My life is so surreal - like Alice (hence the title of this blog!), I feel sometimes like I am falling.....!! My stbx is busily ignoring the fact that he IS stbx, despite very clear conversations (or so I thought). He is also busy doing nothing - except exactly what he wants to do. A rather nice (for him) lazy lifestyle - his only occupation is fly-fishing (which is not a cheap hobby). I am working full-time, part-time studying, looking after the family and house, trying to help kids through uni..... Anyway, today he presented me with an invoice for fly-tying goods which took my breath away,

Hi,

 I have been separated now for 18 months and am due for an FDR hearing in a couple of weeks. I am struggling to come up with a solution to meet my requirements and talk about not being able to see the wood for the trees!

Background - I am now 37 and have been unable to work for some time now due to Rheumatoid Arthritis and spinal problems. I am in receipt of Incapacity Benefit and DLA (low rate care, high rate mobility).

Marriage put me living 250 miles away from family and I now find that I am really struggling to cope alone, I don't need major help all the time but on those occasions that

Yet another night of no sleep, kept awake due to the anger and frustration at the legal system’s discrimination and prejudice towards me just for being a father. When i first set out on this journey i read some other fathers story’s and thought they must be the exception to the norm, how very wrong was I.

It cost me a thousand pounds, just to be told I could not get residency of my children unless my ex was a drug addict who abused my kids. I was frowned upon just for even thinking for a moment that a father could possibly have his children live with him and bring . but its absolutely fine