends were deeply supportive of my relationship. The distance was the biggest problem and so I had to fly all my family to Pakistan so that I could get married in accordance with custom.

After having to spend thousands on the wedding and then another couple of grand to bring my wife to the UK