Well, have spoken to the CSA this morning and they have confirmed he paid my CM this morning a week late.

Why does he do this? Power and control I guess. To cause me pain, to stress me out; why?

There is no other reason for it. My SM was paid into my bank account on Friday when he was paid, so why not the CM?

I now have to wait another 3 - 5 working days for my bank account to be credited with the money from the CSA, so even though I can now pay the mortgage it is going to be late. Something I don't need when my solicitor is currently writing to them to ask for their agreement to change the

Why does he keep doing this to me?

Checked my bank account today, no sign of monthly CSA payment, so I ring them and they say he hasn't paid and that they will chase it up. My mortgage payment is due on Monday and I am dreading having to phone them to say once again I can't pay because I am beholden to my ex-husband to make up a large amount of the mortgage payment. Without the money from the CSA it is a case of pay the mortgage or feed the children for the month.

It really is that simple!

He has contact with the children on Friday. Will he mention not paying, I doubt it and I won't because we

I contacted our old independent financial advisor over the weekend and asked if she could go over our pension info and give me some advice. She 1st gave us advice when my stbx was taking redundancy around 13 yrs ago, and she continued to do his 'books' when he set up in business. So, I reckon he must trust her too.

I went round to see her after work today. I called in home to pick up the details, to find a letter from scumbag waiting-at least this time he had forked out for a stamp, and posted it!! I decided not to open it, as he never has a positive effect on my state of mind these