My husband wants to leave. I knew that - he'd mentioned it last week. He'd said then that he wanted to leave as it would help us reconcile. He'd mentioned earlier this week leaving to help him find himself. I had heard him - I just didn't get it. I don't exactly blame myself for that - I mean when leaving is mentioned in the same sentence as reconciling, who would know. And leaving to find himself, it's a bit vague. But Thursday night we talked, and I slowly realised that what he was actually talking about was leaving.

Separation, proper separation, has been on the table so long now, that I

Hi,

 I have been separated now for 18 months and am due for an FDR hearing in a couple of weeks. I am struggling to come up with a solution to meet my requirements and talk about not being able to see the wood for the trees!

Background - I am now 37 and have been unable to work for some time now due to Rheumatoid Arthritis and spinal problems. I am in receipt of Incapacity Benefit and DLA (low rate care, high rate mobility).

Marriage put me living 250 miles away from family and I now find that I am really struggling to cope alone, I don't need major help all the time but on those occasions that

Yesterday I spent a little time with an old friend - someone I have known since I was 18! Between us we have been through marriages, divorces, births and deaths, good times and very bad, riches and near-destitution.....so, we know each other pretty well. Anyway, we haven't seen each other for a while - and yesterday for the first time in a long while I felt like 'me' and started wondering how the hell I got to this point. My friend came back to the house to say Hi to the kids, and I realised that it was the first time in over 2 years that I had invited anyone home - and the fact that she made